What with hypocritical and jealous boyfriend

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I had recently an argument with my boyfriend. He was very upset about the dress I want to wear to go out. It was very elegant long dress, little bit with ethnic motives and deep cleavage. I like my body, I dont wear any kind of latex or glitzy short dresses. I like combination of elegance and sexy with proper materials. Usualy all my friends even boys said that they like what I wear, that it is sexy but not cheap looking.

It is not the first time he did something like that. But this time I said to him that it is hypocritical. And I reminded him situations where I went with him and where he was angry and told me that I look like slut.

Why I said to him that it is hypocritical? Because he still watches some naked girls on the internet, frequently goes on pornographic websites. Fact that he goes on porn websites even affects our sexual live because he cant sleep with me the day or even after day he does it. He is aware of this problém and admit it but he does nothing about it. So in general we have sex 1 or 2 times a week and we have been just over year together. He even downloads naked and xxx stuff of girl he actualy knows in person and maybe even had something with. I checked once his history browser after he forbid me to go on holiday with friends to Greece of jellousy. But I had to accept him leaving in winter with bunch of strangers to skiing while he didnt take me with him.

After I said to him the reasons why I think he is hypocritical, his reaction was. „What I do is different, because I look at strangers but you are my girlfriend and you will not go half naked out“

So I said to him that year ago I have checked his browser and I know about xxx stuff from girls he knows in person. And together with the fact how much time he spents and pornography and erotic content it is hypocritical telling me not to go out in dress I like or not to go on holiday, not to mention fact that you didnt even take me on holiday with you when I wanted.

So what do you think? Any advice how to solve this? How to communicate with him. How to explain him that I can respect him with clothes but he should also respect me? At the moment he just doesnt take it.

Pavla

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  • Dr_Remulak
    8 years ago

    This is such a simple solution, someone treats you like junk you just walk outta their life just thank God you dont have kids with him, and maybe your someone who is prone to being in co dependent relationships and if that's so, you have allot of soul searching to do, get bit torrent and search for an ebook called, how to dominate women, I know it seems a bit misogynistic but it actually can apply to both men and women and is a bible for how to act around the opposite sex and maybe you can find an explanation on how to counter that negative behavior and be the master in that relationship not the slave if you want to stay with him. He has to keep breaking you down in order to feel superior to you and I can bet you it just makes you more love sick remember, whoever calls off the relationship at the end was the one in control of that relationship. But honestly I'd just walk out of their lives. Ppl who are co dependent suck, but the majority of us are co dependent about something.

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  • Tealights
    8 years ago

    Eventually, you're going to have to end the relationship.

    It's not about hypocrisy, it's about respect. He neither sees you as a person, nor his partner. In his eyes, you're his property, and he made it very clear. "What I do is different, because I look at strangers but you are my girlfriend and you will not go half naked out," that basically means, "You are my girlfriend. You wear what I approve of. You hang out with whoever I think you should hang out with. What I do doesn't matter, because as the man I make the rules."

    I understand you love this guy, and probably had a lot of good times before he revealed his true self to you, but you can't sacrifice your self-respect and freedom for anyone, not even him.

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  • Ellenna
    8 years ago

    Leave him, he is a total hypocrite

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  • 53739
    8 years ago

    Maybe he is jealous that other guys will try to flirt with you when you are dressed in sexy clothing in public.

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  • Goku19
    8 years ago

    Well you can wear such dresses in home and capture the moments in your phone.

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  • snarkygirl
    8 years ago

    Most males like shokeing off their girlfriend cause it makes them feel confident. Your dude sounds confused or controlling or both. He may have unrealistic attitudes toward women you dress his you want and if he doesn't like it tell him to go find a nice Amish girl...oh wait Amish can't google porn.

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  • Pavla
    8 years ago

    But is this a reason to break up? Isnt there a way use clever words (which I cant find) to explain him the way he will understand and will do something about it?

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  • muh-fuh
    8 years ago

    Sounds like you're dating a little boy. Kick him to the curb.

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