What was your reaction?

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This has been bugging me. I was chatting to a girl I know in college a few weeks ago and we ended up talking about how she regularly gets her ass grabbed whenever she walks past a group of guys and she just ignores it. I understand that different people react to things differently but still I found her reaction unusual, is it not?
Ladies if you've ever had a stranger cop a feel what was your reaction?

hit him 2
screamed at him 8
called police 2
other(comment) 1
ignored him 5
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  • NeuroNeptunian
    8 years ago

    In my experience? It's because no one gives a fuck.

    Yell at him? Now you're making a scene. He's going to deny that he did it and now you're the crazy female yelling at the guy who "bumped into you".

    Hit him? Assault charge. He only bumped into you. What's wrong with you?

    Report him? Maybe he bumped into you. Oh, he did it more than once? What took you so long to report it? Must be a lover's quarrel. Either that or she enjoyed it until she stopped enjoying it. Must not have bugged her THAT much.

    I don't know where people keep meeting these feminist cops and DAs dying to peg any man who breathes on a woman wrong but I've yet to deal with one who I didn't have to beg just to file a police report. Why do you think DV shelters are such a thing? They wouldn't be if it was as simple as pick up phone and have him carted to prison.

    Even if the man isn't violent toward her in relatiation, oh look, now every student, employee etc. knows about the little slut who let him touch her until she got tired of him. Or hell, she comes back to her car and the tires are slashed. People can be fucking evil.

    The fact is that it just isn't taken seriously in many environments. Sometimes fighting this is harder than just acting like it didn't happen. I know all of this from experience. I highly doubt most people on this site would believe how hard I've had to fight to get people to fuck off when I had more witnesses than you'd need to convict someone of murder. People just don't care.

    To answer your question, I'd confront him depending on the situation. I pick my battles.

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    • theseeker
      8 years ago

      That's an interesting perspective, but I guess what bothers me is guys going around groping girls like it's acceptable and all good. It's fucked up that girls feel like they can't stand up for themselves in this situation.

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  • Tealights
    8 years ago

    I glare for a while.

    I've noticed when men touch a woman inappropriately, they're trying to get a reaction, whether it's angry or flirtatious. However, when I'm touched without permission, I immediately turn my head and glare for a while as I'm passing, like eye to eye contact. The smile on their faces will go away and they'll give you this fearful look like, "Oh shit is she going to cut my dick off later?" It's so damn effective, I love it.

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  • mypenisinyourmouth
    8 years ago

    That happened to me once. I didn't do anything and just started walking faster without looking back. Just to remove myself from the situation. Because I am small and a massive scaredy-cat.

    What would the alternative be? Yell at the person and, in doing so, cause a gigantic scene that will most probably make onlookers think ugly things about you?
    And yelling can escalate into physicality. You don't know what the frame of mind of a random ass grabbing stranger is.

    So there. Stone me. I'm scared. I walk away extremely fast and try find a big guy whom I can walk next to for a bit

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  • [Old Memory]
    8 years ago

    My immediate reaction would be to punch the asshole. What girl doesn't enjoy getting her ass grabbed but not by a complete stranger. I find her just ignoring it odd as well. Just tells me she obviously enjoys it to some degree.

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    • NeuroNeptunian
      8 years ago

      That's fucked.

      I'm usually a gung-ho little bitch and have no issues throwing down. Anyone who knows me can tell you that I hate physical contact. Period. I have fought people for touching me but I have, on occasion, been caught by surprise like a deer in the headlights. Some women just are not violent and shouldn't have to be.

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      • [Old Memory]
        8 years ago

        I'm just speaking from my point of view. If you touch me without permission you are going to get some type of reaction from me whether it be physical or verbally. I'm not saying that all women should react with violence. I didn't really make myself that clear in my previous comment either. If someone did that to me yes I would want to punch him. Nine times out of ten would I get physical probably not. But I'm not going to go on without making it very clear that that is not okay. If that makes me wrong so be it.

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        • NeuroNeptunian
          8 years ago

          Whoa, don't get the wrong idea. I am not saying that you are wrong for your reaction. What I find wrong is to just assume that a woman enjoys being groped because she hasn't done or said anything about it.

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          • [Old Memory]
            8 years ago

            :) Sorry didn't mean for it to come across that way.

            I just have such a hard time understanding how a woman wouldn't say anything. But that again is just from me knowing how I would react. I can see being caught off guard and initially not saying anything. But to just continue and say absolutely nothing is so strange to me.

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