What was the worst thing that happened to you?(girls)

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Statistically, almost a third of adult females have sometime in their life experienced some kind of sexual misbehaiviour-unfortunately, this statistic says nothing about the severity of the event, which left me wondering.
If you are a girl, what was the worst thing that happened to you yet? If not listed, choose whatever you feel is closest.

Nothing happened to me. 3
Someone groped/touched me in passing. 3
Someone flashed his stuff/masturbated in front of me. 2
Someone held me forcibly while touching me. 3
Forced sexual activity without intercourse. 2
Drugged/Date rape. 1
Forceful rape/assault. 2
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  • shade_ilmaendu
    11 years ago

    I'm not sure how to vote. A few things have happened in my life, but the worst was in the context of an abusive BDSM relationship in which I was often not allowed to say no or stop him from doing things to me. Doesn't really count as forceful rape becasue he never beat or threatened me, but it's not really date rape either... @.@

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    • TerryVie
      11 years ago

      hm. sorry if i don't fully understand, but isn't an important part of BDSM relationships to HAVE a safeword, a "stop" if things go beyond what one's ok with?

      In other words, i can see how in a BDSM relationship he is allowed to "use" you for his satisfaction without "no" being an option, heck, i'd even say thats normal from experiences i made...but always with the OPTION to break off whatever is happening.
      Did you not have a safeword, did he refuse to react to it, or did you just endure because he would have left you otherwise?

      As for me, the "worst" from the list probably was a date rape...only, he drugged me when i already agreed to come home with him expecting there to be sex. So, yeah, if i had NOT wanted to sleep with him, that would probably have turned ugly...still not acceptable of course, and thinking of other girls, i was really close to going to the police, but ultimately didn't.
      Still, it was weirdly more comfortable than a guy in a otherwise empty cinema that forced me to give him a handjob when i was a teenager.

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      • shade_ilmaendu
        11 years ago

        Erm, we didn't have a safeword, and I didn't know any better. I had previously been an innocent, sheltered christian kid. Got out of my faith, started frequenting different circles, met a guy on vampire freaks and he introduced me to BDSM. Only he abused the dom position and I didn't really know anything about it aside from what he told me.

        I stayed with him and endured it because he was kind of insane, I thought I could help him and that he honestly only did the things he did because he was stuck in these thought patterns (he had a lot of weird "rules" for everything).

        That was probably the worst because it was ongoing and coupled with a lot of emotional abuse (he was really manipulative). Though I feel what happened in college was more immediately traumatic. I was hooking up with a guy and he grabbed me and facefucked me til I puked.. but apparently he didn't mean it to be an assault, idk... >.O

        :( I'm sorry that happened to you, people are fucking creeps. And your first story, wtf was up with that guy? If you were already willingly going home with him, why would he even feel the need to do that...? ._. I'm not good at things to say.. *hugs*

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        • TerryVie
          11 years ago

          ah, ok, he really abused his position then...or possibly he also didn't know better- seems he was quite twisted, maybe it never occured to him that for comfort in a relationship the slave would NEED an option to break it off, even IF they never use it.

          I just tried to imagine myself in your position, and a lot of things i did would have been awkward and threatening instead of enjoyable if i had not had a safeword. So i feel for you on that one -_-

          As for the college guy, you already were sexual with each other or he just did that out of the blue? Like, what kind of jerk...did you try to fight back or have him stop?

          As for the guy from the first story, he lived in a student dorm near me, i didn't want to seem too easy, it was a party at that dorm...the reason for "going to his place" was to smoke some weed, listen to some music, chat a bit, then go back to the main party. He didn't exactly hide the fact he wanted to have sex though, but i didn't plan on acting on that before we were alone. So probably he did that out of some belief that i really only came for drugs and music.
          As said, was very close to reporting him to the police.
          That cinema-guy was a lot more traumatic. Had a knife and was about 30 years older. I still remember what he said. And teenager means young teenager -_-
          Aw well. Thanks a lot for the hug. I appreciate it. Aside from my current partner, you(and the rest of IIN that cares, obviously) are the only people i ever told that.
          But i guess you also need a hug!
          *hugs back*

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  • ccjigsaw
    11 years ago

    No comments yet? Yay! 1st poster. Worst thing for me. I was dating a creep who'm I didn't know was a creep at the time. He was very forceful and pushy about sex. He pressured me to do things I was not ready for. I broke up with him of coarse, but I still look back on it and get very scared..I don't really like talking about it. I know it's not as bad as some people out there, but that's my story.

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  • RomeoDeMontague
    10 years ago

    Women are pretty and men see women as objects. So yeah the statistics for sexual misconduct is probobly high.

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