What to say to people who ask about my old self harm scars?

I used to self harm a couple years ago, I have scars on my arm that are faded but still pretty visible. People ask me what they are any I don’t know what to say to them. Even my parents ask me, they know what I went through but sometimes they forget that I cut myself. It makes me very uncomfortable and nervous when people ask me. Especially when it’s people at my school. Do they not know it’s self harm? Do they know it is, but just ask to make me uncomfortable?

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  • donteatstuffoffthesidewalk

    tell em its from a jaguar attack

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  • Ellenna

    You could say "they're just scars" and change the subject. You don't owe anyone an explanation and it's possible telling people you used to self harm could be turned against you.

    I'm amazed that your parents are so insensitive that they've forgotten you used to do this: how long ago was it?

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  • raisinbran

    Put a tattoo over them.

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  • Z3R0

    "None of your business."

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  • Boojum

    So many people are nosy dickheads.

    Nobody has the right to know the story behind any scar on a person, and asking about them is insensitive and intrusive. It's really the same as asking an amputee how they lost a limb. Most people will be curious about that, but an intelligent person with a normal ration of empathy doesn't' fucking ask because it's very likely the person doesn't need to be reminded that their differentness is noticeable, they have the right not to be defined by that disability, and it's likely the last thing they enjoy is being asked to tell the story yet again and have to relive the event.

    Depending on your mood and how the question is asked, I think "None of your fucking business" would be a perfectly reasonable response.

    If that's a bit harsh, maybe go for "I went through a rough time a while back." Don't be reluctant to shut down the conversation or walk away if the asshat asks you for more details.

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    • DIO

      I don't think everybody is as dickish as you. She could just say "I don't want to talk about it" and not insult anyone just because they are curious.

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  • LifeIsWhatever

    Well, I think it's your choices if you want people to know, but I wouldn't I don't like being pitied, and people love to pity others. But it's your choices...oh, um if want to tell them something say you where in a car accident...I really don't know.

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  • Phoebe2005

    just wear long sleeves (: and if u find a bf and he doesnt want to be with u anymore cos u had a scar from cutting then he's probably not that nice anyway

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  • DIO

    We have to deal with our mistakes. Tell them whatever you feel like telling them.

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  • Iszzy123

    Make up a good story and stick to it

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  • Holzman_67

    My friend calls hers a railroad

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  • Wellyoudliketoknoweh

    Tell them self harm, but it’s fine now, everybody goes through stuff and deals with it differently. It’s better to be honest, that way u stay true to yourself
    If u can’t do that, say cats I guess. Half of mine are actually from my cat haha. Of course that also depends on the way u did it

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  • Clunk42

    Just say you used to do self harm, but then you stopped.

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    • Iszzy123

      It’s very dangerous to give the kids anything info like this that can be used against you make up an interesting story ppl love good story

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      • Clunk42

        "give the kids anything info like this"

        I don't understand.

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        • Iszzy123

          What I mean is to tell the kids the person did self hearm,

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  • litelander8

    Cover them up.

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  • thepeepeepoopooman

    I would just be a smartass and say "Scars" if they ask what they are. Depending on the tone they might get the hint that you don't want to talk about it.

    Some people are naive about that sort of thing, and will ask the first thing that comes to mind without thinking how you feel about it.

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  • TerriAngel

    Hopefully youre better now.
    Boojum nailed it.
    Some scars are internal, some are external.
    Yours are there to be seen.
    Its up to you how you handle it.
    I am confident you will find the right path.
    Once youve gone through those dark times.
    life isnt that hard.

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