What to do in this situation

Hey man. First off, I'm real sorry for this situation your being put in. it sounds like hell. But listen, my friend went through something very similar, only in this case my friend's the girl that was in an abusive relationship and was going to her friend, we'll call him Jake, for comfort and support. Anyways, my friend and i both agree that the way Jake handled the whole situation was utter perfection. So heres what he did; First, he listened. This was important because thats what will make the person want to be open with you. Second, he cared. If you don't care (tho i think you do) than don't bother the poor girl. Third, he comforted. My friend would go on and on about how good Jake was at comforting her (she loved the way he would hold her tight or rub her back), my advice is find out how your girl likes to be comforted (here are some common comforts; hugs, gently playing with her hair, rubbing her back, massages, cuddling, etc.). Forth, he was there. This was crucial because this showed she could count on him and thats important in any relationship or friendship. And lastly, he was patient. It took my friend months to get over her ex and even then she wasn't ready for a relationship, but Jake was kind, and patient, and eventually it paid off. Now they are together and they are the cutest couple ever. I applaud the way Jake handled the situation and I hope that you can find a similar outcome to yours.
Best of luck man. Hope everything works out. Any other questions or concerns feel free to ask me anytime.

In her current state she is unfixable. Keep your distance until she at least finds closure and can be able to move on from her past. There is no good future for the two of you with a past like that.

Thanks guys these all help a lot and emarmake I do care about her a lot I never get close to people and she's been one I my best friends for a long time. I just wanna do what will help her out .

Hey this is normal coming from a female. She is grieving and needs support. If you like her you need to confess to her greatly, but don't let the comfort become sexual encounters. If she is not ready for a relationship, then don't let her lead you on like that. My good friend was chasing a girl like this for 3 years and he finally gave up. I told him she was a lost cause because I've known many women like this who can't handle what an ex did to them. They just need support and comforting, but the sexual actions is stress relievers, but once you do it, you'll feel even worse because of why you did it. It's not out of love, and she knows that. That is why she is sorry. I just don't want you to get hurt bro because my friend is still recovering from that mean woman. If she isn't willing to become your girlfriend, don't wait on her okay? You go out and find others while she decides because there are tons of women and men out looking for love. If she is ready and when she is ready is up to her, don't push her since of her situation, but I think you should continue searching and wait for her decision while you do.

I hope this helps, best of luck to you.