What to do in this situation?

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Before someone gets all judgy hear me out first, I've known a guy my whole life, used to be friends with my older siblings.. He use to be our neighbour he's like 8 years older than I am. Okay so we sort of reconnected on my elder sister wedding and we had drinks and talked all night, nothing happened. But later on he called me and told me he has feelings for me now that i'm older and all that.. He currently is in a rocky marriage that's why he's been spending a lot of time away, going out most weekends. So the thing is am soo into this guy, I actually think I'm in love with him, I already told him, I can't do it, cant have an affair but I sort of regret it.. Can't help this crazy feelings, it's been a week of suffering cant stop thinking About him.. Can someone please tell what to do.. Please!! Should I tell him I like him or die in silence till all this feelings go away ?

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  • sillygirl77
    7 years ago

    You did the right thing, as you said he's married. I've heard and read that married men who cheat off string the mistress along and choose the wife in the end. I don't know if I heard or read wrong, but its certainly a possible ending that might have happened and would have brought you in even more pain than you're in now. So, you did the right thing by his marriage, by his wife and, by yourself!

    The pain will go away in time. I know that's not what you want to hear. In the meantime try going out and doing activities that will help take some of the focus off your pain. Any activity you like and spend time with good friends and family.

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    • cutegalsly
      7 years ago

      Great Advice.. Thanks.

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      • sillygirl77
        7 years ago

        You're welcome! :)

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  • wigz
    7 years ago

    A lot of married guys pull the 'woe is me' card to get female attention. Often they are outright lying and/or are the cause of their so-called marital problems. They say they are mistreated and getting divorced but this is a common lie. Always...ALWAYS...wait until they are divorced/officially seperated because all too often they are just bullshitting you for free pussy and have no intention of divorcing or they are simply a giant pile of shit that you wouldn't want to be with anyway. And on the off chance that the wife is legit crazy (or has been strung along by a husband promising to change), you don't want to deal with that either. Messing with a married guy is just not worth it and can definitely screw up your life big time either by him or his wife.

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  • mysistersshadow
    7 years ago

    If you want a relationship wait until hes not married.

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  • cutegalsly
    7 years ago

    Thanks, I know that already that's why I told him I can't do it.. The issue is getting over it..

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    • RoseIsabella
      7 years ago

      Well, I'm happy you told him no! It's not always easy to do the right thing, but in the end it's worth it. I would say that the best way to get over him is to steer clear of him, stay busy and distract yourself with other activities. In time your feelings will fade, and you'll find someone else who is much nicer, much more appropriate and single.

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