What to do about my boyfriend?

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I met him 6 months ago, and beneath this he is the most wonderful person...but I cannot put-up with this constantly!

When I do not reply (3 minutes to 1hour) he begins to spam-call me on the phone, on skype, on steam chat until I do reply. Even sometimes when I tell him I am busy. Then I tell him to stop and cut it out everytime and he calls me a jerk gets upset and vanishes for hours, we cant even talk about it.

Latest example, we were playing ragnarok ACE on PS3, I went to shift my speakers away (about 10 minutes) so we could keep playing, he started spam calling on skype and phone. I told him about speakers and asked him to stop, we fought about it and he has not talked to me since.

This is CONSTANT! to him it is "normal" if not I am ignoring him, My attention is always his. He even gets iffy when Im talking to other guys.

I admit, I am not perfect...but this is beyond normal & I dont want to just leave him but he wont accept the fact this is a major problem on his end and just calls me jerk and a*hole and all those nice names when I complain about this.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    I don't think this one is a "keeper". If he is this clingy now, can you imagine how extraordinarily duct tapey he'll be soon? Sounds like he has a bad temper and he's terribly immature. I think you should run like hell before he hits you or worse.

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    • Darkoil
      9 years ago

      I agree.

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  • DubstepismyMJ
    9 years ago

    He's judgement is obviously clouded. Ill be honest, Ive been in that shitty position before, i hated it, i hated what ive become. I hate how clingy i was. I didn't even knew i could become so clinging.I knew but it was uncontrollable at the time. I couldn't figure out what to do. Or what was wrong with me at that time.

    It all stems from insecurity. One word but filled with so much negative things inside him.

    So you can do one of two things leave him. This will hurt like a bitch, but with that pain and time, he might begin to question what went wrong? He will face his insecurity right in the eye, and one of two things will happen, he will yield to it, or overcome it.

    Or take matters into your own hands.
    you cannot convince him the error of his ways by yourself trust me. He NEEDS to see an outside opinion of your relationship. Someone he can trust and has a good grasp of your relationship. Someone who cares about you and him. Someone unbiased.

    Ill be honest though it might be easier to leave him. But if you do be completely honest about why you left him. Don't lose your cool. He truly needs to hear your last words. It will mean the most. He needs to reflect upon it.

    Goodluck sorry for the novel

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    He sounds like a pussy needy bitch.

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  • peaceandlovebro
    9 years ago

    I hate those kinds of men. They're just not worth it. I'm a man by my wife has told me horror stories!

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  • Anonymouse69
    9 years ago

    That's not normal at all. Clingyness now can get a whole lot worse if you continue dating. Dump him and move on with your life!

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  • Nokiot9
    9 years ago

    He sounds either really controlling or really obsessed with u. If he won't stop when u tell him, what else can u do?

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  • SaskiaR
    9 years ago

    He sounds extremely clingy. Talk to him about it again and if he doesn't change his behaviour, I say break up with him. You deserve someone who loves you, but doesn't need you every second of the day.

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  • disthing
    9 years ago

    That level of clinginess and neediness is suffocating.

    I personality couldn't be in a relationship like that.

    If you can, you need to discuss it with him calmly and rationally. Explain how his behaviour isn't normal, and is damaging your relationship with him.

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  • redfastlad
    9 years ago

    he is a wanker drop him and move on

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  • Sog
    9 years ago

    If it's been going on for 6 months than there is nothing you can do to correct this behavior. Actually you should have given up after a few weeks. It sounds like he is not only very inexperienced in relationships, but extremely needy and insecure.

    This may be his only flaw and otherwise he is perfect, but it's obviously a dealbreaker for you so that is that. Don't make the mistake of trying to invest more time to "fix" him. It just can't be done.

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  • Fall_leaves
    9 years ago

    Try to reason with him, if that doesn't work take a break and meet up in a couple months and see where things stand. That's definitely an issue he has to deal with on his part. A lot of that could stem from his own insecurities and trouble with trust. He may have felt some betrayal in the past that is unrelated to you and it still affects him

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