What sort of relationship do you believe in?

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I'm a total monogamy man myself. If a relationship is strong I stick with it through thick and thin. Unless there is cheating involved or other such terrible things.
What about you?
As a side note: If you are a monogamous person in a relationship that very rarely tries sexual encounters with more people I'd personally say that would classify you as polygamy, even if it was only once every 5 years.

Total monogamy. One person for life and one person only 56
Serial monogamy. Several long term partners, one at a time 63
Polygomy. Several partners at once 15
Hypergamy. Selecting partners for their higher socioeconomic status 4
Endogamy. Selecting partners of your social group, religion or status 5
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  • TerryVie
    11 years ago | pl

    I choose polygamy because of your added explanation.

    HOWEVER, i want to add that i am in a open relationship...with _ONE_ partner.
    I love her, she loves me, we live together, we care for each other, think of each other all the time, have plans for the future together(going as far as that once we eventually want children, i will have one and she will have one)- in other words: we are more serious about one another than many monogamous couples out there.

    Just because we live an open sexuality(she with other women, me with other men and women) enriching our lives, does by no means mean that i'd love her any less, care for her any less or value her any less. We are going through thick and thin, we had bad times(job lost, flat cancelled, etc...) already, too.

    Of course everybody is entitled to their own wishes, opinions and thoughts. But i would still wish people would at least TRY to see that how people live their sexuality has only VERY little to do with wether a relationship works or not.
    I've known couples that were all faithful but still got divorced, others that were cheated on but only grew closer in response, and yet others like us that don't demand faithfulness but still love each other no less.

    There's so many more things, like emotional binding, reliance, trust, closeness, etc....that are exclusive to a relationship. Sex does not HAVE to be, if you have all those other things with one another.

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    • Mmmpfh
      11 years ago

      As I said I'm a totally monogamous person but that doesn't mean other people should be. I added that sidenote because I didn't want people selecting monogamous who were technically a bit polygamous inclined.
      I think it's great and even respectable that you have a relationship like that. If you can share each other sexually then I think that's great. I just don't think I'm capable of handling the jealousy myself but who knows, maybe someone will convince me to try it someday :]
      I do think sexuality has a good bit to do with relationships though not to the degree of some people. My partner doesn't need to be good in bed at all but I did to find her personally attracted. But that's a given for any man that truly loves his partner anyway!

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  • shuggy-chan
    11 years ago

    I like to go into a room full of females and then whip my dick out and spin around till it touches one of then or i vomit, then whoever i touch or it pointing at, is the girl ill hit on

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    • charli.m
      11 years ago

      Hot.

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  • NocturnePonyFan
    11 years ago

    I'm all for serial monogomy. I can't imagine myself settling down with one person for the rest of my life. I believe everyone has several people that are meant for them. Not that "there's one soulmate for everyone" bullshit.
    However, if anyone is completely happy being with the same person for the rest of their lives, then more power to them. I just can't see myself doing that. I tend to get really bored after the 2nd or 3rd year.

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    • Mmmpfh
      11 years ago

      I agree with that. I don't believe there is "the one soulmate". I believe that there are many, but if I find one then I'll happily settle for her and disregard the rest, hence I'm monogamous.

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  • IceEye22
    11 years ago

    I choose monogamy not just because its what I believe is right. But what kind of life is going through person by person knowing that they will move on? Where is the unconditional love? Where is the committed compassion?

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  • Marisol
    11 years ago

    I am the same as you.

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    • sassafrassi
      11 years ago

      Ditto

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      • NeuroNeptunian
        11 years ago

        Yerp.

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  • shade_ilmaendu
    11 years ago

    Just to make a small correction, polygamy is a man having multiple wives. The word you're looking for is polyamorous.

    My bf and I are both polyamorous, but we consider our relationship to be the most important and the one that we really dedicate our time and emotions to.

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    • flutterhigh
      11 years ago

      That's not true. Etymology time!

      "poly" - many, often
      "gamos" - marriage
      "amor" - love
      "gyne" - female
      "andros" - male

      Polygamy is a marriage between more than two partners, regardless of gender.
      Polygyny refers to a man with many wives/female partners.
      Polyandry refers to a woman with many husbands/male partners.
      Polyamory is love between many partners, regardless of legal marital status.

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      • shade_ilmaendu
        11 years ago

        Woo, thank you professor flutterhigh. And they say you can't learn anything on forums ;p

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  • Justsomejerk
    11 years ago

    I believe they all exist, except maybe the first one.

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  • Accelerated-Reader
    7 years ago

    If anybody ever tries to say they have an "open marriage" or just friends with benifits, don't get involved with them. guys like will smith and porno faggots like mike think they have any right to hate me when they whore their fucking wife out to hundreds of guys. Those kind of guys are used to being the coolest because their scripts on tv force people to laugh at their corny jokes: " o goddamn baby you been running threw mah mind ALL DAY AHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!

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  • alextsang08
    9 years ago

    None.

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  • Bucks#1
    11 years ago

    I support polygamy. I would want to have more than one wife.

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  • mae94
    11 years ago

    anything except Total monogamy is kinda sad.
    Serial monogamy is the most sad of them all.

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  • qwerty098765
    11 years ago

    I think this poll should probably have more options.
    I went for polygamy though, since I don't mind open relationships. I'm not the one engaging with other people though because I don't feel the need to, but I like to leave my partner his freedom so I'm not sure if "polygamy" is really an accurate way to describe this.

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    • Mmmpfh
      11 years ago

      I know what you mean but creating this poll I just added the ones I knew. I know of hypogamy, hypergamy and endogamy aswell but they didn't seem too relevant since I was focusing more on sexual orientation for this poll

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      • qwerty098765
        11 years ago

        Well, if it's about sexual orientation then I'd say serial monogamous.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    I don't believe in any of them.

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  • ccjigsaw
    11 years ago

    I suppose I'm serialmonogomy, but not by choice. I'd rather just be with one person for the rest of my life, but somehow that's just not how it worked out

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    • Mmmpfh
      11 years ago

      I'd classify you as monogamous then. By your logic I'd be serial monogamy aswell, but none of it was ever my choice.

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  • Captain_Kegstand
    11 years ago

    I am a total monogamy type of guy, although if you look at my dating past, it would look more like serial monogamy. My issue is that I really want to find a woman that I can spend the rest of my life with, but all of the ones I have started dating have turned out to be cheaters.

    My last relationship was 2 years, then she cheated w/ 4 guys. The one before that was 364 days, then I caught her in bed with another guy. The one before that was 7.5 years, then I caught her in bed with another guy that was literally twice her age. I just need a good girl that wont cheat!

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    • Saycheese
      11 years ago

      Awe.

      You'll for sure find the right girl for you. :)

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    • Mmmpfh
      11 years ago

      That's really sad. :[
      I totally feel for you, man.

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    • Anime7
      11 years ago

      I'm sorry to hear about your past relationships. But I'm sure that you'll meet a nice girl someday.

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      • Captain_Kegstand
        11 years ago

        Got my fingers crossed!

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  • BlueAlice
    11 years ago

    Polygamous at heart, but I've always been attracted to monogamous people. Cheated on both serious relationships - so far - once.

    I could do it again in my current one, but I seriously doubt I will/would/could.

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  • Uzzie101
    11 years ago

    Serial monogamy, but wouldn't you be aiming for total monogamy for them?

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    • Mmmpfh
      11 years ago

      Well some people might find a "Mr/Mrs Now". A partner they want for a few years that they dedicate themselves to but not for life.
      Though some people do aim for total monogamy and unfortunate circumstances drive them apart.

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      • Uzzie101
        11 years ago

        I find that hard to understand, so there are people who, in fact, start a relationship with someone, with intentions of breaking up with them after a year or two? How..conceited.

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        • Mmmpfh
          11 years ago

          Ya I know. Sounds wierd. But just as long as BOTH partners know this is the case it's fine. If someone uses another, leading them to believe the relationship will be alot more than it is then that's a serious issue.

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          • Uzzie101
            11 years ago

            That's the perspective I had. But still if both individuals are aware they're not going to try keep each other, then why bother?

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            • Mmmpfh
              11 years ago

              Well maybe they have someone in mind that they can't be with so they date other people, settling for a current but ultimately temporary partner. That's SORT OF the situation with my ex. She wanted to be with me but it wasn't really possible (due to distance and differences in life), so she's currently dating elsewhere but unless she finds someone who will change her mind she wants me to be her life partner. Whether or not I would accept that is another thing though.

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