What should i do with him?

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I recently left the guy I have been with (not officially together) but I just disappeared without even telling him because I have had enough of his BS. Its gonna be a week since we last saw and talked to each other and he hasn't contacted me at all. Idk if its because he's waiting for me to text him so he's just keeping his pride up or he doesn't give a damn. I feel like we're just on the same page right now waiting for the other to text first because the last time we saw each other, we left an argument thinking the other is at fault so we're just expecting the one "who's at fault" to make the first move. I'm just having mixed feelings about what to do about this. Idk if I should just leave it like this and wait until he texts me first because its really him who needs to make the extra effort OR just text him to see him and talk to express how I feel about our whole situation just for my own piece of mind. It sucks how he lacks communication skills so idk if thats the reason why he's not contacting me and not having the balls to make a move or like I said he really doesn't care. If I knew for sure he didn't care, then I wouldn't bother texting him but since I'm not, I would wanna text him in order to not move on with "what if" cause that's not moving on. But I always give in because I love him and only want him. This time though, it really is final with how I feel about his BS. But as an anxious person, I want everything to be at peace and secure and the only way I can move on is by texting him and seeing him. But I'm afraid of looking weak again because he knows that I like him so much, he doesn't have to put in effort since I always will. Idk I'm stuck especially tht he's moving out to a further location so it won't be easy to see him like before. I only have like this week. I get these bipolar feelings where one minute its for sure I don't need his crap so I shouldn't bother contacting him then the next minute I'm feeling insecure like I should text him to have a piece of mind and satisfaction. Idk what to do...text him or leave it?

Don't give in anymore, don't text him, leave it 8
Text him to talk and leave him in a peaceful way 10
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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    I'm not sure if I understood all this but it sounds like you left him without notice because you weren't getting along.

    If that is so then what's the point of going back? I see no reason to contact him and it will only look like you are fucking with him by pretending to leave.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      I am kind of fucking with him to pretend like I'm over him but obviously I'm not. Yet, I am trying to force myself to leave but its obvious I'm having trouble.

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  • Queenofheartsx3
    9 years ago

    I'm the same way and I don't necessarily think you should make amends but I do think you should share your feelings with him just for your own peace of mind. It will probably make you feel better and give you the closure you need to relieve your anxiety.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      That's what I am leaning towards but I'm giving it some time. I can't wait too long tho because time is running out. Why shouldn't I make amends with him though?

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      • Queenofheartsx3
        9 years ago

        If you left him there must be a reason right?

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          9 years ago

          Yes but that's why I feel comfortable to talk to him because I know where my feelings stand for him now. Although ya I still love him deep inside, I have this hate for him so there's no way I'm gonna let myself go again for the millionth time. I'm aware of how he could be or react if I said I wanted to see him so if I get rejected well at least I tried and I won't feel like "what if."

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    wait till he texts and text back , glad of his friendship

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  • Fall_leaves
    9 years ago

    Patch things up, everyone goes through ups and downs in relationships. Just take the high road and clear the air, if he hasn't texted you in a week he's probably doing the same thing you are, pretending not to care.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Sigh...I think I am. At this point, I am just going to be the bigger person who texts first and when I do, I'm just going to be honest about where I stand which is I just want to end things on good terms. This whole thing with him meant a lot to me that I don't want to just end it this way and throw it away. Regardless if he cares or not, I'm going to do what will make me satisfied and happy.

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