What should i do to forget the guy that i love?

unfriend him on facebook and never stalk his facebook anymore 99
pray to god 38
tell him my feelings 55
don't look at him whenever i see him 16
just get him out of my mind 61
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  • Ronan

    The only Way to forget about a crush is to realise that there are more where that came from.
    You single
    Y U No Mingle?

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  • dappled

    Avoid him. Every time you think of him, think of something else. Don't have any communication. Treat him like a disease and go into quarantine. Keep asking yourself the question: "Am I really believing that I'll live my life never seeing this person again?" When you finally get to the point where you think you can answer this with a yes (and believe yourself), then you're close. But you're still not safe. Keep doing it a bit longer. You'll get there. And if you slip and reinstate contact, it's a backwards step and all you are doing is prolonging your suffering. It's time to think of yourself. Not him.

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    • flutterhigh

      Avoidance is not escape. That's a short term solution that still revolves around HIM. The harder you try not think about pink elephants, the more that image will pop into your head.

      What you really needs to do is put yourself in a situation where pink elephants are not of your concern. Focus on yourself and how you don't need to be dependent on external validation - have fun by yourself or with friends, not because you just need a distraction, but because you actually want to. You don't need to train yourself to have some Pavlovian disgust response to him, and you don't need to roll behind trash cans every time you see him. You just need to become comfortable enough with yourself that even if it hurts, it doesn't hurt enough to ruin you.

      If this sounds to difficult to you, then fine, treat him like a disease and watch the cycle restart over and over again. But to become independent of external validation, to not have your self-esteem rely entirely on others, to learn to love yourself - THAT is the real cure for this. Everything else is just a painkiller.

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      • smilingchild

        thank u so much :)

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      • Thank you.

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        • flutterhigh

          Don't thank me, I'm just your friendly neighborhood Flutterhigh.

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          • Well thank you friendly neighborhood Flutterhigh.

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      • davesumba

        actually completely getting my GF out of my mind and not thinking about her for a while is how i got over her. i eventually forgot what the feelings i had for her were like, and i could talk to her again without it stirring up the severe anxiety it caused me before.
        but u are right, you need to focus on something else as well.

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      • dappled

        Hmm... strange question in response to this, but what's the square root of 64?

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        • flutterhigh

          7.9 repeating. Are you taking an IQ test right now? Stop cheating. Speaking to me alone will unfairly boost your score.

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          • dappled

            It was a trick. The answer is 8, but the answer is also -8. I think I was trying to say that sometimes there is more than one right answer. I'm amazed I even remembered where I was going with this.

            I must spend way too much time thinking about you.

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            • flutterhigh

              My answer was a trick too. 7.9 repeating is equal to 8.

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        • 53739

          the square root of 69 is 8 something right because I've been trying to work it out

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    • lilblueguy

      I agree.

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  • hoping4best

    There is a lot of gud advice given by other people. I dont really have to add much..but what worked for me (and has always got me landed in another pit ;p ) was to INTENTIONALLY develop interest in some other guy. I mean there must be atleast 2 or 3 guys around u who'd be eye candy :P BUT then plz do what i've never done myself n thus have suffered on going pain.. That is, once you've accomplishd having a crush on another guy 'Stop Right There' to break the cycle! :o dont start stalking this new guy,lol. And then i m very hopeful that the pain u felt because of the 1st guy would have gone (almost) by then. :) stay happy. Stay hopeful.

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    • smilingchild

      thanks.. wow,intentionally develop interest?hahah.. i'll try..

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  • Kill him.

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    • I second that.

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      • :)

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  • Go out and have fun, don't talk to him unless he talks to you first, flirt with other guys, find a new hobby and stick to it. Just do whatever makes you happy!

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    • llgaines

      Great advice!

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  • KeddersPrincess

    Murder him. It's what I did.

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  • sunny_wantsome

    Get more close to him and then finally you will get annoyed and forget him

    The more you try to forget someone, the more you remember them

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  • Nomis2779

    It'll pass, you just have to give it time. I've been there before, time heals all wounds. You just have to go about your daily life and eventually he will be out of your head. Of course there will be times when the thought of him will cross your mind but that's only normal. We all deal with love and break ups at one point in our lives, it's a part of life. My opinion is though avoid all contact, that means phone calls, text messages, any social media. You will be fine I promise, go about your life, there's much to live for. Good luck to you!

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  • bobbert

    Avoid him. I loved this girl and we were together for like a year, then we broke up and everything. I was sad about her and always thinking of her everyday and even had lots of dreams about her... how did I forget?

    I avoided her and went out and had fun. I found another girl and we just cuddles and talked. And although it never went further, it made me realize "ok there is other people out there just as good as her" and from that day on I didn't care nearly as much until it went away.

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  • Orangepeelx

    Ocupy yourself with a hobby like reading, singing, acting, sport anything! If you really want to forget him then try to spend more time out with friends, relaxing, having fun or window shopping x i know how you feel and it does take a while but if you consume yourself with something eventually He will become the last thing on your mind, for me my saviour was Photography, English, History, Acting and Music. :) good luck x

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  • DefJay

    Out of sight, out of mind. When you don't meet him a lot or stalk him on Facebook, you'll stop thinking about him. If you are FORCED to see him everyday, because you work with him, he goes to your school or you share the same friends, try to ignore him when you do see him!

    Good Luck!

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  • kinklu

    Join the French Foreign Legion?

    There are, at least, three women that I'll never forget about. I can see that now and it isn't bad. Time heals but it isn't always fast enough. My first wife (now deceased), whom I didn't appreciate fully at the time, will always be a part of me. Maybe that's a form of immortality.

    I'm neither an expert nor even a female. My only offer of immediate help is to find a replacement. If you can manage this, you will find it difficult to grieve over him while in the arms of your new interest.

    I see some good advice above with which I agree. What ever you do, don't stay home and brood about him.

    Hmmm! Why do I keep thinking about pink elephants.....?

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  • ucipher8

    Cut him out' hide up for a bit and then comeback with a new identity and personality. If he sees you or tries to talk to you in the future, ignore him and act like you dont know him!

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  • livefastdieold

    break up sex then join a sorority.

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  • go out and bang lots of other guys

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  • mizeka

    What to do to forget? O.o Well, how do people usually forget stuff? By thinking about other things! Do that, fixed.

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  • sugarbunny772

    ice cream<3 does it everytime for me =)

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  • theytookthisone

    Cut ties with him, and yea if that means unfriending him or deleting his number do it.

    After that, occupy your time with more productive things than sitting around moping.

    I'd say it's alright to feel down about it for a week, but gradually you should start feeling better after that.

    A lot of other good advice on the other comments too

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  • Ab09

    Try going out with your friends, or talking to someone new to take your mind off of your ex bf.

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