What should i do about my young niece?

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last night i was browsing facebook and discovered some racy pictures of my niece. no i didn't wack off to them, even though they are sexualized pictures, she is my sister's daughter.

my dilemma: do i tell her mom?

i don't think my niece realizes the implications of what she has done. i don't think she's had sex yet. i don't even know if what she did is legal, maybe it is child pornography because she is not legal yet. i'm in shock that she would do something so stupid because she's normally so much better than that, smarter than that.

she needs some adult advice, but from her mom or from me? i'm a guy.

sorry about no capital letters, i spilled juice on my laptop.

talk to her mom and let the mom deal with her 84
talk to her yourself - i will make suggestions how below. 43
leave her to discover the nasty consequenses on her own 21
lock her up until she is of age 10
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  • LookSomeonesWelding
    12 years ago | pl

    sure, you spilled juice on your laptop........

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    If she's one of those silly teens that has her fb page open to everyone, then I think a little embarassement would be a good thing.

    Why don't you just send her a private message telling her that some of your workmates were talking about her pictures and you overheard them - so checked it out!! Tell her some of the men are a bit scary and you are afraid that she might be raped or attacked by one of them. She needs to know that this can really happen and a little fear would be good for her. Warn her that photos are forwarded to pedos and to lads' friends and she will destroy her own future. Tell her that if she deletes them you won't tell her mom - but do tell her mom but swear her to secrecy, as you've dealt with it. But her mom needs to be aware of what she's up to and how immature she actually is.

    My brothers and sisters are all friends of my son and I am friends with all my nieces and nephews. Usually I deal with things myself but inform my siblings what I've done - just so they are aware of what's going on.

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    • wigsplitz
      12 years ago

      I agree, I think he should say something to the effect of others (perverts) seeing the pics....maybe strike some fear into her. Plus showing her real news reports of real girls who had terrible things happen due to this may teach her a lesson.

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  • wigsplitz
    12 years ago

    You could report the pics to facebook, maybe they'll take them down especially because she's underage.

    Maybe even send her info about girls who have had terrible things happen due to racy pics-stalkers, employers finding out, rapes, murders, how she could get in trouble for child porn, etc.

    If that doesn't work, and it should, but if it doesn't then talk to her mom. She could be ruining her life before it's even started.

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    12 years ago

    since you've said she's not legal yet, tell her mother.

    her mom needs to keep aware of what her underage child is doing online

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    • wigsplitz
      12 years ago

      Telling mom right off may backfire....some moms don't care, or they don't know how to 'fix' the situaton. I think striking fear into her by other means first may work better.

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      • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
        12 years ago

        if her mom doesn't care then there's not much you can do.... all the other scare tactics will only infuriate the mother.

        if you don't want to do that then report her to FB for TOS violation

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  • ccjigsaw
    12 years ago

    Honestly! I think any family member would be offended by that, and probaby say something, I highly doubt she would hate you for commenting and saying how innapropriate it is. And if she doesn\t care, by all means tell her mom lol She needs to be taught a lesson

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  • tacotuesday
    12 years ago

    Yeh tricky situation. I think let the mum talk to her about it, she would probably feel very uncomfortable talking to you about it. But mayb that uncomfortable feeling would be good for her to make her relise that all sorts of differnet people can view these pictures.

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  • chocolatchaud
    12 years ago

    i think you should confront her mother discuss it with her on how to deal with this. her mother can tell you if she wants you to confront her daughter as well.

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  • Gelmurag
    12 years ago

    Talk to her mom, and offer support if the mother wants it. Sometimes it takes someone she doesn't live with to get the point across. It might also be better to have a male throw some perspective into it. If the mother does take you up on the offer to help her speak to her daughter, it might be nice to throw some "this is how guys think, and what they would do" type of thing into it. Two is always better than one.

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  • JoeyB123
    12 years ago

    Just let her get on with it man. Girls go through periods of this kinda shit. Also, does she have her mum as a friend on facebook?

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    • Kittkats
      12 years ago

      I agree girls go through periods like this all the it i bet it wont last long.

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    • Lynxikat
      12 years ago

      I'm a girl. And I never posted racy pictures of myself on facebook.

      And who cares if this is a "phase"? What if some pedophile saw her fb pictures, and fapped to them?

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      • JoeyB123
        12 years ago

        Hahaha! You really just used the word fapped outside the context of a joke. Also, I think the whole paedophile thing is played up massively. The chances are fairly minimal lets be honest. And even if one did, what would the real damage be?

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        • Lynxikat
          12 years ago

          So you're saying that you wouldn't mind so grossly ugly, middle aged, over weight, disgusting pedophile to masturbate to the pictures of an underaged girl? You honestly see nothing wrong with that?

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          • JoeyB123
            12 years ago

            I hope you're a troll.

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            • Lynxikat
              12 years ago

              Funny, I was thinking the same thing about you. I'm sorry that my reasons for thinking an underaged girl shouldn't post racy pictures of herself on fb are sooooo unreasonable and sooooo completely and utterly stupid.

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  • lc1988
    12 years ago

    This is something she'll need to learn on her own. All confronting her will do is just cause an argument and nothing accomplished.

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  • LookSomeonesWelding
    12 years ago

    ive never had to deal with this kind of thing - but i think you should tell her mom first and see what she decides to do about it. maybe they can have like a girl to girl talk or something -

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  • Kittkats
    12 years ago

    Talk to her about it first then after you have had a talk
    with her tell her mom what she has done and that the two of you had a talk about it as well.

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  • graphic_nature
    12 years ago

    I say you talk to her mom about it and let her talk to her, then you talk to her too on a separate occasion. When her uncle talks to her about it, it will be more embarrassing then just parent advice. She doesn't seem to realize her FAMILY is capable of seeing these pics not just her little crushes. If she continues to do it then leave it to her mom. When she hits 18 she can do what she wishes.

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  • rin
    12 years ago

    I don't know about telling her yourself even with her mom there. If I were her I'd feel really embarrassed that my uncle saw me naked! I would never be able to look at you again for awhile. Just tell your sister about it and have her handle it.

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    • graphic_nature
      12 years ago

      They weren't naked pictures, just racy. I think the embarrassment would do her a little good. She needs to realize everyone of her friends and family shes added can see this, and one day it might be her bosses and coworkers and that would be worse!
      When I was in college a classmate got expelled for something he posted on facebook and was not allowed access to the campus or his tuition money to be refunded. What you post online has real consequences and you shouldn't wait till it's too late to learn that lesson.

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      • wigsplitz
        12 years ago

        Yeah, find stories of girls who fucked up their lives over some dumb sexy pics. She could be branded a pedo for life, or worse, get raped or stalked....not good.

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        • graphic_nature
          12 years ago

          Yes, or she would just lose people's respect. I know when I browse social networks and see half-naked drinking pics of someone that I thought was intelligent, I lose some respect for them.

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  • Darkoil
    12 years ago

    Go to her first and explain to her why you feel she should take them down, if you grass on her she may resent you. You say they are racy but in all fairness if they are not nude then i dont see what the big deal is.

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  • Avant-Garde
    12 years ago

    Get her to delete the photos of her account or you could inform her about the privacy controls. That or she'll have to realize the consequences.

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  • skyliner35
    9 years ago

    If u say anything ur niece more likely wont talk to u again ur choice

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  • Allistalla
    11 years ago

    talk to her and tell her the issues of it . tell her mom if it continues.

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  • BrendioEEE
    11 years ago

    God something is seriously wrong with this generation teens think its cool to be slutty I mean just wow. Ask her if she has sucked a dick if her answer is anything but no then shes a ho :P

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  • misslogical
    12 years ago

    Tell your sister what's going on but tell her to not mention that youre the one that snitched

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  • sprite
    12 years ago

    Ask her if she'd forgotten she had you added on fb, no need to go into details she'll probably get the hint, then tell her to sort it out before you tell her mum. If she does then fine, otherwise go tell her mum.

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