What should i do about my parents?

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I am a 24 year old woman. I left home when I was 15 and never lived with my parents again after that. I wasn't abused or mistreated. But I never went to school but had a very pathetic loose "home school" situation, that was conducive to my parents traveling lifestyle. I stopped studying around 8th grade. This has since made it difficult for me in college. My parents don't reach out to me at all they never call me, or ask me how things are doing even though I had a baby at 18. Never ask about boyfriends or if I have a job or if I am going to school or anything! They will send an email about 1 time per year, usually a one liner. They send a happy birthday email about 1 time every 3 years. When I became a single mom with a very difficult spouse (I told them) they never asked me how I was doing or offered me financial help. Only one time my mom gave me some money after I begged her and told her a few of the horror stories I was going through. I am successful and finished school and managed being a good mom without any of their help. Sometimes I miss them and want their love, but it's like they just don't care. After so much now I am just sick of it and want to erase them from my life. I don't feel like I have parents.If I get married I don't want my fiance to ever meet them. I am a soft person and sensitive and they have hurt me so much by lack of care. I am so close to my daughter and involved in every detail of her life, the same is with my friends, boyfriend and his family.. they are my new family. Is it fair to leave them out of my life? It's not like they care to be a part of it anyway. I don't hate them, I love them is a forced blood sort of way, which find painful because I continuously get hurt for loving them and them not returning. IIN?

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  • jacobkyle
    12 years ago

    I actually know how you feel. When I was younger coming back from school they never asked me how my day was or anything. My dad watches television all day and my is just always in a grumpy mood. I can never talk to them about anything because I was never taught confidence or self-belief because they never had time but they had time to go out and to leave me home alone and get drunk and start arguing. I'm the younger son, therefore all eyes on the oldest. I was left out but I'll just erase them out of my life, they wont even know I'm their son anymore.

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  • beastiessister
    13 years ago

    I FEEL for u I really do. It must have been hard living like that I went through the same thing with both my parents also. But you need to think about it for a while life is short and you only get one chance maby you should ignore them for awhile. and then come over explain how you feel and tell them that you've had enough of it. If they show any emotion or seem hurt maby it's worth a shot to give them another chance but if they just ignore you again then it's probly best to just leave them out of your life. By the sound of it they are complete assholes but that dosn't mean they dont love you. It's your choice on whether you want tosee them or not and I wish you good luck you deserve it! ;)

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  • BoredGuy
    13 years ago

    Your parents are selfish assholes. Erase them from your life. Most important when they become so old that they can't "travel" anymore and ask you for help tell them to fck off you dont have parents.

    or tell them how you feel about it now, then add "fck off assholes".

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  • caoraglas
    13 years ago

    Thats terrible i feel so sorry for you. No you shouldnt have to try include them they should be in your life because they want to. Concentrate on your new family i hope eveything works out for you.

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