What should i do?:(

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I met a guy about a month ago, for me being shy we instantly clicked. He says he is shy too and lacks confidence. We try to meet in the same place every week where we met. I added him on Facebook and started messaging him, I always started the convasation. I've been speaking to him and meeting as friends for about a month now, and I like him. The thing is he's only messaged me twice first and is giving me mixed signals.

For example, he invited me round sometime in the future, he flirts, he tries to keep the talking going when we do talk.. But then sometimes he'll be off with me, and he told me he was on a dating website I'm like hello?! Open your eyes! I'm here!! I want to talk to him so much but I'm scared I'm annoying since I have to always message first. I guess he doesn't like me and I must be annoying :( otherwise he'd make an effort :(

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  • disthing
    9 years ago

    This isn't really an 'Is It Normal' question...

    Just saying.

    "I'm like hello?!"

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  • handsignals
    9 years ago

    Watch The Lego Movie

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  • PulvisEtUmbra
    9 years ago

    Being a shy guy, myself, I almost virtually never ever..ever..text anyone first. However, I met this girl I'm terribly fond of. First time I ever gave a girl my number :p ..anywho. For three years I never text(grammar lesson: "texted" is actually not a word) her first. Then she brought it up to me. She said something along the lines of, "HEY! WHY DO YOU NEVER TEXT ME AND I ALWAYS HAVE TO TEXT YOU FIRST!?" ..but not that intense. It made me think and I was like..oh. Crap. I knida like this girl a little bit of a whole hell of a lot. Since then I make the effort to text her first if we haven't talked in five or more days. Our situation is different from yours, as we live a few thousand miles apart and nothing could ever happen between us, but the fact remains, shy or not, he'll text you more often if you point out the fact that you have to initiate every conversation. At the same time, on your side, try to reduce your texts, as he will then be forced to think about why you've not text him in a while and be more likely to text you. If this does not help, love, he's just not that into you. Especially if he's bringing up these dating sites he's on while you're on a date.

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  • oitsthatguy
    9 years ago

    I'll be honest, don't persist too much. desperation is a killer. Are you more likely to feed a healthy, loving dog... or feed a dog who's constantly nagging you... annoying you in some sense. Are you more likely to help someone who is humble... and you appreciate their strength... or someone who is begging you hand and foot for everything you have? I can tell you are young... and desire attention... but really... appreciate yourself right now. The right guy will come looking for you... and do the same things that you are trying to do to get this "shy" guys attention ;) best of luck

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      He never messages me :( but tells me he meets girls on a dating website but I am showing interest :( and he can't see it :( idk what to do

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    he is your mirror so smile

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  • Crusades
    9 years ago

    I personally don't understand the concept of shyness so, for me, it's hard to comprehend or understand what shy people are going through but i think it has something to do with insecurity. With the fear of being perceived negatively by other people. Try to overcome those fears and you'll see a lot of improvements regarding relationships and social interactions in general. The guy you're talking to must have misinterpreted your behavior due to your shyness and lack of initiative as lack of interest from your part.

    And yes, this applies to women too. Not only guys have to be confident.

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    • Aliceee93
      9 years ago

      So, you can be nice :)

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      He's shy himself, but he never messages me, only talks when I message him. But I don't want to keep messaging and being annoying :(

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  • brankinton
    9 years ago

    Maybe he's "shy" to start a serious relationship with you?

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