What's wrong with my best friend?

Me and my best friend have known each other for about a year. WE both are straight, he's 19 and Im 18, He has been in a relationship for a year now, and I have gone through three relationships this past year. Well recently he has broken up with his girlfriend and he has been texting me the weirdest stuff like 'i miss you' or 'i love you'. I feel weird being told that buy a guy, especially if he is my best friend. The other night we had a sleepover and he hugged me the whole night, His crotch was literally touching my butt. Confused about whats going on I let him keep on hugging me. Later on at night he turnes around and so did I, but this time I hugged him. I don't know why I did that, I did it without thinking, but it made me feel secure. Is it normal? Whats going on? I feel confused. Lately he has been calling me late at night and texting me that he loves me and misses me. Recently I started falling in love with this girl, but I keep on thinking about that night and him. HELP!!!!

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  • If you like it kiss him and see what happens. If you dont like it tell him to stop.

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  • Metalmusiclover

    Open up with your friend. Talk everything out. Think about how u feel about him… then decide if u want to pursue a relationship with him… it's possible u could be gay. Or bi. But that doesn't matter. Just do what makes u happy :)

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  • k1d

    He's gay and wants you to be on the team. I dont think you're gay after hugging him. I believe you folded under pressure and wasnt sure what to do and just reacted.

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  • drugsrbadmkay

    You're both gay.

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  • Helpmeout25

    Were either of you hard? That's a big deal.

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  • johndoesmith

    Cutest thing ever. Cuddling and spooning your straight boy. Straight bromances are the sexiest ever, especially if you're LIVING them. So do just that. Live. Obviously it's instinctual for you. Feels right. Take it slow and don't label it and enjoy each others love and affection. (There's two girls for every boy - it's hard for two right guys to find each other, a rarer and more exclusive relationship - you'll probably only become closer than anyone you'll ever meet)

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  • i am the last person to sudjest telling the truth but if he's your best friend he should be a able to handle it.

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  • Normally

    It's ok. You and him are both young and thinking about experimenting with gay sex. You may have to try it to see if you like it. It's ok to be bi also. Have a girlfriend plus you and your best friend give each other blowjobs or jerk each other off. It's all about fulfilling fantasies. I think he would love to give you a blowjob and have your hot cum spray all over him sounds like to me.

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  • kittycanpimpu2

    well i thought you were straight up until i read you hugged him back. Maybe you are attracted to him and the fact that his crotch was on your butt and you left it there... well your leading him on if your not into that so let him know you are flattered and he means a lot to you but not in that way.

    best of luck

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  • Yeah, you just might be bi.
    But stupid earth rules are too conventional to let you really express what you feel.
    Do what makes you happy.
    But don't forget, your friend is maybe jsut vulnerable, and you are currently replacing the person who he is missing, and you get emotions that aren't meant for you.
    You know what you need to do. Talk.

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  • justmetalking

    How do you feel when you are with him? Forget trying to label yourself gay or straight. You can only be accepting of your feelings and what you are attracted to. Imagine for a moment if you didn't feel you needed to identify yourself as gay or straight. Would you still be tormented about this? I think this issue is more common with men than women. You know the song "I kissed a girl (and I liked it)"? It's far more socially acceptable for women to experience eroticism with other women than for men. Imagine if it were a man singing that song about another man. We are all human and very much alike, however every society imposes it's own external sets of morals vales and mores. These values are a function of any given society but in no way dictate what is normal for any given human to feel or experience. You may be surprised to find how many men have the same feeling you do, but would never admit to it because their friends and families would forever remember it and label them as such. Be true to yourself but be wise and careful to whom you open up to.

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  • olivia82

    If you like then its ok. You don't have to choose between boys or girls.

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  • Hippeh

    Communication is the key, you need to open up and talk with him. Otherwise this can only get more uncomfortable for you, and ultimately and eventually, him.

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  • If you feel that your friendship is crossing a line that you are not comfortable with (which would appear to be so) tell your friend. He's been through a tough time & you are trying to be supportive. Things have got a little confusing but I am sure you can gently let him know how you feel & what you need so that everything is comfortable within your friendship.

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  • rosenballs

    Well, you are just a little confused i guess (how could a guy you've known for only a year suddenly become your best friend? maybe he has misunderstood what it means to be a best friend). Don't worry about it, next time anything feels weird just speak out...if you're thinking about him in a sexual way, well then i guess your maybe just experimenting (kinda, like?) or your just confused...eh....yah...
    This comment has now helped you a lot and you are feeling much more confident than before.

    But seriously though, tell the guy your not gay, if you are not???

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  • IveGotBallsOfSteal

    you guys spooned each other. you're eighteen and don't know what spooning is. You're not gay. he might be a little more gay than you think. You're obviously both a little curious and one time went with it a little. big freakin deal. If you're having feelings about a girl youre obviously not gay. this isn't a normal experience though, but a lot of guy friends that are really close can be affectionate with each other in ways. Dont trip.

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