What's wrong with me?

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I don't know how to start this really other than, I don't go out much, I don't have any friends really only one, and I don't like drinking. I thought my life was okay, id meet up with my friend ever so often and we'd have a laugh, her boyfriend would come and the banter would flow but to my mum that would be wrong... I shouldn't be playing gooseberry to those two. Considering she's my longest friend..... Uh.

A guy came into my life which my sister knows, she set me up on a date, me him, her and her boyfriend, from that date I knew I wasn't interested at all. Is this normal? Apparently not to my mum, apparently you have to give it a go and start somewhere.... I just he repulsed me but my mum goes on and on. She'd say things such as 'everyone's friends until they're engaged' I forgot him but he kept texting to meet up, so I did all four of us again. And the way he looks at me I can tell he wants more.

My mum is worried because I never get out and the fact she keeps saying I need to start somewhere suggests she's worried about me finding someone (21,virgin) but I'm just not ready... I was hoping to stumble upon someone.. Unexpectedly. But she keeps going on about this one guy, and how I could have him as a mate (but suggests it will eventually turn into more) I guess she's right about the friends part but idk the whole idea makes me uncomfortable I don't understand why she's so worried and pushy. So I'm going out for tea with him, I don't want to and I'll be glad when I'm back home in bed... Not really a question but I'm worried about my life and friends and scared ill never meet anyone if I don't start with him, is this how it works? Ideas on making friends to get my mum off my back.?
Oh and I've tried defended myself it results in her not speaking to me :(

I mean it's not normal for a 21 year old to be a virgin and be happy just doing simple things and not out partying every night right?:(

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Comments ( 6 )
  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    Yo mama need to back off, girl.

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  • noid
    9 years ago

    You're fine, your mom isn't.

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  • derpyderp
    9 years ago

    Maybe your mum is concerned that you're depressed or something & is genuinely concerned for you but at the end of the day she's going to have to back off & let you do your thing.

    Don't go into anything you don't want to just because of her advice. She's wrong. People aren't "friends until they're engaged". They get engaged because they're in love & there's a mutual connection.

    By all means be friends with this guy & see where it leads but for now at least make it clear what you're after from him. Friendship. Otherwise it's not fair to either of you...

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    9 years ago

    Introverted young woman with over-involved Mother who is dying to establish her daughter's normality by pushing her into the arms of some dude who is into her but the introverted girl isn't into him...

    Sounds like a good setup for a sitcom. Your Mom is just overbearing. You aren't doing anything wrong.

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  • charli.m
    9 years ago

    You can only be who you are and she's going to have to learn to respect that.

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  • Murun
    9 years ago

    Agreed with the above. Your mum needs to stop pressuring you. Going with someone you don't like just to please her can only end in disaster.
    You are still very young at 21.. Modern obsession with teenage sex makes virginity at that age seem unusual but it's not that rare and not really an issue.

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