What's too far in regard to age gaps?

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25 female, 34 male (9 years) 11
25 female, 37 male (12 years) 18
25 female, 40 male (15 years) 18
25 female, 43 male (18 years) 5
25 female, 45 male (20 years) 12
Age is just a number/Other 41
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  • shuggy-chan
    11 years ago | pl

    5 and 67

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    • NeuroNeptunian
      11 years ago

      This. A legal adult is a legal adult in my opinion.

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  • NoraBaker
    11 years ago | pl

    I was so thrown off, I misread ape japs.

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    • Terence_the_viking
      11 years ago

      Hahaha that is so funny. can i be your friend.

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      • NoraBaker
        11 years ago

        Yay! Hmm... Will you thumb up all my comments for a week? Would  you be willing to imitate an ape jap?

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        • Terence_the_viking
          11 years ago

          I don't know what an ape jap is.

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          • NoraBaker
            11 years ago

            Poopty Peupty Pants! A real friend would try.

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            • Terence_the_viking
              11 years ago

              Hello I'm an Ape jap or for those over educated among us Japanese Ape.

              Pssst am i doing it right?

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    I think my perspective may be a bit wonky compared to others, but this is how I personally see it (for both male/female):

    After the age of about 25-ish, anything goes.
    Anyone under 20 shouldn't date people over 30.
    Anyone under 16 shouldn't date anyone over 20.
    People in the 20-25 range should be cautious about dating people over 30, but I think it is still appropriate for it to happen.

    Why? Because, in my opinion, anyone under 20 is not a complete adult yet with adult confidence, so I think it is mentally and emotionally unfair for someone who is an "older" adult to date them.

    Basically, from what I've seen over the years, is that most people become comfortable with and understand who they are, between the ages of 20-25. By the time they hit their 30s, not only do they know who they are, but they also have a greater understanding of who others are and how they fit amongst the society they live in. People 16-20 have established their adult personalities, but are largely just experimenting with how to be an adult.

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    • mightymouse
      11 years ago

      Not wonky at all... possibly the best answer to this type of question I've read!

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      • [Old Memory]
        11 years ago

        Thank you. It's kind of you to say so.

        I still think it's wonky because it is not always what people do in real life and it varies drastically depending on a person's culture.

        It is just a personal opinion.

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  • disthing
    11 years ago

    Interesting you've only focused on males being the older partner. Why bring gender into a question of age?

    It's too difficult to confidently decide what is an unacceptable age difference. There are many factors to take into consideration on a case by case basis. What is 'too far' for one couple could be perfectly fine for another.

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  • Ibelievethis
    11 years ago

    I suppose when you get to 18 it doesn't matter how old your partner is. xx

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  • KeddersPrincess
    11 years ago

    Once you both are passed the age of consent, it really doesn't matter.

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  • Avant-Garde
    11 years ago

    As long as they are both legal adults who can think for themselves, age gaps don't matter. Love is love, is it not?

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  • fartonmyface
    11 years ago

    It depends. I don't see anything wrong with an 80 y/o man being with a 60 y/o woman. But there is something wrong with a 35 year old man being with a 15 y/o girl.

    It really doesn't matter what age you are as long as you are both adults and love eachother.

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals
    11 years ago

    Muhammad was 52 while Aisha was 6... (I'm no muslim myself) so comment...

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    • Avant-Garde
      11 years ago

      O_0

      In ancient times, I guess that was normal but in modern times, this would be considered molestation and he'd be labeled as a pedophile.

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  • westoptic
    11 years ago

    Once you become an adult, it doesn't really matter in my opinion.

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  • Lynxikat
    11 years ago

    Personally, I don't believe in that "Age is just a number" bullshit, but then again, who people date and sleep with really isn't any of my business. So I'm just gonna go with what pretty much everyone else will say; as long as you're of legal age, who cares?

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  • Francophile22
    11 years ago

    Rule of thumb: if you are the older person, the younger can be half your age plus 7.

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