What's so bad with not wanting to live?

I don't kill myself only because of loved ones. I just try to focus on hoping I won't wake up one of these days.

Yes, it's normal. You have freedom of choice. The ones that say it's a sin or something are either too narrow-minded, or are trying to justify their fear of death.

I happened across this online today, as I was thinking the same thing. I've had this conversation before with other friends..but I agree with the Original poster that it's not a "typical" question/thought that can be expressed to most. AS an example, I live the normal, good life, most would look at my life with envy -- sure I had some childhood issues/abuse, honestly I moved beyond that. I put myself through college, married a great man, have a good job. I volunteer. I'm not in any financial trouble, etcetc. Overall my life looks and is GREAT!

However, I'm "tired". If that makes sense, when I think of death, I don't think of it in terms of heaven or hell, but the ultimate quiet, silence, peace! Sometimes I'm tired of "everything" that goes on in this world, of being the person everyone runs for help because I am THAT person, the saver!

I'm not suidical, I don't think my life is a failure, I don't feel worthless...I continue my life, activities, working out, caring for myself...but that doesn't mean I don't long for peace or silence. It's not like you can really escape the "world", etc. SURE wanting to die in a since is "selfish" if you want to put it that way. Reality is all people will die eventually...so the question is: IS it selfish to want internal peace? for myself? To wish perhaps that my life will end a little sooner than later?

Or is it selfish to put the worlds and everyones own needs before my own? Doesn't everyone advocate that you should take care of yourself first before you can for others?

Some religions believe that death comes, when we have completed a goal on this plain, when we have learned what we were intended to learn, or that death is simply a plain of existance for relearning/rebirth, or a renaissance if you will.

I don't think "thinking" about it is abnormal, or even suicidal or that one is depressed. I would agree with some of the other posters comments, life is WHAT we make of it, how we handle the adversities we face (some who can't cope are successful at committing suicide), What we make of our time here.

So, for me, it will be about trying to find -- if possible -- in this living exisitance the level of peace and silence that I desire, to find that balance between life and death.

Its a great question! Thanks for the post.

yes it normal i think about it all the time....like not in a suicidal/emo kinda way just casually "i dont feel like living anymore" kinda way

Yes, it is normal to have these thoughts but it is important not to act on them. If you feel the thoughts are beyond your control, you should really talk to someone and get some help.

A lot of people have suicidal thoughts but it actually goes completely against human nature to act on them. Contrary to common beliefs, suicide isn't taking the "cowards way out". It actually takes a lot of courage and strength to go through with it.

I don't think you are selfish because I totally understand how it feels to want to end everything. Please, don't act on those thoughts though, you have so much more in your life to experience!

Take Care. :)

i think it's normal, but............obviously the people you are talking to, such as friends and family, are thinking that you are considering taking your life, so of course, they are never going to sanction it. but if your point is "choice", try using a less dramatic arguement if you are so intent on winning one.

everything comes to an end, even the problems you consider taking your life over. that's why people don't agree that suicide is an answer to anything.

people who commit suicide do it in secret with nobody's approval. not long after that, everyone goes on with their own lives. i don't think it's a good idea.

can you explain to me what you mean when you said that you were "born your way", cause the way i see it, you were born either the old fashioned way or c-section, and i don't see how you had any choice in that or being born at all for that matter.

I can't find the date of the post so you may be happy by now - emotional stuff is not trustworthy.
We are forced into life - and your expression for control 'I'll decide when I'm alive, I'll decide when I die' is incredibly human.
Unfortunately it's also completely illusory.
Yeah, maybe you'll neck pills or pull the trigger when you 'decide' it's 'the time', or maybe you'll die from illness, accident.

On topic though, yeah, it's selfish on both sides really. Selfish of people to want someone in pain to stick around just for them; selfish of someone to kill themselves if it affects others.

The main thing is not to trust depressive illness to guide that decision. I don't think selfishness is inherently immoral (it's really just taking care of yourself, which we are told to do by lots of professional doctors).

I'd kill myself if I felt I had to. I'd explore other avenues first though - it starts with a conversation with your doc or a caring friend/relative.

It may not be normal but it's certainly not wrong to think that way. Doug Stanhope said life isn't for everybody, it's sad when kids kill themselves because they didn't give it a chance but if you've sat through a shitty movie about half way and it's sucked every minute, it's not gonna turn around and make it all worth while right at the end. And no one should blame you for walking out early.

Just be happy, life is only good if you want it to be.
Think about it, according go science, the meaning of life is to stay alive, to be healthy and reproduce. The reason humans feel there is a deeper meaning to life is because we think to much, we think everything has a meaning. Ultimately though, we are all trying to stay alive, so you wanting to kill yourself goes against science.

I didn't even take the time to read other peoples answers but I think there is an obvious problem if your willing tonthrow your life away, but I think it's normal for people to feel that way when being overwhelmed.
However I do think it's selfish to actually follow through with it not only because people will miss you but mostly because you have the choice to live that's a gift and your willing to throw it away.. There are so many people fighting to live because they have cancer or other life threatening illnesses. Especially kids and people who love their family and life so much, or for family's who need those people who support them. And here is someone who was so lucky to have a healthy life and body and they're throwing it away.. why you, why were you the one who has the chance to live a healthy life. that is what makes me think people who follow through with suicides are selfish. Because you destroyed a good body that someone else was more deserving of, life is a battle it's easy to have a new perpective on life.. try it explore your world.

Yes, it's selfish of people to want someone to stay with them when they are miserable. F*** em.

yes its normal to have your opinion but if you have thoughts of suicide and actually want to kill yourself you really should go see someone

I think it is completly normal to feel this way, but no matter how you chose to end it, your family will miss you. It is your choice and I am not calling you selfish, because this does not make you selfish. It is your choice..but I am not promoting the idea of taking one's life.

Yeah, it's your choice. Yeah, it's normal.
You sound like one of those people who think they're exceptionally enlightened.
Stop thinking so much.

What's wrong? The hypocrisy is wrong.

Wanna kill yourself then do it quickly and don't listen to others.

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