What's going on?? [erection/cum problem]

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Right, this is the truth and i hope i can get some helpful comments back.

When i jerk watching porn or something, i can get really strong hard ons and keep them, asif theres no problem. few years ago i was seeing this girl and when i got turned on i would go hard but almost any time it actually lead to us stripping or whatever i would lose the hard on [btw i was a virgin then] so i assumed it was just nerves of the first time, anyways, recently ive been seeing this new girl and i bought some kamagra so i could get and keep hard even if i felt nervous, and yeah it worked just fine, and i went for quite a while, but now a new problem has arisen, i cant get to orgasm and cum... i mean i really love this girl so much and when we have sex its awesome, but we can go for hours and i just wont cum, yet i dont have a problem with that at all, i can blow a huge load if im in a non-pressure situation (ie. watching porn and jerking)
is this normal?? or what?? and any helpful advice on what i can do to maybe sort it, if you say ''Go see a doctor'' please try to think of other ways to sort it first, i would prefer that to be my last option. anyways, thanks to any helpful comments.

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  • wvwarrior
    16 years ago

    i agree with alot above me but from my lay persons view (i'm 23yr old and bi so i've been on both sides) some things i'd suggest-

    1. talk openly with your girl about this, it's something you should work on together, and it's a sign of trouble if she mocks, belittles or doesn't wanna help (especially if you love her that means your stayin for awhile and your sexuality should be something you both work on)

    2. The type of stuff you took affects your erection yes (i've used it and can be quite fun) but also can mess with your prostate, orgasm ability. I've noticed when using it (successfully for me) that the sensation is also lessened, so I'm guessing that your failure to orgasm might be partly due to this.

    3. be open to yourself, if you have an issue or concern or doubts (not saying your gay) about a part of your sexuality you can't repress it, try to work on it, educate yourself (massive volumes of info on the net from reputable sources that you can research discreetly) and if you can't figure it out on your own don't be afraid to seek help, repression will lead to much worse problems later on.

    As I said before ^ this turned into a book, im just layperson but consider myself an amateur sexologist and am working on schooling to become pro. So if you feel the need don't hesitate to contact me I will be more than happy to point you in the direction of some good trustworthy info sources.

    Best of luck to you and her

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  • Cosmicgiggle
    13 years ago

    As was stated above, discuss it openly with her. Don't hold back on telling her exactly how it makes you feel. You need to relax and realize, with her help, that you don't have to prove anything. I bet with your relaxing, communicating, and getting her support, you'll probably "hit the ceiling" before you know it.

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  • aeroboy27
    16 years ago

    Watch some porn with you're girl when ure gettin it on, Or ya could just not jack off a few days, then do her nice...you'll be way horny, and not go soft.

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  • [Old Memory]
    16 years ago

    thats the result of taking viagra

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  • kharmatika
    16 years ago

    If you have been having problems coming, it could be a bad reaction to the medicine, called priapism. see your doctor, as this can be the early stages of a few problems.
    But, CabbyHubby makes a very valid point that it could be psychological. either way good luck. btw, my old boyfriend had extreme endurance. I'm talking like 30 minutes of straight blowjob to make him cum. MAN, my neck got tired!

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  • billyboner
    16 years ago

    I have a big penis so it takes like 10 minutes for the cum to make it up and out of my enormously large penis. Many times I orgasm and get up and go to the bathroom and squirt the juices from my raging 12 incher right into the toilet.

    Did I mention I have a HUGE penis?

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    • anonymouse1
      16 years ago

      looks like somebody is overcompensating for something

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      • [Old Memory]
        16 years ago

        definitely

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