What is your opinion

So long story made short, my boyfriend says that I make him hit me.
I do not agree that women should be hit, I think there is always another solution to channel anger unless the women hits the man more than 3 times (the law says if a women strikes a man more than 3 times, he is allowed to hit her back) I believe the man has a right to defend himself.
Anyways I have only ever punched my partner in the face 2+ years ago for something he did to me (he bought shoes from a random girl because he has a foot fetish and another thing that I do not want to go into detail about). He never hit me back.
I was so hurt and since then I have not physically assaulted him. There is an immense size difference between us as well.

Since then he has not worked for 2 years and I have been supporting us while attending part time school. He is quite supportive and loving/caring, except when we fight. Our fights will usually blow out of control to the point where he puts his hands on me - grabbing me by the throat, pushing me, containing me in a room, kicked me, punched me in the stomach .. we both deal with our personal anger issues and when I am angry, I try to walk away to cool off, but he doesn't allow this or believe that is okay - you must solve it all now. He will get mad and then completely act on it and say hurtful things to the extent of putting his hands on me.
I usually don't make eye contact and look away because I feel so awful inside and feel scared or annoyed af and want to be left alone. He has this crazy look in his face like he wants to kill me.

Do you think that there is any chance we should try to fix this or should we both move on?

We have both emotionally/physically hurt each other so much that I think I don't know if I'm the problem or he is ...