What is the problem?

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Hey guys, I am 42 & divorced twice. Right now I’m alone because I have a fear of approaching a strange woman or girl that I don’t know...to me it’s just weird to just wonder up to someone that you don’t know at all & try to start a conversation....I’ve never had to “chase” a woman before so to speak because they’ve always came to me first but this time it simply isn’t happening for whatever reasons....I live in a pretty decently populated area & you would think every now & then I would come across a lady that would show some interest in me but...no. I pay attention to their expressions & such when I’m out places & I’m friendly when I do actually talk to one but still they just don’t seem to notice me....I’m not what I’d call unattractive, I’m 5’8 with a little extra weight but I’ve seen far worse King Kong looking guys with the hot blonde on their arm before & I wonder how in the hell they accomplished that!! I have been told that I don’t have friendliest or approachable demeanor & expressions when I’m in public & I’ve been trying hard to work on that but still nothing’s changed...I’m not picky at all as far as what the woman looks like, I’ll talk to any of them....Idk what the problem is, I’m new to this site, actually this is my very first question so any helpful advice or opinions would be appreciated & please be honest....Thanks

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    Try a dating site for your age group, that’s where it’s at now. Women want to see you, want a detailed history of your life, your fingerprints, and a DNA profile.

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    • Twatmuncher
      5 years ago

      Seriously!!? Fingerprints & DNA?? Jesus Christ whatever happened to the old school ways of meeting?

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      • [Old Memory]
        5 years ago

        Bars and clubs are out. Tinder for a hookup or dating sites for a relationship.
        With a name like twatmuncher, they’ll want you to submit your SSN, 10 years worth of W2s, and they’ll conduct a criminal background check.

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  • Alichael
    5 years ago

    You're not a loser. Some women feel weirded out by some guy they don't even know approaching them in a public place. It's best to try to not to find one that way. Find some kind of social group where you'll be meeting people with similar interests to you. And there are many different websites where you can meet people. There's one called meetup. Try not to just walk up to women somewhere public. I mean people have done it before and been super successful when they're the real smooth talking good looking Romeo types. But, most people doing it that way will be weirding some women out, especially if they're making it obvious they're hitting on them, which will seem obvious anyway just since you're merely approaching them, unless you're particular with your words and your approach. You must be relaxed, and you'd need something particular to say to make it really seem like what you're talking about is definitely more important than you actually just trying to talk to them, if you know what I mean. But some women will not be comfortable with some guy just approaching them in public. Best to find some type of social group with people of similar interests. Or you can always meet people through friends, like your friend who knows somebody who knows somebody, that kind of thing.

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  • RoseIsabella
    5 years ago

    If you're 42 you shouldn't even be thinking about girls much less approaching them.

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    • Ellenna
      5 years ago

      Why not? So according to you there's a cut off age after which people shouldn't be interested in finding a relationship?

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      • RoseIsabella
        5 years ago

        If someone is young enough to be referred to as a "girl" then he's too old for her.

        Some guys use terms like girl and woman interchangeably, however OP said "woman or girl", which means that he makes a distinction. Adults should never be interested in minors.

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        • Twatmuncher
          5 years ago

          Excuse me but hold on here, first of all I am NOT a pedafile & I NEVER said that I am interested in minors....where I come from it’s just the way we talk, hell, I call 35 year old women “girls”, it’s just a figure of speech...I thought nothing of it & apparently neither did anyone else here until you started running your narrow minded little mouth....don’t try to pass judgment on someone or something you know nothing about!!!

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