What is the "heaviest" event in your life that you attribute to fate?

Fate....quite simply, the result of choices you make. For me fate, leaves a sense of belonging and knowing. That knowing you made the right choice.

I could relate lots of experiences I attribute to fate but the "heaviest" is a rather recent experience. When you are faced with difficult situations, you have to move past them and take the lessons you are being taught or they will eat you alive.

I had to give birth to a 4 month fetus that ceased to live. My husband and I were very happy with the pregnancy and all seemed healthy. The baby didn't develop properly and aborted itself. I was in no pain and the only evidence was the lack of heartbeat.

I had plenty of people telling me what to do and I refused to listen. (D&E)As long as I didn't endanger my own health, I wanted to do things my way. And I did just that. I let my body pass the fetus on its own, only a little help with drugs- but no instruments. The only side effect was a day of uncontrollable crying as a result of hormones meant to help. My body did a better job, I just needed to trust it.

While sitting outside talking with a friend, my new neighbor poked her head through the fence and through tear filled eyes, she asked if she could join our conversation. She had no idea what was going on but was having problems of her own and needed a friend. This strange woman sought me out as a friend during the most difficult time of my life. Even though I was trying to figure out how to deal with a dead baby in my womb- I invited her over for some wine and girl talk. We are now really close and have helped each other move through some heavy life situations. Even in my darkest moment, I could offer help.

This whole experience grounded me. I no longer fear pain and I know how to be patient with my body. There is no such thing as a quick fix. I trust my body to do what it needs to to heal itself. And I know how to guide it. This is how the universe taught me a valuable lesson that I hope to share with others, as needed, and as requested.

Ooh! One time I was in this ghetto part of the city where they lock the doors at 24/7 convenient stores at night(not so fuckin convenient btw) and I was drunk. Anyhoo I was knocking politely on the doors for them to let me in to use the phone and call a cab because I thought I had no change for the payphone and they called the damn cops on me!

So I lay on the ground awaiting the police and accepting my drunk tank fate when two quarters came rolling out of my pocket. I call the cab, wait a while, and just when I got in it the damn cops rolled into the parking lot while im being whisked away by my knight in shining turban armor. Whether it was fate or good timing I dont know. All I do know is that the drunken gods were looking out for me that night. Probably with one eye closed to better focus in on me. True story!

In and out of mental health facilities and rehabs for drugs and suicidal actions and thoughts.
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probably when I had sex with Al Roker during a taping of Saturday Night Lovin'

Well if I believed in fate, I would say the "heaviest" event in my life I attribute to fate was my conception.

Not really sure. But I've almost died a few times. various Hit and Runs (One by a Car in 2000 and a Firetruck in 2007) 100+ true near misses, Almost got stab, Electrocution, suffocation and drowning.

And Survived like a BOSS, but something will own me.

The moment where I went through 360 degree personality change, thus changing my whole life, when I met two certain people.

Telling my sociology teacher what was going on in my life when I had told no one else before her. I don't know why I did other than I knew she cared about me.

I don't feel the need to tell my story. One person already knows it and understands my pain.

'm gonna go with what i just said on a previous thread...

super heavy shit:when i was 16 i started dating an older man, lost my V, he introduced me to online gaming, which led to me losing my job, which meant i could no longer afford the horse i bred and raised for 6 years and put all of my heart into, i gained about 30 lbs because i quit highschool for this idiot and his online games he got me hooked on, and my mom fell hard into alcoholism. so.

what came of all this loss?: i met the best man on earth and he treats me like a queen.

to go through losing almost anything that meant everything to me, to gain one phenomenal thing, to me, is fate... not to QQ but sometimes i wonder if it's worth the loss in the end. kind of a tie.

There was a story on the show Unsolved Mysteries-it took place in the 50's-a church choir met in the evenings on set days. On one of the evenings, the church had a gas leak and exploded. The thing is, every single one of the members was late for one reason or another and no one got hurt or killed. Very strange.

Here's a link to the story, it's amazing.

http://www.beatricedailysun.com/news/local/article_d75d6eb3-40df-52ca-8296-e959ab79fff5.html