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I'm married but in love with my best friend. I feel like I'm married to the wrong person. I got married because I felt it was the next step in my lifeless relationship.
| - stay married and make the best of a incorrect situation | 17 | |
| - tell husband how I feel about best friend | 46 | |
| Other (Add a comment) | 6 | |
| - have an affair with best friend | 11 | |
| - leave husband and be alone for awhile | 21 |
I think you should make a hurried emotional decision, go with the best friend, then have him cheat on you 2 years later and divorce him.
Oh and make sure you have kids from both relationships. That will complete the image.
Stick it out and learn to be the best friend to the person you are married to. In the long run you will discover how right you were to get married in the first place. At least my wife and I did. good luck!
valkeer, epic comment. Anywho, I think poster should probably just go on their own for a while.
I would come clean to both of thm. Its not fair to you to be unhappy, and it's not fair to your significant other to not get 100%. I would definitely get divorced
fuck these people.....youre not a bad person...you feel how u feel....if u dont follow your feelings in life you will be miserable....sure..coming out with this shit will have negative effects but u need to think LONG TERM ....do what makes u happy no matter what...we get 1 time around on this rock called earth...make the best of it or live a life of misery...fuck what everyone else thinks...you are the one who has to sleep with yourself at night...go for it
A loveless marriage isn't worth being in....I've never been married because I haven't truly loved someone deeply yet....sure I've been in relationships but never saw myself marrying them....that was your first mistake....if you knew in your heart you couldn't see yourself being with him forever...then your marrying someone to avoid being alone. you have to be flat out honest with your husband and see first if something can be salvaged if not.....get a divorce....if you let it fester then your hurting him more than your hurting yourself.
If you stay married to someone you don't love then who is it benefiting?It's not fair on your husband,your bestfriend and most importantly you!Just tell your husband and clear your conscience,he obviously won't like it but you don't really have any other option-and no,having an affair is not an option
Try marriage counseling. Talk to your husband about how unhappy you are. Maybe he feels the same, maybe he wants to work it out. It would make a bad situation worse if you were to tell about your love for another person.
If your husband's a douche then I think you should leave him, or if you reeeeeaally love your friend.
It's difficult to see the resolution to a situation while you're actually in that situation. I split up from someone who was perfect for me and always regretted it. My long-term feelings are different than whatever crazy feelings caused me to split up with someone so wonderful. What would have been ideal is having the time and distance to work this out while not losing her. Unfortunately, you can't ask someone to be this unselfish. They have lives too.
The answer is that there isn't an answer. You're going to do whatever it is you're going to do, and you just have to hope you choose right. Such is life!
In case you were wondering, yes, you are a bad person. And frankly not that bright either given your reason for getting married. On the other hand you seem to have good grammar, so I have to respect you for that. This is hard...
Oh, and my advice is to separate (not necessarily get divorced) from your husband and be alone for awhile. Telling your husband about your best friend, or cheating on your husband...both very bad ideas that would end up causing severe emotional damage and possibly gunshot wounds. As for being alone, it'll give you a chance to figure out if you're really in love with your friend or if he's just an escape from your current situation.
Telling your husband is not the best, neither would having an affair. You are obviously troubled, so just continuing a loveless marriage for the sake of it isn't the best option. Best to take some time and think about it perhaps leave your husband for a time, maybe a trip.