What is cheating to you?

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what do you think cheating is.. like how little to how much? my bf thinks that kissing someone on the lips (that in fact is not emotional) is not cheating.... ? i got pissed about it and he was like that’s selfish.. and being mad at someone for sleeping with someone else is selfish... he thinks it’s not that bad and he wouldn’t care if i hooked up with someone else bc it’s all physical

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  • Tealights
    6 years ago

    Sounds like your boyfriend is polyamorous (poly). The simplest solution is to end the relationship.

    Neither of you are wrong, but he seems like he's poly and unaware of it (sadly, this happens a lot), and you're monogamous. Poly see cheating as pure emotion or lying about who you're sleeping with. While monogamy is simple, where you're just loyal to one person only both physically and emotionally.

    I know you love this guy and all that, but if you force yourself to be poly for his sake and start having sex with other guys, you're going to be miserable; because here you are in a relationship where your boyfriend has sex with other women and you only want to have sex with him.

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    • Ellenna
      6 years ago

      I wouldn't be too concerned about the kiss unless it was a lengthy open mouth tongue kiss, but apart from that it sounds as if you and he have totally different views on sexual relationships. If I were you I'd be checking out with him whether he really meant what he said or whether it was just in the heat of an argument: if you're both serious about your views then you're obviously incompatible.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      i don’t want that... he says he would never cheat on me and he loves me and he’s nothing but loyal but he thinks that a kiss like a peck is nothing if you’re not attracted to them / like if they’re a friend and you’re saying goodbye

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      • Tealights
        6 years ago

        This is what got to me:

        "he was like that’s selfish.. and being mad at someone for sleeping with someone else is selfish... he thinks it’s not that bad and he wouldn’t care if i hooked up with someone else bc it’s all physical"

        Him seeing sex as a purely physical thing, and calling you selfish for disagreeing is alarming. He thinks like a poly person would, which isn't bad, but if you're monogamous, you need to end the relationship.

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      • insanebotv21
        6 years ago

        Yeah honestly i'd have to agree with his view on kissing(families do it. Still think those families are weird but whatever). And partially agree on his views on sex. Personally i don't care who they screw as long as they come home to me. But staying multiple nights or taking a lot of time out of your relationship to be with someone else is would be is what i'd consider cheating.

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  • Nickvey
    6 years ago

    if you are not married im not sure cheating is possible. yea, you dont own him. you can get upset with him, but like he said , go out and get some your self. BTW he is not going to marry you ever. and i doubt he will ever marry anyone. why would a guy do that? why should he give you a couple of children , whats in it for him?

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    • McBean
      6 years ago

      Thanks for the comment, Nick. You're a practical dude. Without your input, these discussions would get way the fuck off track.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      what do you mean he’s not gonna marry me or anyone...? how do you know that / think that

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      • Wtf055
        6 years ago

        It's just a shitface troll.I see it everywhere commenting Shit.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          6 years ago

          what.. he doesn’t have this app

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          • Wtf055
            6 years ago

            I'm talking about Nickvey, don't take the things it comments serious.

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  • SIYB
    6 years ago

    Any physical contact with another person that you're not related to that's more than just a high five or a hug is cheating to me. It's obviously not right to be kissing other girls or having sex with other girls while dating somebody else, but I can't blame you if it's too painful to cope with so you give him the benefit of the doubt. But I'd also consider anything online that's sexual that's personal (one on one, not porn) like nudes, flirting, or webcam sex cheating as well.

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  • ofmu
    6 years ago

    I get regular blowjobs from friends and others and I don't consider that cheating.

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  • lonewolf1253
    6 years ago

    It depends on your relationship status. If you are exclusive, meaning going steady and agree not to date other people, then they shouldn't have any physical contact with another outside of family. If you don't have an agreement like that, well then anything goes and you can date or see anyone you like. At least that's the way I've always seen it. Communication is key to any relationship.

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  • [Old Memory]
    6 years ago

    I don't think I could cope with an open relationship. What if my partner fell for someone?

    Just kissing is fine by me.

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  • Pumpurrnickel
    6 years ago

    If you want him to only be with you and he refuses that, the best option is to simply leave the relationship.

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  • bob7
    6 years ago

    Depends on who did he kiss , what that person means to him and he relation between ur bf and that person

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  • EnglishLad
    6 years ago

    I might be a kinky pervert in the bedroom but I HATE HATE HATE cheaters.

    Cheating to me is doing anything sexual/passionate at all with someone whilst you are already in a relationship with somebody else.

    Do whatever you like to me sexually, but do anything from a passionate kiss to having full blown sex with somebody else whilst we're in a relationship, and I will slash your fucking car tyres!

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  • Wtf055
    6 years ago

    You should believe what your honeypie says, unless you get a hunch something else is happening.Trust is one of the core things in a relationship.Keep that and ya got it all.But I think he loves you stay strong and goodluck 🌸

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  • KiwiWisdom
    6 years ago

    Cheating is a betrayal. Some couples are actually fine with random hook ups and then coming home to roost. Not everyone is comfortable with that kind of relationship though. This is one of those things you talk about together ahead of time and if you're looking for a more traditional one on one relationship you should probably find a new boyfriend. This is definitely a deal breaker if fidelity is important to you.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      what should i say to him tho about it

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      • Ellenna
        6 years ago

        Tell him how you feel then listen to him tell you how he feels and take it from there .... basic relationship skills in other words.

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