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I'm just really interested in the experiences that define a persons life. Each story is different and until you really look into a persons life you'll never truly understand them.
What was one defining moment in your life?
I know these are awful poll choices.
| Comment ! | 7 | |
| I don't place meaning on experiences | 8 | |
| Mostly good experiences | 14 | |
| Mostly bad experiences | 56 |
Being a social outcast, depression, moving, great friends, and other life experiences. I've learned from them and now view the world more positively. Life isn't so bad.
I believe your every day choices define you more than anything. But I agree, experiences, especially at a young age, will define you.
My life has been a series of experiences, both good and bad. At 15 I was fishing King Crab in Alaska (you know, Deadliest Catch on TV). By the time I was 31, I'd sailed around the world on my own boat, losing my wife but gaining a wonderful daughter and I found a great career.
Another wife & daughter, but once again the boating cost me the marriage.
So who am I now, at 66. Still sailing, have a great girlfriend and a reasonably healthy body. I'm pretty opinionated as I've seen so much hate, so many wars, starving people in 3rd world countries that few care to even acknowledge exist and the decline of the USA into a shadow of the dream the founding fathers had.
But I'm happy being alive 46 years after I truly believed we'd all die in a nuclear holocaust.
Defining moment? I really don't know.
Bad experiences really shattered me (really) but I also learned from them. I'd still rather some of them hadn't have happened and it feels like they took a lot from me, but I'm also appreciative that they made me grow as a person, longer term.
Mostly bad...why is everyone here so negative, good experiences shape us too..i guess people just don't put as much emphasis on their importance.
A lot of horrible things.
Rape, molestation, child abuse, child prostitution, neglect, poor living conditions, my mother, my stepdad, mistakes, instability, death, loss, drug abuse, ptsd, depression, anxiety, poor health, etc.
And some good.
My fiance, my brother, my mother, my animals, art, music, dancing, singing, laughing, etc.
Notice my mother is on both lists- her past self was not so great, but I mostly forgave her.
Well, I'm doing better. =) I think. lol.
You know, a person can't really tell if they're handling something well or not. I never got help for these problems and everyone involved is still roaming consequence-free to this day. I've had to rely on my own logic and motivation to push foward. I just take them as learning experiences and try to make them useful in dealing with the rest of life. Most importantly, I've had to digest and accept things for what they are, and realize I can't hold the world accountable for the wrongdoings of so few.
Sorry for the long response. Ha. I just didn't know how to respond with a short version.
That's fantastic. I'm glad so you've not become bitter after all that, and that you've come out as a good person at the end of it. It really sucks that the people responsible for all that are still out there, though.
No worries, long responses are always the best ;P
Well ty, sir. Honestly, I don't really see the point in getting justice anyway. I came close to seeing someone behind bars for what they did to me once, and I realized life had already punished them for what people couldn't- I also realized instead of feeling good, I felt pity for them. I don't think people need punishment, I think they need education and direction. They need to learn compassion- it's the only real justice.
[shortened version of my story]
I would say when I was a freshman in high school and discovering that I couldn't be cool no matter what I do, so instead of trying to be a person I'm not I decided to accept myself. Needless to say, I got bullied for the rest of high school, but I came to love myself and the person that I am, and if I have to be bullied in order to do that then I'm fine with it.
Being pampered by my loving aunt as a child, going out with a drug addict at seventeen and finding out that bad boys are not so cool. Discovering that a mother's love is the greatest love. Finding out that friends should be just to have fun. A lot of little things that has made me who I am now but I think that I have given a good summary.
All.
I look back upon my bad experiences and smile because it's made me change into a better person today and it's going to continue. I will not let them keep me stuck on them; I'll only let them take me towards the good paths. And guess what there are many good paths to take.
The same goes with my strengths and good experiences in my life. I'm working on becoming a more open person without feeling put down. Which I would recommend to everyone to work on becoming assertive: take courses, look at websites and take action! :) You'll see a healthier you because you will be YOU.
Right now a defining moment is becoming more assertive towards my family and at work. At work it can be challenging since it's not the best environment. Drama is a disease there and most people there aren't work professional.
Another one that has made me the person I am is my disabilities; the way I was treated. It's made me realize that I can be better than that and the ones who did don't see who they are.
Every single one of em, experience is everything you are!
Except from genetics...but then your environment can always mutate your genes...kinda like skin cancer.
I don't have defining moment, just a collection of moments that perhaps when put together just made me the way I am.
I think my childhood has had some reason for why I am the way I am today and why I have done the things I do, but who knows, my family is filled with people that have done similar and far worse things, so perhaps it is genetic.
trying to live in the moments because I think that's when I am the most honest version of myself... I could try to paint you a word picture but I would probably just end up sharing my favorite parts but that not really who I am... I am not my experiences I am simply a human living from moment to moment
end of story
Living in the moments is when I am the most honest version of myself also, I think it's like that for everyone, but they ignore it. It was in those moments that I realised I am evil.
I have done things that some might consider evil and even beat myself up to the point where I was just thinking what a piece of shit I am over and over... but now I could not care less... I may do ugly things sometimes but I am not perfect and I don't intend to be
That's ok because thinking what a piece of shit you are means you aren't evil, it means you're human. I only do good things when my guard is up, as soon as I relax it I do something bad. It's usually the opposite in most people. The fact that I have to "watch" my behaviour in order to do the right thing is confusing to me, and scary to those unfortunate enough to have seen it surface for the seconds it is visible.
One would think that a never ending series of awesomely spectacular events would have created the fantastical birdy that graces you boobs all too often, but that's not the case. The case is closed. This conversation is over!!!
Alien abduction. Time travel. Drugs. Sorcery. Nuclear waste. Roller coasters. Cybernetic implants. Nail polish. Prostitution. Living with polar bears. Solving unsolved crime. Vegan diet. Genetics.
Marines, mistake, jumbled thoughts, moving across the country, mistake, roommate murdered a guy at food joint, moved again, redemption, jumbled thoughts, isolation, flashbacks, redemption, happiness and acceptance, in that order.
I'vr had a lot of bad experiences woth a shitty start in life but although I have no hope for the future, i try to stay positive, its a battle though, yet i'd rather know what pain is
Everything you experience, good and bad, shapes who you become.
My childhood was littered with experiences, more bad than good, but I hate no one, and regret nothing, and I'd not change a single instance, for fear of losing who I am now.
Even those who tried to kill me with stones as a witch when I was just turning 11 do not have my hatred. I love all who have changed my life and it is thanks to those boys that I managed to change my point of view, and leave behind the drear realm of attempted "normality" for something worth thinking about.
Mostly bad experiences have shaped me, especially one in particular, bullying for several years. It then induced depression, self-harm, eating disorders, a very low self-esteem, suicide attempts and a lof of other bad stuff. I've suffered a lot before achieving to rebuild myself up.
However, I don't regret anything, because It made me so much stronger and sympathetic. I'm proud to still being here today despite those ordeals. My bad experiences are now replaced by the good ones, but I will never forget all I have learnt during my bad ones. It is a big part of myself that contributed to shape the good person, I think I am today.