What does it mean when you feel weak for someone?

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What does it mean when you start feeling so vulnerable for somebody else? Like you're willing to swallow your ego and naturally willing to do anything for that person and make it work as much as possible? Is this love?

When me and my guy met, I was fresh out of a relationship because I wanted to do me. Then he had to come into my life. I think he found me attractive because I was so much fun and tough at the same time. And that is who I am. But when I started catching real strong feelings for him, I became weak. I became someone that didn't want anything else but him. My "fun" side disappeared cause all I was was just this worried chick every time I felt something wrong about him and us because I cared and liked him so much. I wish I can go back to being that person he first crushed on and gave his number to but its hard to pretend I'm having fun when I have real feelings holding me back. It's a sucky feeling because you're in between. You want to be that person he liked in the first place so he can remember why he liked you in the first place but you also don't want to portray something unreal when you're hurting inside and want to show that person how much you care. I also don't want him to see me as a drag and debbie-downer whenever I confront him about something i worry because thats not who he liked at first. He liked my entertaining, good time side. So I feel like my worries are chasing him away from me but I want him to see its coming from a good place because I love him.

I've never felt vulnerable for someone else. I have liked other guys in the past but just "liked." Nothing as powerful and real as this. Of course there are good times but when there are bad times, you can't just walk away. It consumes you and there's nothing else you're thinking about. Once you fix that problem, you can go on with your day and move on. You know when you hang out with friends or family doing some fun activities but you have that person and the struggle in your head so you can't fully enjoy the moment until what you have on your mind is resolved? That's been me since I've been with him. When I see his name on my phone, I literally feel lifted like I can go on now or I just got this energy all of a sudden. He makes me feel alive and that includes being this vulnerable. What is this?

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  • handsignals
    9 years ago

    What is love, baby don't hurt me, don't hurt me no more!

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    • TimmyTheTurtle
      9 years ago

      mother fucker..... i was the 1 who made the haddaway account not you -_-

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      • handsignals
        9 years ago

        Oh, sorry Bro, I hadn't seen Haddaway for a while so I thought I should fill in.

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        • TimmyTheTurtle
          9 years ago

          i got that account banned for actin up... fuck the mods

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    I'm going to attempt to answer this one without being insulting.
    I don't know what this is, but I don't think it's love. It sounds more like neediness.
    I recommend working on not letting yourself be weak because it will not go well for you.
    People who are weak make perfect targets for others to manipulate and use because they are willing victims. Their desperate attempt to please others is generally seen as pathetic and somebody who is not even worthy of respect, because they do not respect themselves first.
    Once again, I am not trying to be mean, but sometimes telling things like it is requires harsh truths, and ignoring the truth is self defeat.
    Work on finding comfort on yourself before seeking it in anybody else.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      I don't want to come off as neediness I just want him to see how much he means to me. In terms of manipulation, I don't see any of that going on. He doesn't really bother with anything so if I look weak its not like here's his chance to control me. No hes not that type of person. If anything I'm trying to make him care more because he doesnt come off as a person w feelings, it's irritating. So I doubt there's any manipulation going on. And neediness? Idk I don't think so because if I were needy, I think I would've like already tried to live with him or near him or make him be with me. But I haven't even bothered. It's just a feeling of weakness and he makes me feel so vulnerable like if I look weak to anyone it's for someone worth it who makes me happy deep inside and that's him.
      But feeling weak has not been easy. Its hard because if I let him go I'll just be hurting mysel . Until he does something officially messed up, ill always stay w him even if I feel weak. Ya I'll feel weak but I rather have this feeling than lose him completely and be unhappy. I don't think its neediness

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      • [Old Memory]
        9 years ago

        The fact that you said you would be unhappy without him proves your neediness. If you cannot be content with yourself, then you are needy.
        You say you want to make him care but he doesn't have feelings. What makes you think you can do that? People only can change themselves.
        In any relationship you must identify somebody's worst qualities and decide if you can deal with them, because they certainly wont change.
        As somebody who isn't a feeling person, I can say nobody will change that and I actually see it as a strength because I am logical. Most people's feelings seem pretty ridiculous to me and I do not understand why they are that way.
        Stop embracing your weakness. There is nothing good about being weak. Pride and strength are respectable qualities so have some self respect.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          9 years ago

          I guess because I used to be a "no feelings" type of person and now for the first time I have real feelings, it feels good. But once youre feeling weak, you shouldn't pursue those feelings of weakness. Just feel them and move on.

          I have identified his worst qualities such as these which is why I stick around cause he could be telling me to change the things he doesn't like of me but he doesn't cause he knows thats just me and I'll change them if I want to, which I am doing. I guess I'm dealing with his flaws by venting about them. I have to find some way.

          But I don't like having pride either. I do but to a certain extent. Pride can sometimes get in the way of what the person wants because all they're thinking about is themselves and they look to others. They don't know what theyre missing out there if they don't losen up a little. But I am hoping that this journey will provide me the strength that I need for later. I sometimes say "I hope I don't ever feel this way again" but its cause it hurts so hard. But thats what happens when you love so hard. And the loving is the best feeling ever.

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