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In another topic a someone was called selfish for wanting to be in a relationship in which they didn't see a future....
On dating sites however, I have seen a lot of
Looking for dating but nothing serious
What exactly does this mean? Is it selfish?
| Casual sex | 257 | |
| No future | 141 | |
| Other | 62 |
It means "I'm a selfish douchebag who wants all the cool parts of a relationship without any of the commitment".
Sometimes it could mean that they just want sex without commitment, and other times it could mean that they just want to hangout in a date like setting. They could be lonely and want to date, but arent ready for a serious relationship for some reason. Dont judge till you get to know them a little better. But if youre looking fora serious relationship, then look elsewhere for it.
To me, "dating" literally means "we are going on dates" and "nothing serious" literally means "I'm not looking for a committed, long term relationship". Other people might be using those words as a euphemism for casual sex, but if I was using them then it would be literally (which may include casual sex).
If there's no deception then it's okay. If there is deception then it's not okay.
Means they're looking to fool around but they ain't lookin to get down to business and you're probably not the only occupant in their bedroom if you get THAT far...
I've actually used that line more than a few times with guys I've dated. It means: Don't get your hopes up; we will not be in a committed relationship.
In the future, it's best to just ask if it seems unclear. "Dating" someone for 5 or 6 months and not knowing whether you're exclusive or not is not the business.
I've always looked at that as no sex actually. Jusst going out once in a while for coffee or something.
In my opinion it could mean many things.
-If on a guys profile, I think they could have put that so that girls don't think they're only in it for sex when in actuality they are. It broadens their market to the girls who are looking for a relationship, who they can then hook up with and if they break it off afterwards claim "well I did say I wasn't after anything serious"
-If on a girls profile, it could be just a measured approach to let guys know not to get overly attached, so that the girl can be analytical of her prospects with her suitor. Sorta like saying "I'm testing the waters" I will date you but only if sparks fly will I pursue it.
-It could simply mean they're confused about what they want
-It could be a girl who's just into playing headgames
-It could be a commitment-phobe
Well I'm no fan of that type of "relationship" but at least they are being honest and upfront.
What is selfish is to only tell them after the fact.