What do you think of prostitution?

I'm not just referring to prostitution as a job (pimping, advertising, johns, pay extra for spanking, etc.), though that's the most overt form of it...

No, I'm referring to prostitution in a more basic, all-encompassing sense: the act of trading sex for material or monetary gain, or a service. Whether it's done once in a lifetime, or taken as a years-long profession; from having a sugar daddy, to fellating the guy who repaired your car, to outright working in a brothel. This very act of trading sex for a service/money/other gain, where do you stand on it?

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  • lonewolf1253

    The world oldest profession. It should be legalized, just as drugs should be legalized. These so-called crimes are not crimes at all. It is a crime to make it a crime.

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    • Kellyscurse

      Well said.

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    • LuxM4G

      Hear hear old chap!

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  • LuxM4G

    Prostitution is okay, for as long as it is legalized, meaning the working women and men get rights, protection, rules to abide to, like STD's checkups and obligatory condom use, legalized brothels, the works.

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  • shade_ilmaendu

    I don't think there's anything necessarily wrong with it, provided it is legalized and made safe. As things currently stand the sex work industry is ripe with abuse and in worst case a poorly kept secret backdoor to human trafficking; abuse, addiction, rape and other crimes committed within the industry (especially against the sex workers themselves) go unpunished because of it's illegality.

    I say legalize it, make it safe. When perpetuated in a legal way, no one is hurt and it's a service that can improve quality of life for the people who use it - even if I wouldn't participate in either side of that business, I can't think of any good reasons why it shouldn't be allowed.

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    • charli.m

      This.

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  • I personallyfind it disgusting, but at the end of the day, its simply an agreement between a man and a woman, which is none of our business. What happens behind closed doors is behind closed doors. I be me. You be you.

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  • Biman458

    I personally see nothing wrong with prostitution unless it involves children. As adults you can make up your own mind. I have used prostitutes over the years, some on a semi regular basis when I was in between girlfriends. I think it should be legalized. It's going to happen anyways. That way you can regulate health standards and safety.

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  • Rich_Guy

    http://sign.demandprogress.org/?SOURCEProstitution? There is nothing wrong with selling pleasure. Restaurants do it, movie theaters do it, etc, etc. Prostitution, while necessary, does not have a favorable multiplier effect on other sectors of the economy. Neither does alcohol, nor mind destroying drugs. Societies that regulate prostitution discretely, like Amsterdam, minimize the social damages favorably.

    The most productive form of prostitution is "tuition for sex". A sugar daddy arrangement is usually best for the girls. By fucking college girls you are encouraging them to become motivated professionals. Alternatively, "grades for sex" is a terrible form of corruption.

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  • EnglishLad

    I don't think it's a good thing because it's basically exploiting not only the prostitute but also the client, although for some clients, it can be the only way to satisfy a specific niche/fetish/fantasy.

    For example, there may be sexual services which the prostitute will provide that the client's regular partner is not into or curious about. Watersports (pissing), Hardsports (shitting), Blood play, BDSM, and ballbusting/cuntbusting are some of these niches/fantasies I refer to.

    It's immoral in my view to make monetary gain from another person's sexual urges, however, I feel like if prostitutes didn't exist, many people would be very unhappy.

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    • Yes, it seems to be more of a "necessary evil" that gets tolerated because it satisfies some of people's urges.

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      • Kevinevan

        What exactly is evil about it? In my opinion the woman who marries to become a housewife and be looked after is the evil one, because they are dishonest.

        Nothing dishonest about sex for money when it's done knowingly.

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  • Jimbo24

    Prostitution is one of those things that I believe most people don't like, but end up accepting begrudgingly, and implicitly.

    I say that because in my state, offering sexual services and buying them are both supposed to be illegal, a felony even. Yet, just three blocks away from where I live there are a couple of well-known hookers who've been trading BJs and pussy sex and buttsex for years now. And I've never once heard of any of them getting arrested, much less incarcerated. And it's not due to lack of police presence, or even police knowledge. There's also another one, "Mandy", who receives clients in her home. She picks them up from online ads (Craigslist), the guy would send her a pic of himself, and if she's cool with him, he comes, she even has cameras that record everything, makes the guy look at the camera beforehand, that way if he tries anything she can have him identified and arrested for assault or whatever he'd do. So she doesn't even need a pimp. Though it never comes to that cause she deals mostly with regulars, and has been for months now. And with the internet and availability of cameras these days, this seems to be the future of prostitution, she gets to pick the client, records everything for security, and doesn't even have to leave the home. And with the lower cost of ditching the pimp, she gets to lower the price a little and keep a steady supply of interested guys (depending on surrounding competition).

    Anyway, my point is that can you imagine if someone kept breaking the law like that, over and over again, for some other crime? Like you go one night and commit an armed robbery, and then the next night commit another one, and so on, and yet no one ever bothers you, even though there's no shortage of police around the area? And like when the neighbors catch you committing your robbery, they'll go, "Hey listen you do your thing, whatever, but can you just keep it discreet and not in front of children? K thanks"? No way that happens. And yet that's what happens with prostitutes, who are technically criminals.

    And it's not just here. When the police interviewed that hooker after the Vegas shooting last month, because she'd spent the night with him a few days before, when they were done with her about possible info on the guy, they were like, "Okay see ya later! You can go back to work" Even though what she did with Paddock was supposed to be a misdemeanor in the Vegas Strip. In other words, whatever the laws on the books say, this particular crime is rarely enforced, and only a fraction of those who break it end up behind bars.

    Now I won't go all manosphere here and claim they're getting a free pass simply because they're women. Because for one thing, women who are guilty of other crimes do get arrested and the whole nine yards. And for another, it's not the only 'barely enforced' law, pot smokers for instance rarely get looked by cops in several states. No, rather, I just see that as society throwing its hand in the air, and tacitly accepting that this practice will keep being around as it has always been, from dirt-poor Third World countries to developed nations even where nobody risks starving to death and everyone has a shelter over his head, and where pre-marital relations are accepted and most men can have girlfriends and wives. And yet..

    But we keep it illegal anyway. Because no politician wants to be the guy to come forward and say, "Hey this useless law is just here to look pretty and put a front of respectability on society," or run a legalize prostitution platform and introduce the Let Hoes Be bill.

    So aside from times of war or some such, where it becomes a necessity for soldiers who are separated from the opposite sex for months, where there isn't much material to masturbate to, and so resorting to local whores will be all that remains for relief.. aside from those rare exceptions, I think few people will say it's okay, at least in respectable circles or mainstream society. My guess is we'll keep denouncing it in theory and (mostly) looking the other way in practice as we've done so far, at least when it comes to the 'profession' version of the trade. Other things like porn and dancing half-naked in suggestive music videos we don't even pretend to try and ban anymore.

    My own vote would be "Okay only if it's done temporarily or rarely in one's lifetime". Hey if you ever paid a rent or two with a roll in the hay, and or if you made some extra cash to buy whatever by posing for some shots or video.. so long as you don't make your living out of it, I guess there are worse things in life. But that's where I'd draw the line.

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    • Interesting read, Jimbo. Yes, prostitution seems to be one of those things we just tolerate begrudgingly, mainly because it's so ubiquitous, if not from direct sale of sex, then the sale of sexy in music and ads and elsewhere.

      To be honest I don't know where I'd draw the line myself. If I voted it'd be "not sure".

      Thanks for your input!

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    • Re: law enforcement intervention. Law enforcement does intervene, but it's generally in cases where there's suspicion of trafficking or violence or minors involved. But yes, when it seems to be just peaceful "trade", they tend to look the other way.

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      • Jimbo24

        Yeah, they usually only meddle when it gets out of hand.

        Btw, prostitution isn't the only practice that's technically illegal but gets looked over. I also mentioned the use of pot in many areas (how many pot smokers and users you have gotten arrested and locked up for it?) But there's also polygamy.

        When was the last time you've heard of a polygamist arrested and prosecuted because of that? There are a few thousands of them in Utah. Even though it's supposed to be illegal. Remember Warren Jeffs? His father was a well-known figure in the LSD church and had several wives, and never made a secret of it. And yet he was never bothered by law enforcement. Same thing with his son, several wives, went on for years, police and prosecutors looked the other way... When did they intervene? When Warren started fiddling with the kiddies, and word got out there was coercion and all. Then they started looking for him, and he ran away, and all that story that ensued.

        Yeah some illegal things like pot, prostitution, and polygamy are rarely enforced. I think it's because most people don't care that much about them, or those who practice them to begin with. So law enforcement would rather focus on other crimes, except for when it gets out of hand and minors get involved or it gets violent and stuff like that.

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  • snoid

    I think its much better to see a prostitute than to rape or be a pedophile!

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  • NashamaTheWeird

    Many people around the world must engage in prostitution in order to survive, either because it is the only way for them to make money or because they are forced into it and face violent retaliation if they attempt to leave. Their are also many other people who turn to prostitution not to survive, but to finance an addiction or fill some sort of emotional need, and others still who have encountered so much sexual abuse during their childhoods that they have lost any boundaries regarding sexuality. In all these cases, these are people who need to be helped, not criminalized. By punishing prostitutes the legal system is punishing victims of abuse, violence, and poverty.

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    • That's quite a leap equating prostitution automatically with being a victim of some sort of abuse. Prostitution is literally everywhere, women have always used their body to gain something in exchange, from constantly posting half-naked pictures of yourself on Instagram to land a rich or high-status guy to dressing sexy and provocatively to gain access to a club to the tens of thousands who pose for magazines and other adult outlets. It's just a case of women realizing that their bodies and sexuality has value to men, and so they use that value to gain some other value in exchange. And it's a stretch to link this to some sort of abuse or exploitation by default. Especially that this has been in us even before we were human, male bonobos give a couple of nuts to female bonobos, and then have sex with them.

      Also, everything we do in life is the result of either need, necessity, or to fill some sort of emotional or bodily craving. Literally everything, from brushing your teeth, to wanting to check social media every ten minutes, to scrapping toilets for money. Even the clients of prostitutes go and spend their money to fill some sexual or emotional need of theirs, and some can't stop.

      When you broaden definitions that much, everything becomes abuse and exploitation.

      Overt acts of abuse and violence are already illegal, whether in the context of prostitution or other. And those who commit get arrested and thrown in prison every day of every year. At least in developed countries.

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      • NashamaTheWeird

        Not everyone who engages in prostitution has been a victim of abuse, but many have, and the criminalization of prostitution targets people who are disproportionately likely to be suffering from poverty, domestic violence, or mental illness. If you think that people who are forced into prostitution or engage in it out necessity are not prosecuted, you are unfortunately mistaken. If you research the topic, you will find many cases of victims of exploitation being convicted of prostitution, including children. If a prostitute is addicted to drugs, they can be prosecuted for that as well.

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        • Okay, you slightly strayed from my point. I wasn't talking about how many prostitutes do get arrested or not. Yes, if it's illegal some of them will get arrested and jailed. I was responding to your assumption that sees prostitution as abuse or some kind of cruel necessity by default.

          A woman who was coerced into prostitution cannot be prosecuted, that's not true. And there have been well-known cases of that, actually thousands, like the ones that broke out of Rotherham, England a few years ago where it turned out thousands of teenaged girls were pimped out and prostituted. Well guess what, zero of them were prosecuted or jailed.

          If there's actual exploitation, then what kind of sick judge would punish someone who was forced into something? But something tells me your definition of exploitation is closer to just acting on any need, like a woman needed money for something so she had sex for that cash. But that's not really the same as coercion, not enough to not be held accountable for it, that's just a confluence of unfortunate circumstances so she needed the money or something, happens to everyone.

          I think most women who sell their sex or their sexy could very well survive and lead okay lives without doing so, especially in this day and age. The assumption that violence and coercion and dirt poverty and addiction to crack are the norm among those who get into sex work sound more like leftist sob narratives of which I've never seen actual studies or statistics supporting than the actual reality of most hookers.

          For the record, I don't think any of them should be prosecuted for anything. I think the law and law enforcement should only be concerned with coercion and threats and violence from unwanted pimps and johns.

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          • NashamaTheWeird

            There are cases of girls as young as 14 being convicted of prostitution. These girls were perhaps not literally forced into it, but they were young and vulnerable, and once they entered prostitution it was very difficult to get out. While accurate statistics are hard to come by, it has been estimated that about 75 percent of prostitutes have experienced childhood sexual abuse. Between 40 and 85 percent of street prostitutes are addicted to drugs, depending on the location. While these women were probably not physically forced into prostitution, and could technically survive without it, they are still vulnerable, and still need to be helped, not stigmatized or criminalized, this is something we seem to be in agreement on.

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            • I'd like to have some references on these statistics if you have them, and on that 14-year-old. Cause I'm highly dubious of them.

              Also keep in mind that street prostitution is on its way out and getting less and less common since the advent of the internet.

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  • Bipolarjetlag

    🕯I will pray for you🕯

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  • Alduin

    I think prostitution is ok but I'd never dabble in it.

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  • xfg63

    Prostitutes end up in dumpsters when insisting on condom use.

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  • suckonthis9

    I think that every normal adult, is a 'prostitute'.
    If they claim that they're not, then they are either a liar, or a weirdo.

    Don't believe me? Look it up.

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    • Im curious about what you're alluding to. Do you mean, for example, women who marry for money? That is the most common example of prostitution in my eyes. Its also less honorable than those posting on backpage, because backpage hookers are at least being geniune and not luring men under the guise of love and family.

      Ur ball.

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      • suckonthis9

        No, what I'm alluding to, is that just about every married person is a prostitute.

        At least that's what they better say, otherwise they could be charged (indicted), tried, and convicted under discrimination laws!

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    • How so?

      That would only the case if you stretch the definition really wide as to include other things than sex, like ditching your principles for money or something -- but that's not what I'm referring nor what most people would think of as actual prostitution.

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      • suckonthis9

        What's the matter?

        You need to hide from the truth?

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        • I wasn't the one who hid it. The site's moderators must've deleted that chain of comments.

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  • Pumpurrnickel

    I think it's disgusting, and any person involved in it as lower than me. But I can't find a reason why it's morally wrong, I'll admit.

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    • Kevinevan

      You should look again. Thinking people are "lower" than you, makes you one of the worst people about imho.

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      • charli.m

        ...says the little boy who thinks women are "lower" than him...

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        • Kevinevan

          Not lower, just pains in the neck bitches.

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          • charli.m

            Thanks for proving my point.

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      • Pumpurrnickel

        So if I think of a child rapist as lower than me, I'm one of the worst people out there? Flawed logic.

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        • Kevinevan

          You mean Reductio ad absurdum. Reducing an Argument to the absurd, which is what you just did?

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          • Pumpurrnickel

            "Thinking people are "lower" than you, makes you one of the worst people about imho."

            You clearly stated that thinking of anyone as lower than you makes you one of the worst people out there. I just gave an absurd example to your absurd opinion. Seems fair to me.

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            • Kevinevan

              "Clearly"?? When did I state "anyone". Obviously murderers and rapists are a special class of scum.

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            • Kevinevan

              And you stated I was using flawed logic by stating my opinion and then used a common logical fallacy to show why.

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