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...long after you've broken up? How about someone else's ex (who you were friends with when they were married) who shows up out of the blue saying they want to be with you? By long in theses cases I mean between 5 and 8 years.
Personally, I think it's weird.
| probably desperate and lonely | 40 | |
| discovered their feelings tardily | 14 | |
| Other | 12 |
I had this happen to me once, except it was three years. The thing that makes it weird was that I was in a two year relationship at that point, and made that clear on my myspace- where he found me. He also made his myspace account specifically for me and about me, and had recited a poem upon requesting to add me, as well as told me what a huge mistake he made. We only went out for three months. Now that's not normal.
However, (even though I still wouldn't be interested), If he had asked me to consider -dating- him, while I was single, on a profile he happened to already have, that would make him normal.
So the question isn't if someone wants to be with you after a long gap of time, but more like is he sane and just throwing out there.
It depends on what they say when they find you.
I've missed you all of these years is romantic. Staring, breathing heavily, and then pulling you into a Volkswagen Station Wagon full of Libyans is not!
I know a few people, and oh man, if they're out there missing me... wanting to see me... I'd more welcome it... I'd be afraid too... I'd probably ask if they're in therapy and stuff... if not, I'd probably recommend it, but at least it would be nice, for me, to be missed.
I think of them, and I miss them. One day I may find them. Maybe not. I left for a reason. I think it's moreso nice, and romantic than creepy though. It's like a disney movie. True love never dies. A guy I had a crush on said that.
In the case of the person you're just friends with, that is a little weird.
People can change a lot in 5 to 8 years. It seems like beating a dead horse to me. It is more exciting to meet someone new and take a chance with that. At least you have no clue about each others baggage and can start off fresh and journey into unknown territory with one another.
Seeking out exes is just kind of blah. Its almost predatory in a way.
Ofcourse it's normal to not think how weird that isn't. But it's still not very good if you think it's weird because some people might also find it pretty dumb but more normal to begin with, so I don't know what you mean by that.
Everyone thinks it should be more or less the case. But you clearly don't know why you don't think you have more people telling you that it's a good thing for the first time. But only after that will you see that it will be worse so why bother at all if it isn't what you think it can't be before it is?
Could also be that they were finally honest with themselves? I hear a lot people say that they can never forget that first person they fell in love with. It's kind of romantic to think of them perusing that person. Weather it'll work out or not is a whole nother story though
If that happened to me, I wouldn't even consider getting together. Things happen for a reason. There was probably a really good reason we broke up and issues like that don't just disappear, I'm sure in time those same reasons would get in the way of our relationship. An old flame shouldn't be lit again. In my opinion, if it couldn't last the first time, it won't last long the second time.
It happens in the movies.
Depending on who it is, I could be flattered, creeped out, angry our disconcerted.
Between 5 and 8 years, I wouldn't say desperate and lonely. They would have met other, more recent people to chase after if they are desperate and lonely. It's too long just to discover feelings too.
5 years is a long time. Life progresses, things change and so do we. The two people won't be the same people who fell in love 5 years ago.
If my ex contacted me in 5 years, I could not give a flying fuck at all. I'd ignore it and carry on as normal.