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Why do you think some people are chubby chasers, fat fetishists etc.? What causes this?
| need for attention | 2 | |
| early sexually trauma/conditioning | 3 | |
| they decide to be one | 15 | |
| low self-esteem | 6 | |
| it's genetic/born that way | 15 | |
| supressed desire for humiliation | 3 | |
| weak character | 0 |
Maybe it's their personal taste and they just happen to find chubby individuals cute. Nothing wrong with that.
Some of us just like big guys/girls instead of skinny ones? For me it had to do with masturbation at a very, very early age (like, 4 years old maybe, and I remember doing it because I wanted to pee and someone was in the bathroom) while for some unknown reason thinking about fatness.
Because the skin of thinner girls tears when you try to wear it. Especially when they haven't been applying lotion regularly.
Big Girls aren't stuck on themselves and high maintenance. They can be just as pretty as a thin girl and value their men and relationships. I'm in my 50's and found that thin girls often think they are special because they are thin. Fat girls take better care of their man. The best sex I've have ever had was with big girls. They want to please you. Thin girls are self centered with shitty personalities. I'll take the nice big girl any day over some thin high maintenance pain in the ass.
It's not possible that it's because they're attracted to them? WOW... not everyone's definition of "hot" is the same...
LOL. Maybe. But I do know what our culture considers hot and its not obesity. I suppose given your reply we can "note" you as judgemental. :)
You can't speak for people with what you say 'culture' finds hot. What you're calling culture is a very narrow field of mass-media, advertising and pornography.
What real people find hot is all kinds of shapes and sizes.
I'm pretty sure it's not normal to base what you like and dislike on what 'society' thinks. I'm a chubby chaser myself and if I acted like I don't like chubby guys just because society looks down on them, then I'd be really unfair to myself.
LOL thats awesone downvoted for saying the truth that no one wants to hear.
I think that part of what you said it true. For some people, I think they kind of "settle" I guess you could say. Maybe because they just want some type of relationship in their life.
I also think that for some people, they maybe don't mind the extra weight if the person is really nice? Maybe the person will try harder in the relationship. Maybe they don't have to worry as much about certain things compared to if they were in a relationship with a stereotypically attractive person.
But there is also the option that they genuinely find people with some extra weight attractive. Women with bigger hips and a little bit of extra weight can often seem attractive to people probably because they look better suited to bear children. And for some people, I assume this becomes a fetish.
I sometimes find girls who are just a little on the chubby side pretty cute. Not so much if they are really overweight or obese, but I see why some people would develop a fetish for it.
I have a friend who recently got a girlfriend who is for sure pretty overweight. I kind of thought the same thing at first. He hadn't ever really talked about liking bigger women and he in fact sometimes even made fun of them, so I was confused and thought he maybe was just settling for her because he really just wanted a girlfriend or something. After seeing them together, I think they really do like each other. She's really nice to him, seems very loyal, low maintenance... so I kind of see that maybe it's some other things that he gets out of it that make it worth it to him. Unless he's secretly been a chubby chaser all along haha.
I never said they couldn't end up being in a meaningful relationship and I imagine some guys either like women that way or grow to like them if thats where they find success. But its difficult to believe they wouldn't like someone that actually takes care of themself.
I see guys with bigger girls eye fucking me all the time and the look on there face says they would love to trade up. Alot of stereotypes aren't true ppl assume I must be high maintenance or I'd leave for a better deal but I've never cheated in a relationship but I've been cheated on.
Reading what you posted again you could be construed as being shallow like I was in this topic. Its a shame becos some ppl don't like hearing the truth. And in our culture especially with women being fit is more desirable if someone is settling for less there must be a reason. I listed some and so did you. So I guess we're both shallow ppl.
I'm ok with it tho I like who I am.
A great example is a lot of black guys tend to like "curvier" women if you know what I mean. I have seen and heard of some really fit, in shape, even buff black dudes who would be considered pretty good looking specifically go for plus size white women. Some guys truly prefer it.
I don't think it's shallow to point out the reality... as long as you acknowledge all sides of the story in a respectful way.
Also I'm not trying to assume that you're high maintenance or anything or that you would cheat.
It's just that in general, some girls, especially some girls who have received a lot of attention from guys, maybe don't feel like they need to try as hard. Or... they don't really feel like they need to put themselves out there as much because the guy will just go for them and there will always be another guy if one doesn't work out.
Girls who haven't received as much attention lots of times will go the extra mile in certain ways and for some guys, that's enough to convince them.
BUT that doesn't mean there aren't some really "pretty" or "hot" girls out there who give 110% in their relationships, too. I only say this because I have also seen the opposite where girls who I didn't think were as "hot" were kinda mean where as some girls who I thought would be bitchy because they were "hot" were actually really nice.
But yeah idk beauty is in the eye of the beholder! I mean gosh... I found girls of all shapes and sizes to be attractive. I've seen girls who are thinner who look gorgeous, I've also seen girls who are chubby who take my breath away. And all shapes and sizes in between!
Someone who has had much more experience in life than me recently told me something like "The best scenario is you find a girl who is pretty, but she doesn't know it". ;)
"I see guys with bigger girls eye fucking me all the time and the look on there face says they would love to trade up." Wow that some ego. I know I know it's true (in your mind at least)...
I think that skinny guys who date fat girls must have really big willies.
Or they have small penises but they want the onlooking skinny girls to think they have big willies.
The Martingale Strategy.