What do you think about this strange situation?

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You see, a while ago I met on Instagram a pilot who was interested in me. He lives some days in the same city as me. We started talking, he wrote me a whole month, daily, telling me about his life, his things ... and telling me that he liked me very much. We had a great time chatting, we always had funny talks, he made jokes, I made jokes, we connected. Until one day he told me that he had a girlfriend but that the relationship was not really functioning, he avoided sex with her most of the times, he was not in love but felt responsible for her, as she moved to live near him for him. I tried to cut off our communication, but he was insistent and I was already a little attached. His intentions were to see me the times he was in the city, without his girlfriend knowing.

I considered the situation, and I thought that the idea didn't seem bad to me because I just came out of a toxic relationship and I don't want anything serious.

In the end, we saw each other. He booked a Hotel, paid for the drinks, invited me to everything I wanted, and in the end we went to his Hotel. Between laughs and jokes we ended up kissing, and we had sex. He was absolutely attentive, gentle and soft, the sex really lasted 5 minutes, the rest were kisses, caresses, he wanted to do oral sex, he constantly wondered how I felt, and at the end he slept hugging me all night. I felt overwhelmed by love as never before. When I pulled away he hugged me back and approached me to him. I felt he didn't want to get away from me.

owever, since that day he disappeared without a trace. Neither looks at my messages, nor looks at my stories ... nothing, as if it never existed. For me it was absolutely weird because we both knew it wasn't serious and it couldn't be because he had a partner, but I didn't understand this extreme reaction. What do you think?

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  • bleedingdiarhea
    4 years ago

    Just in case this isnt a troll post I'm going to ask you a simple question:
    Do you think he used you like a cheap whore?

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    • Yuna
      4 years ago

      No, I don't think so because we had a friendship bond. He was not a bad person, I am talking from my perceptions because I am very intuitive. I don't know what happened, but that's not the point.

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    • RoseIsabella
      4 years ago

      I do. Lots of shitty people use these fake sob stories to manipulate others. If someone is trying to talk to me, but isn't single I ain't even gonna give him the time of day. There's no future in going with someone who is already taken, because once a cheater, always a cheater. If someone is willing to cheat on their partner they will lie to anyone in a heartbeat.

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  • CDmale4fem
    4 years ago

    Being he is a pilot, I vote for "another notch in his bedpost, and I really doubt he has a gf. That's his "hit and miss". He can tell you he has a gf, see your reaction and then when it happened like it did he can always blame it on the non existent gf. Otherwise he goes on finding women to take advantage of and still be the whore slut he sounds like.

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  • dimwitted
    4 years ago

    If this was just for sex he put in a lot of time and effort. I think he had to bail because he was found out.

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    • Yuna
      4 years ago

      Well, really too much time and effort, taking into account that nowadays it is absolutely easy to get sex. And as I need to know the person some time before having sex, I postergate the meeting for one and half month more or less.

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  • Applecandie
    4 years ago

    Two options here: either he lied to you the whole time and just really wanted to hook up (very possible since guys would lie to unbelievable extent to get laid)
    Or maybe he spent time with you but he didn’t really consider it as cheating until you two met in real life, so once you’ve done that he felt really bad for his gf and remorses is eating him up.
    Either ways, I think that it’s for the best that you don’t talk anymore.

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    • Yuna
      4 years ago

      I had the same two answers in mind. Or even he felt that if this continues and we continue seeing each other will complicate too much his life. He wanted something superficial and funny and everything went so intense... In any case, I am continuing my life, I have no time for such games.

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      • Applecandie
        4 years ago

        Good for you!
        You don’t seem to be burned or suffering from it, like you said you didn’t want something serious.
        It’s for the best, really.

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  • RoseIsabella
    4 years ago

    He was probably lying about his situation, and just trying to manipulate you into feeling sorry for him so he could cheat on his girlfriend. It looks like you bought his bullshit hook, line and sinker, then he used you for sex, and just threw you away. He might even have a wife.

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  • Boojum
    4 years ago

    The most charitable explanation of what he did is that he felt guilty about hooking up with you. From how you describe your time together, maybe it's even possible he felt an immediate sense of connection to you, but he knew you weren't looking for something long-term and he had his girlfriend to consider, so he decided that staying in touch with you could only make his life more complicated and difficult.

    Or maybe he's a player, everything he said was a lie, and once he'd had you, he lost all interest in you.

    You're the one who got to know the guy and spent some time with him, so only you can decide which of those explanations makes the most sense. If you're unsure, you can choose to believe the one that makes you feel the most positive about yourself.

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