What do you think about quiet/shy people?

I happen to be that kind of person. More observing and listening rather than contributing in deep conversation or cooperating in common and fun activities. I've just always wondered what people think of that behavior.

I was just at this 4th of July party and people were pointing out how quiet and distant I was being. Of course I wasn't aware of how quiet I was. I was just enjoying the fireworks and the beautiful view from where we were.

I want to be more outgoing and social but that just isn't me most of the time. I guess it's been that way ever since childhood.

So what do you think about those reserved quiet people you notice through out life?

I don't think any less of them for being quiet. 40
They annoy me. 0
They are interesting and mysterious. 21
They are weird. 5
They have no character or personality. 2
I'd have to get to know them first. 27
Other (comment) 6
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Comments ( 19 )
  • dom180

    They aren't any better or worse than anyone else. I know people who think all of those things you listed, but I think adding all this baggage to words like "quiet" doesn't make sense. There are quiet people who are interesting and quiet people who aren't, some who are annoying and some who aren't... all quiet people are is quiet. It doesn't mean anything else.

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  • You left out what is probably the most common judgment which is that they are being boring.

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  • ScooterNyne

    I have been VERY shy my entire life. I'm always in the distance of a gathering. when everyone laughs I just laugh to myself and no one can hear me. It's made it very hard to meet new people and make relationships.

    What I find most interesting about my own shyness though is that it is usually based around the people I actually hang out with. My shyness tends to attract other strange people, which I like, but the social energy is weak to begin with.
    If I somehow find my way into a group of people who are rowdy and like to party though I am much more open and expressive.

    It's funny. Most of the time I thought my shyness was based around how well I knew the group. But I have known my best friends for years now and I'm still quiet as a mouse around them. But around my work buddies I am loud and outgoing and eager to take on the world.

    Anyway, about the general populous. Shy people are usaully very nice people who enjoy other peoples happiness more than their own. They aren't better or worse than a normal person they just find different ways to enjoy the moment.

    And if you hate being shy like I hate it, I have found several things that help me open up like a social butterfly. Music everyone can jam to, Drinking, funny stories and jokes, party games, and for me, a nice relaxing smoke.

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    • Runswithscissors

      Thank you so much for this!!!

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  • theseeker

    I've always been one of those quiet/shy personality types too. I definitely understand where you are coming from when people point out how quiet you are. I always found those moments to be awkward and uncomfortable. It always made me feel different from everybody else and so I just wanted to be by myself. Hence, why I'm pretty much a loner (for the most part) to this day.

    Shyness is a phase some people go through. If you truly want to be more outgoing I think you will learn to overcome it.

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  • myboyfriendsbitch

    Why are you asking a bunch of quiet people? We all think we're awesome shitbuckets.

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  • kelili

    I usually think that they are perverts.

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    • EdgeFencer

      You're a pervert

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  • RomeoDeMontague

    That they are shy quiet people.

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  • Valentina

    Most of the ones I've seen tended to be boring but very nice and loyal

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  • U.O.E.N.O.

    I'm one too U.O.E.N.O. it.

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  • Anime7

    In my experience the shy people that I've dealt with were usually damaged in someway, of course this doesn't apply to every shy person, but I feel that because of this they are very good conversationalists when they open up.

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  • Wendell

    Fuck them (I am one of those people)

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  • Not-recognizable

    I think they're awkward

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  • NormalIsOverratedBeANinja

    I wish everyone was quiet. Then maybe I wouldn't have to put up with people's stupid small talk and answer a bunch of pointless questions. I tend to gravitate toward quiet people myself, and we can get along really well by not saying anything to each other.

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    • EdgeFencer

      Yeah I actually find those moments the most comfortable where we can both enjoy each other's presence without having to make small talk. But most people just find it awkward and boring and have to come up with some subject no matter how irrelevant or pointless it might be.

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      • NormalIsOverratedBeANinja

        Yeah.

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  • rustybabboon

    Book, cover, etc. Quiet doesn't imply shallow/boring, -or- depth/introspection. But you're limiting yourself if you disregard quiet people. Finding meaningful ways to engage in conversation outside of the comfortable small talk you're used to also makes YOU a better conversationalist. Sometimes your reward is an incredibly dull conversation, but other times you find real gems.

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  • Shackleford96

    I understand them.

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