What do you think a date is?

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I recently asked a girl I've known a few days out on a date. I got rejected which was fine, I was about to turn and leave but then she got unbelievably nervous and started going on and on about reasons why.

Later she messaged me on facebook, and making a long story short she thought a date was the automatic start of a relationship, like she thought it meant we would be going steady that second if she said yes.

Idk maybe it's just me, but I don't consider a date to necessarily be the start of a relationship. To me and I thought this was a common thought, a date, especially a first date is an event where the 2 people go out, talk to each other and get to know one another, with some flirting mixed in. And then after the date they can decide where they want to take things from there.

Is it normal she thought that saying yes to a first date was the same as agreeing to be in a steady, committed relationship?

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Based on 21 votes (11 yes)
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  • Robyn100
    7 years ago

    A date usually demonstrates a desire to get to know a person better with the possibility of a relationship.

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  • CreamPuffs
    7 years ago

    It's a waste of time and money.

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  • _Mehhhh_
    7 years ago

    When I was new to dating, I took it more seriously and (naively) considered it a "relationship" after one successful date... and then wondered why so many guys seemed to get turned off me so fast.

    Now I just look at dating as something fun. It's just meeting a new person and seeing if you like them. I'd be hesitant to call anything a "relationship" until at least a few weeks or even months of consistent regular dating.

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  • NotAgain..
    7 years ago

    Musta been a newbie.... See now, she went about it the wrong way. She shoulda just said no. If you asked her why, THEN she coulda gone on with her rant to her heart's content yepyepyep

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  • Tealights
    7 years ago

    Your definition is excellent and correct. Unfortunately, to some desperate people, yeah, going out for coffee, accepting a gift, and more unseemly innocent things, is the same as saying yes to a relationship. It's good that she's aware of that, but it's even better that she explained her reasoning with you.

    Desperation isn't a nice thing to encounter when dating, and can even ruin your perspective of dating all together. Most likely she had a terrible experience with a desperate guy/girl who wanted a relationship with her badly and took even the smallest of gestures too far, or she may have known someone who experienced something similar and traumatizing. Either way, something has made her overly cautious toward the idea of dating; you can either make your definition of dating crystal clear to her and take things slow, or move on.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      That's one of the most well thought out, and detailed responses I've ever received, Thank You.

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  • motherfuckersonscousin
    7 years ago

    Don't worry about the date bro,just bend that slut over and pump her pimpley ass

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