What do you argue about?

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OK so I've been married a long time and we've never really argued as we both have the freedom to do whatever we choose. I often read about people arguing with their partners and I can't even imagine what they would argue about. If you're arguing, do you not think you may be with the wrong one? Anyway, I tried to think of some things that might provoke an argument...

staying out all night 1
tv 0
no gifts for birthday etc. 0
no communication 7
over-drinking 3
too much drug use 1
Other 3
working late 2
friends 2
bad driving 0
going on holiday with friends not you 0
sex 7
family 3
not going out on dates 0
friends 0
being late 0
money 2
answering phone on a date 0
opposite sex friends 2
selfishness 4
sports 0
jealousy 6
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  • dappled
    12 years ago

    In my relationships, arguments have usually not been about the thing that's really bothering one of us. Something gets blown up out of proportion (like not emptying the dishwasher) and it's only later you find out it's because one of you was insecure or irritated about something entirely different.

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    • MissClaire
      12 years ago

      So true, I mean no sane person could be that mad about not emptying the dishwasher (for example) - its 99% of the time something else.
      Its all about respect, try not to lash out at your sig other re: stupid shit derived from the real issue - talk about the real issue - it always feels better.

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      • dappled
        12 years ago

        MissClaire! Where have you been hiding? I thought you'd gone away. As for the advice, I couldn't agree with you more. Honesty is by far the best policy.

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        • MissClaire
          12 years ago

          lol, been crazy at work lately... gets in the way sometimes ;)
          Nice to be back..... seeing everyone again....... reading your wisdome.
          Nice to see/talk to you again too! You never stop making me laugh slash make me feel normal :)

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  • howaminotmyself
    12 years ago

    I don't really have arguments with my husband. We have intense conversations where we strip down both literally and metaphoricly and talk about all the things that make us feel angry or disatisfied with each other, or with ourselves. Sometimes it takes four hours to figure out, but we always figure it out. It helps that we know each other better than we know ourselves. Sometimes we just need to reintroduce each other to ourselves. It's a game of I'll show you your shadow if you show me mine.

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  • pandabear1209
    12 years ago

    I don't like fighting, usually I avoid my bf til iv calmed down then we talk about whatever made us mad. Usually its about canceled plans, and not being considerate.

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  • willshakeslova
    12 years ago

    My boyfriend and I have completely different types of friends. I can't stand any of his, I think they are annoying and self centered. My friends are more kind and welcoming to other people. We mostly fight because I feel like he spends too much time with the wrong kind of people and it rubs off on him. I wish he would take the time to get to know my friends, because I have always been with him and his friends whether I like them or not.

    None of that other stuff is ever an issue for us.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    I think that the biggest mistake people make when they argue is that they don't state what's annoying them but rather lapse into hurling insults at the other person. If you stick to the point the other person will usually listen and help to fix the problem.

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  • catywompus
    12 years ago

    We don't fight too much. There used to be a lot of arguements over money ( or lack there of ) but that's greatly improved since we moved. Usually, if I'm cranky, he knows to just back off a little and I'll be in a better mood soon, and vice versa. We're pretty good like that.

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  • Yumazing
    12 years ago

    My boyfriend and I don't argue a lot, but when we do, oh man.
    It's mostly about one of us being out too late at work and or partying too hard. The latter is always fought whilst hungover. Fun, right?

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