What do i do about my gay friend hitting on me?

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Well, I have friend/co-worker who I just met a few months ago. He is gay, but from the very beginning, almost every time we hang out, he hits on me. I am a straight woman, and I have become very close to him as a friend. I sleep in his bed all the time. But the more he sends me mixed signals, the more I am attracted to him. I have told him how I feel, but he doesn't take any real responsiblity for the situation. THis is how it all started....The first time we hung out, he wanted to go down on me, and after that he has been giving me mixed signals. One time at a party, he begged me to kiss him and after that, he couldn't seem to stop wanting to kiss me, and he said, "DOn't do this to me!" What?! He swears he is not bi, and that he isn't really attracted to me sexually, it is more just a gesture of deep friendship when he says he would be "willing to do anything I might need" in bed. What?! I have to say that the chemistry between us is very strong, and our mutual friends can see it to, and are a bit baffled by our situation. I think maybe he is confused, and after identifying himself as gay for so long, does not want to deal with this. What does everyone out there think?

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Gross. He is a whore unless he really isn't gay and is just using it as a plot to get in your pants. Works in the movies right? Lol xD

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  • randomjelly
    13 years ago

    My gay guy friends are the same. I think it's just being sexually...umm...well whorish! Lol!

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  • Shiloh128964
    13 years ago

    Well... I would think that he isn't actually gay.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Any gay guy that says they want to go down on you, is either playing immature games or isn't actually gay.

    Also any person who is truly gay, attracted solely to men, wouldn't even consider doing sexual stuff with a woman.

    I think you need to tell him calmly and gently, that he should take some time to figure himself out because otherwise he's just playing with both of your emotions and lives.

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  • BatmanIsTheMessiah
    12 years ago

    I had a friend who told everyone he was gay just to get with girls. I stopped being friends with him and i told everyone the truthand no one beleived me and they called me a homophobe. Dont screw up a good friendship, tell him the truth and how you feel and maybe he will tell you the truth. This shit happens.

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  • Avant-Garde
    12 years ago

    Maybe, he's bi and just trying to test the waters?

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  • NotSoLaky
    13 years ago

    Maybe hes doing that because he is humiliated of being gay? Or maybe a gay trauma in the past? Dont b quick to judge

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  • nocharge
    13 years ago

    I think you're the one who's confused. Something like this doesn't happen unless you let it happen.

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  • normaliscrazy
    13 years ago

    hes not really gay unless he is playing a game to get into your pants?
    maybe you should sit him down and ask him why he does it if hes gay?
    you should say that hes sending you mixed signals and that your picking up n them that he likes you and that you want to know if he does or if hes just confused?
    hope this helps..

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    I'd just say in a nice way. I don't go that way but still accept for who he is.I would stil love him for who he is and suport him..

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  • [email protected]
    13 years ago

    Okay, well, he has a kid from a short marriage 20 years ago. she's 20 now. I really think that maybe he has issues about the failed marriage and his image of himself in a straight relationship....I think he doesn't want to deal with being involved with a woman again after identifying himself as gay for all these years. But I think I need to give him an ultimatum....the whole psuedo intimate relationship that is going on between us is killing me. And I am NOT going to sleep with him if he won't even admit that he wants me.....he's kind of pissing me off. It's not fair to me and if he cares about me he needs to get himself together.

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