What can i do to meet my ideal guys if i hang out with guys all the ti

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I have more guy friends than girl friends therefore, I go out with guys more often. But I'm starting to realize that it has been getting in my way of meeting guys in terms of dating, liking, etc. I'll spot one and get all giddy but I have my friend, who's a guy (generally speaking), who looks like he's my boyfriend or I'm on a date which is completely not the case, me and whatever friend I'm with are just that, friends. I can't go out by myself and even if I go out with a good gf of mine, I don't know...I feel like I am not me if we happen to come across some guys; I get all shy and when Im with my guy friends I am more me. So if only they knew that my guy friend next to me is just my friend, that would be great cause I'm more myself when I'm with them so they'll get to know me as a person not as one of the girls we met at the mall or what not.

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  • disthing
    12 years ago

    If you see a guy you like, approach him alone. Explain you're just here with your FRIENDS, that way he'll assume none of the group is your boyfriend, and assume since you approached him that you're single. Start a casual conversation. In general guys are more likely to be flattered by being 'chatted up' since it's such a rare thing to expect from a girl.

    If you want to wait for a guy to approach you instead (coward :P ) then you'll have to accept that a group of guys around 1 girl appears as too much competition or intimidation for the average man to want to deal with. You're better off with one or two female friends, even if you're not exactly yourself. If a guy approaches you, have your friend(s) either go off to the toilet or engage each other in exclusive conversation, leaving you and the gentleman to get to know each other, and you can be more yourself.

    But hey, I personally think if you want something go grab it, don't wait for it to come to you.

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  • SoccerStud88
    12 years ago

    on a scale of 1-10 how hot are you?

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    • dom180
      12 years ago

      on a scale of 1-10 how old are you?

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      • Unimportant
        12 years ago

        on a scale of 1-10 how amazing is this conversation?

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  • asbalik
    11 years ago

    we are human we have brain , only animals make sex with mother

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  • rsw
    12 years ago

    I find the best way to meet new GF's is when i'm out with a group of mates. This is then neutral territory and allows people the chance to mix without the need for any awkward silences etc. I hear what you're saying though, you find if difficult and nervy when you are in the company of anyone you like. I'm afraid the only (legal) remedy to this situation is too drink the correct amount of alcohol, so that you can lose some of the inhibitions. But you need to get this just right, too much alcohol can obviously take things down the wrong route. You also need to look for opportunities to make it clear that the guy (friend) on your shoulder is not your BF. Difficult i know, but give it a go and let me know how it goes ........

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    Just tell your male friends to clear off to the bathroom for some time, or to go away and chat to other people, leaving you free to go to the bar alone. If the other guy is interested he will join you at the bar for idle chat to find out more.

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  • webs
    12 years ago

    All you have to do is show talent/skill in the things that typical guys do like: video games, sports, boxing/slap boxing etc. Being a guy myself, I would love a woman who could be competition for me in those things, especially if we could screw when we are done.

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    12 years ago

    You already figured out that when you're trying to meet a guy... they see the other men near you and figure you're dating one of them.

    I would suggest trying to meet guys without the male entourage.

    Then again... that may put a damper on going out to bars if that's where you're thinking of going. Although personally I never really met anyone worth dating in a bar either.

    I'd say... enjoy your time with your friends, sure, but understand their presence may also drive away other men if the other guys think they're encroaching on your buddies' territory

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  • dom180
    12 years ago

    There is no need to ditch your guy friends. Perhaps if you tell your guy friends about this, and whenever you come across a guy who you like, your guy friend/s can casually mention to him that you're single.

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