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One personality trait that puts up the red flag for you to stop seeing that person.
| religious belief or non-belief | 9 | |
| their family | 3 | |
| their friends | 0 | |
| political beliefs | 4 | |
| lack of sexual abilities | 4 | |
| their self-esteem level | 4 | |
| level of cleanliness | 14 | |
| work ethic | 5 | |
| their goals in life | 10 | |
| not enough similar interest with you | 33 | |
| they don't make enough money for your lifestyle | 1 |
I'm glad that 'work ethic' and 'goals in life' are not under the same category - because I know alot of people with really amazing dreams that dont do shit about it.
I don't really think you need to have the same interests as the person. My husband likes motorbikes and goes sailing whereas I like to read, party and garden a little. We spend enough time together without having a little free time to ourselves.
Over the years I've learnt to watch out for various characteristics that would make me run.
1. violent temper
2. meanness with money
3. questionning what I do/who I'm with/where I'm going ...
4. any addictions, gambling/drinking/drugs ...
5. lack of intelligence.
Just a few, but my mom says my perfect man is dead and buried 100 years ago! I'd be better on my own.
i'd have to say inner beauty is a must. otherwise, I won't be happy at all.
I would say when he gets angry at everything and bossing you around. And if you don't do what he wants how he wants it he says your good for nothing
None of the above, to be honest. The first thing that came to mind is a violent streak. My friend was with a woman who still seething after an argument so she waited for him to go to sleep then hit him with a pan and fractured his skull. I couldn't deal with that.
This happened to a friend of mine, people wouldn't take him seriously because he was a 'guy' and of course guys don't get beaten by their wifes/gf's! Any kind of violence in a relationship is a no go.
There was a study here that suggested it's about 50/50 in terms of the perpetrator of domestic violence but that the female victims don't often report it and the male victims virtually never do.
The immediate reaction is to dispute it as not possibly true. But I think there's a problem with perception. To be blunt, I was kicked in a fairly painful area by a woman. It never crossed my mind that this was abuse (although I wasn't happy about it). If I'd have struck her and caused that level of discomfort, I'd expect imprisonment. But... I'm a man, I'm supposed to be able to take this kind of thing without moaning like a sissy. Also, if a man told me this story, I'd think it was funny too, just like everyone else would.
I can't imagine being with someone who didn't share the same values as me. Also, not wanting children <- would that fall under goals? If so, then goals.
sneaky is a deal breaker oh and of course what flutterhigh said (snappy) lol
I don't know if I could spend much time in the company of someone who had entirely different interests to me, or was utterly opposite me in terms of religion and politics. I thought that dappled's idea about violence is a good thought as well, as it isn't really something that most people would think of first off, but I don't think anybody could live with someone violent.