What am i doing??

"I couldn't help it." What a load of garbage!

What separates humans from animals is the ability to exercise logic and control over our emotions.

As for not feeling guilty... Yes you do. "I couldn't help it." is your feeble attempt to justify your actions by shifting the blame. You even went so far to claim he was forcing himself on you, just stopping short of accusing the man of a heinous crime.

If you are going to play adult games, then at least act mature enough to take responsibility for your actions. In other words...

Grow up!

BigGuy hasn't been cheated on recently. However, I am quite fed up with people who can rationalize their actions by transferring the blame for their own poor choices onto others. Thus, these people are freed from guilt. Once a person can free him/herself from guilt, he/she is free to do anything.

The best example (although fictional) can be found in The Adventures of Tom Sawyer when Injun Joe reveals his plan for vengeance on the Widow Douglas.

I deal with people who refuse to accept responsibility for their own choices every day. It truly is sickening.

usually, the sex with the one you love should suffice. also, what kind of situation are you putting yourself in where you and this friend are in the same bed? O_o

I love how people over use the word ''love'' when they don't even know what it means. Go figure. You must really ''love'' your boyfriend to do this to him.

If you really loved him you would'nt even consider breaking free of him or cheat on him. Do the guy a favor and break it off. He will find out you been cheating sooner or later it always comes out eventually. It would be better if you broke it off now and save him anymore heartache.

I hate girls sometime there so much meaner than guys

Uhm above post ^ calling others inexperienced? How old are you?

I'm sorry but I'd never cheat on someone I love. You cannot love someone and go fuck another person. Don't try and fool yourself into believing that one hun.

I'm usually not one to agree with 8Serene8, but this time, they've hit the nail on the head...

oh, fuck you, or is that the problem? you clearly don't love him or you wouldn't have cheated, and you DEFINITELY wouldn't want to "break free of him". Tell him it's over, he deserves better than a cheater. You're obviously not up for a serious relationship.

And while you're at it, grow up.

Sadly, it is normal. That doesn't make it right.

Break up with ur bf its not going to work out so why stay in it and hurt him... do him a favor move on so he can. Dont be a coward.

If your in love what are you doing with another guy in your bed in the first place?

I gotta LOL at this one, stop leading the poor guy on your loosing feeling for him.

do your boyfriend a favor and break up with him.

p.s you are a whore, no biggie tho, just letting you know in case you wanna post a question about it in the future.

Women are such whores. They're always looking for someone "better" than the one they've got. And they talk about MEN being unfaithful.

What are you doing sleeping in bed with another dude when u have a man

Yes it's normal, no it's not the right thing to do. You have cheated and you long to be free - you don't have to confess (in fact it may be best if you don't) but it sounds to be like you are not ready for a committed relationship. I think you should break up with your boyfriend, but please, for his sake, do it gently.

You're 18 you don't know what you want or know what you're doing.

What did you expect from "friendship" with men? Any such relations ends up in sex question.

Think. How you would feel yourself if someone treats you the same way?You just dont love him.There can be great connection between you but its not love cause when you love someone you want to be with him all the time.Its not true to critisize you.You are still 18.Spilt with him and let him find the one who will really appreciate him.

You're too young to know what love is. If you loved your boyfriend you wouldn't want to break free from him. You would have pushed away your friend. No, to you he is an obligation. Something which makes you feel secure and mature because you're in a "relationship" and that he "depends on you".

You don't know the start of what a relationship is. And now you want to be young and irresponsible. Do it if you want. You're not going to last with your boy friend - you've already cheated on him. You'll be doing the right thing breaking him loose before you really break his heart.

There WILL be a time when you will have to decide to be mature and be in a committed relationship, but at 18, no one is ready to do this, and you've already shown you can't be mature in one, so do what you want to do - if you really want to show you have a mature bone in your body, break up with your boyfriend and get him out of what is only going to be a sorry affair before it's too late.

I've heard stories like this before...all I can say is it seems to happen a lot. I say there are two choices: 1) stay with bf and never cheat on him again, if you cheat, whats the point of being in a relationship? Makes sense right? 2) Break up with him and explore. Neither chice is right or wrong. But if you really feel the need to go out and try new things, do it, without him. Just don't cheat on the poor guy.

It's absolutely normal but that doesn't make it the right thing to do. Break up with your current boyfriend because it's unfair of you to stay in the relationship now. Easier said than done though :\

love isnt either/or. do you stop loving one person because you start loving someone else? no. tell your boyfriend what happened, if you love him. hope that he understands and forgives you. if you dont love him or he doesnt forgive you, leave him.

wow... well good luck with that!!!!
Im jk well you should have stopped sleeping with that guy thats not your boyfriend ( lets call him boy #2 ) And u should have remebered ur boyfriend who u luv oh so dearly :D AND stopped the umm ---sexual act---- while it was happening. Have you thought of fwb?? U should ask ur bf what he thinks about it and if he likes it theres ur answer

If you're not concerned that sleeping with someone behind your boyfriend's back is rude and disrespectful towards him, than you shouldn't have a problem calling him two minutes beforehand and breaking up over the phone so you're at least single while someone else is inside you. Cheating isn't cool, and this keeps the conscious clean. Otherwise, you'll just keep cheating on the guy you're cheating with.

Break up with him. You don't love him, and he doesn't need you to be "cheating" on him, whatever words you might want to use to describe what you're doing. It might make things just a little more clear for both you and him.

Break it off youll only end up hurting the both of you. And yeah if you loved him that much......you wouldnt have ended up kissin someone else hun.Sounds to me like youre in it because he "depends on you" and you dont want to hurt his feelings.Break it off go out and live a little and calm down when youre ready to.

Well Bigguy must have recently been cheated on. But anyway. Ok. You messed up. Don't make out with someone else if you're dating someone. That being said, you're 18. You're supposed to be figuring out what you want and what kind of person makes you happy. Clearly it's not your current boyfriend. It's not you job to be with someone because they depend on you. You're supposed to be with someone because you love them. It's going to be very hard, but give the guy a break and talk to him and tell him it's over and stick to it. You will figure out what you want eventually. Just make sure you learn from your mistakes. :)

stay with the bf,u may have 2 tell him to

It's just sex, too many people including both genders put so much stock into committed to one person (thank you fucking catholics). We are animals, we do have instinctual urges. I'm not gonna tell ya what to do, just don't transmit a disease or have an unscheduled baby.

if you feel like you should break up w/ him, you should. it sounds like you're becoming very attracted to the other guy. so maybe he's the one you should be with. that's just what i think..do what you want to do..

if ur bf's not enough for u u clearly dont love him. just dump him

You are 18.... do them both. Who cares... its not like you're gonna marry either one. So prop those legs up and let them just pound away. I bet neither of them really cares... they probably have other chicks too

Well it all depends do you love your boyfriend alot? If you do but you still like
your friend then just tell your friend that you can't do what you're doing, but if
in your heart you love your friend more then your should tell your boyfriend that you aren't feeling what you used to and that you guys could still be friends, and tell your friend that you like him but take it slow at frist and then toatly run into sex and etc, ten mabey later on in your lives you find out that your friend is he one and you two live happly ever after and also remember always listen to your heart because that is the part of your body that's going to feel the most, well your heart and your vagina and boobs have a plesent life and I hope whatever you choses is what your happy with(:

You are a waste of flesh. Your boyfriend doesn't deserve that, what are you doing in bed with this guy in the first place you filthy skank?

This sh*t reminds me of a good old movie scene...

This guy, Joe, has just found out that his friend, Mike, has been f*cking his wife. The quote is just Epic:

-Mike: It just happened, Joe. It...

-Joe: Sure, sure, I know... it just happened. Coulda happened to anybody. It was an accident, right? You tripped, slipped on the floor and accidentally stuck your dick in my wife. "Whoops! I'm so sorry, Mrs. H. I guess this just isn't my week."

LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

[---Movie: The Last Boy Scout (1991)---]

I hope you get pregnant with the fool then you'll be really fucked when the DNA comes true. Slapper.

If you really love your boyfriend stay with him and tell him what happened and work it out with your friend.

"What's worse is... I don't feel guilty about it because I don't have romantic feelings for him, it's just a casual attraction"

...do you not feel bad that if your bf found out, he would probably be emotionally distraught!...that would make me feel guilty.

I've been brought up to respect other people and not to mess with their feelings. I think your doing that for your bf.

If I was you I would break up (telling him that you love him but need to explore your life and you dont want to hurt him).

I agree with bigguy...your not being fully honest with yourself that you weren't in the wrong, but if you are honest with yourself I think it will help you to make the best decision.

Everybody makes mistakes, but it's what you learn from it that is important going forward.

my ass ;)

Just try and keep their names straight

You're 18...go out and have fun. Always use protection and don't get into situations you can't get out of. Don't waste these years on somebody else, these are your years for learning about yourself and getting what you want...don't throw away your life because somebody else needs you...at 18, you're not ready for that. Run away from him and have fun.

THANK GOD I'M NOT THE ONLY ONE!!!
I feel exactly the same as you. I kissed other people a couple times (I don't think other girls count) and what's making me feel guilty is that I DOn'T feel guilty. also, I often have wet dreams with one of my friends. always the same friend and I feel like it's not going to stop until I really have sex with him. But at the same time, I would never leave my boyfriend because I love him so much.

Anyways, if we're 2, than we're normal.