Welcome to the "friend zone" (dum dum dumm)

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I would like to know if it is possible to escape the uncharted "friend-zone." Is possible to escape?? (I'm a guy) -ladies advice or insight can help.

Background:
-I Have only known her for a year
-Met her through a friend
- We actually have a lot in common
- Occasionally (very rarely) see each other outside of her work.

Now, I did ask her out on a date about 6months ago and at the time I got...the flirty maybe. (Could have been worse)

The bad news of the friend zone....
I got a text in the "friend zone format,"
That's when I found out she was interested in a friend of mine. Yet, does not want to date, or "mess around" with him (not that kind of girl) or want a relationship with him (weird? Umm yeah) apparently co-worker/ friend of mine said she doesn't want to deal with a relationship right now in her life.

Any future hope to leave "the friend zone" ever? This an example of many stories out there I'm sure we've all had at one time or another.

So...any hope? Vote and share!!

** if you vote "possible, play your cards right" please explain.. Curious... **

Hmm, how to escape it...possible??...

Yes. You can escape! 6
Yes. I got out! It's possible! 7
Play your cards right...possible 20
No. You're screwed dude 8
No. But be her friend anyways 13
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  • donotmockme
    9 years ago | pl

    I don't even want to hear the words "friend zone" again. I'm so sick of this as an excuse, just ask her out and if she says no, it means no!

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    • ZP21
      9 years ago

      yea or just go gay hahaha

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    • [Old Memory]
      9 years ago

      It doesn't exactly refute the "freindzone" concept...

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    There's no way of telling. These things vary on an individual level as everyone is different and there are no set rules on how men and women behave in these things.

    However if she doesn't like relationships you are just out of luck on that. Some people like being single.

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    • ZP21
      9 years ago

      or go for a friends with benefits deal if you both are down. i found a girl like it out there. they are real people yay

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    I've only seen someone escape the friendzone twice. What they done is they distanced themselves from the person, so much so that you wouldn't really see them as friends. He wouldn't be rude to her, just not show much to any attention in her, and then she would try get involved with him so much, then out of nowhere he asked "Do you wanna go out with me?" Or it was "Do you wanna go on a date with me", I can't remember which one, it was one of the two, though. Next thing I know, they're in a relationship.

    Whenever the frriendzone issue comes up, I always see in the comment section, be it Youtube or whatever, and there are people that seem to have done the same and it works. Obviously it won't work all the time, but you should give it a try.

    If it doesn't work, just end the friendship (doesn't mean be rude to her). If you are in the friendzone then you'll have to experience watching her be with other people, which I am sure would e painful.

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    • ZP21
      9 years ago

      this is exactly how i got out except i didnt purposely distance myself. it all just sort of happened and in the end to this very second me and the girl have been doing great

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  • lovelychic
    9 years ago

    i hope the best for you!!! she could lose feelings for the other guy and move on very quickly

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  • donteatstuffoffthesidewalk
    9 years ago

    yallre bein used. go find another woman cause that one dont see yall as nothing but a chump

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    • Crvsades
      9 years ago

      Are you black?

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      • donteatstuffoffthesidewalk
        9 years ago

        my heart is

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    • bleach_baby
      9 years ago

      A woman being friends with a guy isn't using him. We don't owe sex to any guy who gives us the time of day.

      http://images.sodahead.com/polls/003474355/2948993417_30910639_xlarge.png

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      • ZP21
        9 years ago

        yes but when you also lead him on a bit then it gets to be classified as using him... everyone has a chance with anyone. just sometimes its really hard to flip those small chances to something bigger but yes its possible for anyone.

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        • bleach_baby
          9 years ago

          I see what you're trying to say, but it's hard to reject someone face to face. I don't think that means she's trying to use him. It sounds more like she didn't wanna hurt him and lose the friendship. I mean, when I'm being friends with my female friends but not wanting to fuck them, that isn't using them. If I make someone do things for me that they don't want to, then that's using them. The OP didn't say she coerced him into buying her things or doing things for her that go beyond the bounds of normal friendship because she knew he was attracted to him.

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      • donteatstuffoffthesidewalk
        9 years ago

        yes princess. yallre entitled to do whatever yall want

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        • bleach_baby
          9 years ago

          Y'awwl a retawrd. If a guy pretends to be friends with a girl just because he wants to fuck her, who is using who?

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          • donteatstuffoffthesidewalk
            9 years ago

            a girl knows damn well what shes gittin used for and how. thays no mystery to that. most like it to some degree or they wouldn't submit

            a feller whats a gittin used is bein led on with the possibility of more happenin with a relationship if he only jumps thru them hoops and listens to more inane bullshit.

            a woman gittin used by a man is bein used as a girlfriend. so is a feller gittin friendzoned

            oh and thanks for yalls opinion bout myall intellect princess. ill take it under advisement

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            • bleach_baby
              9 years ago

              I am really disturbed by your assertion that being friends with someone is using them. I'm guessing you're either really abusive to your friends, or you just don't have any.

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  • ZP21
    9 years ago

    ive was in a friendzone with this amazing chick for so long. we were REALLY good friends. i ended up getting a different girlfriend (the gf didnt like me hanging out with the frienzoning girl because she thought i had feelings for her so i stopped hanging out with the friendzoning girl to please my girlfriend) and over the course of that relationship the friendzoning girl had got with one or two of my buddies... eventually after my relationship ended the friendzoning girl got ahold of me and we hung out. about 2 weeks ago she said she really missed me as a friend considering we were really really good friends and that shes always had this secret underlying feeling and fantasies of me and that she hoped it was a mutual thing. yes. i escaped the friendzone and now me and her are not only just really good friends again but we have fun too if you know what i mean. it all sounds surreal i know but it happened and im really stoked that i was able to get out of it and now have this really really reaaaallly amazing girl in my life that has feelings for me.

    Summary:im fucking awesome, i got out of the friendzone, and me and the chick are super super chill now and are still only friends but also have some fun if you feel what im saying

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  • Sog
    9 years ago

    Just ask her out, and start acting in a "more than friend way". More flirty, touching, etc. You just have to man up and go for it. You have to put the ball in her court and let her deal with the situation.

    If she rejects you, then it's game over and time to move on. She's just not interested. She doesn't find you attractive in that way. Not everyone is compatible with everyone. There's no point in chasing around something that is surely a dead end.

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  • Somesortofname
    9 years ago

    Hey! thanks for all the insight!

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