Weird relationship with principal

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I'm going through major depression right now, and one of my support people is my principal, because I told him I was suicidal before anyone else knew. As the weeks have gone by, and I haven't gotten better, I find myself being attached to him. I wish that he could be my father, and his wife, who I've never met or seen ever, could be my mother. It's quite ridiculous. He's always sort of been a father figure for me, but now my depression and anxiety actually get worse when I think he's angry or avoiding me. It's not that I have any romantic feelings for him, but he feels like the only adult that really cares about me. Is that normal?

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Based on 51 votes (32 yes)
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  • dandee82
    14 years ago

    KINDA OF LAME BUT HERE IT GOES,..LOL.
    THERE WAS A GUY ONE TIME WHO DECIDED ON COMMITTING SUICIDE CAUSE HES LIFE WAS THE WORST, AS HE THOUGHT?. SO HE GRABS A FRUIT, GETS ON TOP OF A TREE AND STARTS PEALING IT AS HIS LAST MEAL,AS HE IS PEALING AND EATING HE HEARS A GROWLING SOUND OF MUCHING AND HAPINESS AND AS HE LOOKS DOWN HE SEES THIS POOR OLD GUY HAPPILY PICKING UP THE PIECES FROM THE GROUND AND ENJOYING HIS NEWLY FOUND DINNER. THE MORAL OF THIS STORY IS, NO MATTER HOW BAD YOU GOT IT, SOMEONE OUT THERE HAS IT WORST.

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  • Alaskaraven
    14 years ago

    He's avoiding you because you creep him out and he wants to keep his job.

    Tell him you have come to look at him like a father figure, and apologize for it. Mention not having anyone else to turn to. He'll feel bad, and direct you to someone that may be able to help you.

    Remember, things change. Things will get better. You have to tell yourself that every day.

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    • ibreathelectric
      10 years ago

      Hey, be a little more sensitive. Whoever posted this probably has some deeper issues here. You can't just tell someone with problems to deal with it and detach him/herself from the person he/she's been relying on.

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  • dandee82
    14 years ago

    WE ALL AT ONE POINT OF OUR LIVES FEEL A GREAT AFFECTION FOR SOMEONE IN CONTROL OR THAT ALWAYS KNOWS WHAT TO DO, AND SEEING HIM AS A FATHER FIGURE IS OKAY. BUT HE IS NOT GOING TO SOLVE YOUR SUICIDE PROBLEM AND WHAT YOU ARE DOING IS JUST SUSTITUTING ONE PROBLEM AND CREATING ANOTHER.

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  • sammif
    13 years ago

    I know what u mean... realllllly do. I get attatched to older men very easy. not really romantic or sexual tho. sometimes.

    i bet hes scared cuz hes the principal n can get in trouble maybe. n maybe hes attracted to u n scared to

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  • rickster
    14 years ago

    Totally normal but be careful!

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    Sure thats normal - he sounds like a caring adult, and it appears that is missing with your own parents. But there are limits as too who he can be for you. I gather you are getting counseling support elsewhere.

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  • antchris
    15 years ago

    It sounds like you are searching for a missing role model and this person is someone you admire and respect, just put yourself in any principal's shoes, if a student comes to them with suicidal intention they are extremely unlikely to dismiss them. I think you are feeling insecure, and frightened this person will rebuff you. Having suffered depression before, I can emphasise with this, so I would say it is normal.

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  • EndStreet
    15 years ago

    Find**
    Sorry

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  • Jim_Pfoss
    15 years ago

    You say you are attracted to him, and then you say you have no romantic feelings for him.
    So which is it?
    If you just want to be around him because he is kind, that seems pretty normal.
    If you want to be with him even though he is trying to avoid you, that seem a little weird.
    Of course, your perceptions might be completely unreliable due to your depression and whatever you are doing or not doing for it, so it seems like you need to address that first.

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    • TinyDancer15
      15 years ago

      What I meant to say is that I don't have a crush on him. I wish he was my father, and nothing more. I do want to be around him, but not with him. A sort of friendship. I was just wondering if it was normal to want your principal to be your father.

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    • purerandomosity
      14 years ago

      she said she felt ATTACHED not attracted.

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    • EndStreet
      15 years ago

      First of all he said attached not attracted

      I find that normal to want some you care about or some one who cares about you to relate to you in some way , and in this case its a father figure ..
      Its ok for you to want that relationship but remember that u already have a father :) but i found it not normal that this is causing you anxiety , go talk to a friend or ur real dad or someone who can help and is trustworthy , a principle is not a friend and wont be there for a long time
      Gl =)

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  • stealmysocks
    11 years ago

    He wants you.

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