Weird converstation

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Theres a girl I asked out a while back and she turned me down, we still chat sometimes. Anyways today she texted me and ended up bitching about how her life sucked, the guy she likes has a girlfriend so she turned her attention to his brother. I told her to talk to him and she's like she literally can't bring herself to even ask him his name. So now she's bitching about how she'll never have anyone, she's ugly and worthless ect. I tried cheering her up but she just kept going on and on about it.
I had to fight to keep my mouth shut for what I was thinking. I don't care that I got shot down but hearing her bitch about this shit to me I couldn't help but think. You don't have it in you to even ask the guy his name, you're afraid of being alone, and you think you're unattractive? I asked you out, so I thought you were pretty, I would've been with you, and I approached you so you didn't have to.
I didn't say any of this, and I'm not sure why I was thinking it because like I said getting shot down didn't bother me in fact I'm already working on another girl. but for some reason when she called me up to bitch about this it made me think that.

is it normal I had these thoughts?

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  • RoseIsabella
    7 years ago

    Yes, I think your thoughts are quite normal in this instance. You sound like a pretty good guy, and I think your feelings are more than understandable. You have a right to your feelings, and although you do sound quite well adjusted you also have the right to not respond to her or to distance yourself from her. It's quite possible that you'll find someone much better than her!

    From what you're describing she needs a counselor, therapist or maybe even a priest or minister more than she needs to use you as a platonic male friend to torment with her issues. She might not be mentally ill, but could most likely use some guidance in regards to empathy. I had a really good Christian/Catholic therapist for a number of years who taught me that self-esteem is more about being esteemable than simply fishing for compliments. Don't respond to her comments when she says she's ugly, worthless, etc, because she's fishing for compliments. She might not be actively aware of it, but she's still fishing. You've got better things to do with your time than stroke her ego via reassurance.

    I am curious as to who instigated the chat friendship now though.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      each time we chatted via text she texted me to start it

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      • RoseIsabella
        7 years ago

        Thanks for your response. Please feel free to not respond to this chick's next fishing attempt.

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  • finn
    7 years ago

    Walk away. Why are you good enough to vent to but not good enough to date? Walk away.

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  • keru
    7 years ago

    You're a nice friend, even if you're in the friend zone.. <3

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  • Dreamsao
    7 years ago

    Yeah. She definitely has issues. You dodged a bullet.

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