We broke up but are still together?

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I was dating a guy, and we broke up about 2 days ago. I still love him a lot, but I know the relationship was unhealthy. He was really mean to me all the time, and didn't really seem into the relationship. So I finally broke it off with him, but he asks me if we can be friends? I agreed, but now i've got this strange situation. We hang out like best friends except we cuddle. We don't kiss or have sex, he's suddenly become a lot nicer... It's weird. It's not a booty call sort of thing. He says he knows he was an ass and he still loves me, but he hasn't mentioned wanting me back. We've agreed not to see anyone else for a while to save eachother the hurt. It's like we haven't even broken up. We even cried together about us breaking up. I've never had a break up like this. Usually for me it's drop all contact so I can move on. This time we're closer than ever. Is this normal? If we're not bf/gf, but we're more than just friends, than what the hell are we?

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  • danny__10
    11 years ago

    Sex

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  • JadeyGirl9
    11 years ago

    Girl, he said he still loves you! That's code for wanting you back! So what you've had a few down lows and fallen out with each other? Arguments make the fact that you are still together stronger then ever. I say make up with him because you still love each other. You deserve to be together!!!

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    "It's not a booty call sort of thing"

    It really is, he's just very slick.

    Guys know this behaviour really well, I've done the same thing to girls myself.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      I can maybe see what you're saying. But if we're not having sex, then how is that a booty call? Or even remotely beneficial to him?

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      • [Old Memory]
        11 years ago

        Because he'll slowly work up to it, you'd see through it if it was instant.

        Or he could be innocent of all of this as it's just a hunch.

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  • thinkingaboutit
    11 years ago

    I made this mistake before. Uh, it's not a good idea. He's going to suck you back into his vortex, return to how he was before, and bad things will ensue.

    Because: your not sticking to your principles. You have to make a decision and be solid about it. It's really very important. Remember that guy you broke up with? He's still the same guy, no matter how much he's buttering you up.

    I don't know how it's going to play out for you, but the last time I was in this kind of gray zone [which was this time last year]...I'm still suffering the consequences of my indecisiveness.

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  • Jeaneathean
    11 years ago

    Two days ago is not long enough to tell what's happening really, is it now?

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