Was this sexual harassment?

Yes, this was harrassment. I think you should of been more firm with him, though. He may of thought you were playing "hard to get" due to you laughing and joking about it. Next time you see him, don't joke, don't play around, firmly tell him that he was sexually harrassing you. To him, he might of thought you didn't mind due to the whole joking around thing, but that doesn't make it your fault simply due to the fact you didn't want to get him angry or insulted. Tell him next time firmply, so that he realized that you definetly didn't want it, he may of thought you did.

When one panda puts his furry little willy in another panda's ear thats sexual harassment, and that makes me a sad panda.

Hey! Panda bear! We don't take kindly to your types in here!


Now, calm down, Skeeter. He ain't hurtin' nobody.


NO! I wanna know somthin' from Mr. Panda Bear here! If you pandas are from mountainous areas of China and Tibet, how come you eat bamboo, which is prone to grow only in drier, more arid regions?!


Sk-heeter, I don't want no trouble nu-how.


It's okay. I get it. There's no room in the world for pandas. Well, you don't have to worry about me! I'm off to the Island of Misfit Mascots!

Yes, that is harassment. You were put in a situation that scared you. Maybe he could argue there are extenuating circumstances and that his personal life is making him act out of character, and maybe that's true, but it's not really your problem.

One thing I will definitely *NOT* tell you is that it was your fault. You were being friendly. There are plenty of women I'm on a very friendly basis with at work. But the key word is "friendly". It's derived from the word "friend". That's where it stays. I have actually been propositioned at work but it in no way made me feel threatened so there's nothing to report. Your situation is different.

Whether you put it down to a mistake and warn him that any further behaviour like that will be reported, or whether you pre-empt it and go straight for the report, is up to you. You shouldn't be put in that position. It may not be deliberate harassment, but you felt harassed; and for pretty solid reasons.

Yes... I don't see how this has to be a question.
When I see a car, I don't ask people if it's a car. I know it's a car, because I know what cars are.

This was harassment and I know you didn't want to hear this but when you joked around he must of thaught you were coming on to him or somthin maybe he was just sexually atracted to you sense day one tell him if he does it again you'll tell um you said you didn't want to get him in trouble

I'd say that goes a bit beyond sexual harassment and into sexual assault territory (though it's on the mild end, obviously).

if u are married tell ur husband

You shouldn't report it to the police or tell his wife, but you should inform the management where you work about it so they can keep an eye out if he tries something again.

Yes, you were harrassed. We don't need more of his kind, Report him and stay as far away from him as you can.

Holy shit! I'd imagine you were scared! He's being a creep!

I agree with everyone else- you were sexually harassed and you should report him.

No it isn't. Because I'm a sexist pig.

No, you don't have to blame yourself. When something like this happens, you get overwhelmed. It's impossible to think clearly when you're terrified. Most people in a situation like this would act the same as you did.

I don't really think there's a right way to act in such a situation. If you would've acted more firmly, there are two options. Either he would've stopped sooner, or he could've gotten aggravated and started doing something worse. You played it as safe as you could.

I don't know if this is a proper analogy, but when someone gets beaten up, it's not his fault because he didn't take boxing lessons. It's the assailant's fault, no matter what.

The good thing is, it's over now. And you have all the right to report him.

I'd say YES, you were definitely harassed, whether you should report it or not I'm unsure. On one hand I lean toward yes, because you were wronged clearly, I believe your story, and also you may not be his first OR last victim....but on the other hand, it's iffy because it's your word against his....and based on your story, if there is video surveillance of what went on it still may not be clear who did what and it may even paint you in a bad light because you say you grabbed and squeezed back (I understand WHY you did it, and in no way am I blaming you, I'm just saying, it may look bad for you).

One thing I noticed about your post was that you did a lot of assuming of what he 'knew' or should know, or should have notice and recognized. That's your first mistake. Never assume you know what they know (or they know what you know), or are on the same page. Also, he may 'know' but not care. You just can't ever be sure about what's going on in someone's head. You let those assumptions put you at risk. Please don't take that as a statement of blame, I understand how you're thinking and why and all, I'm simply saying assumptions are worthless when it comes to this sort of thing and it's best to err on the side of caution.

This man was in the least unprofessional and at worst probably criminal. You did nothing wrong because you shouldn't have to deal with this shit EVER, you shouldn't have to be put in this position. Sucks that it happens though, and for your own safety you just need to put out the 'never fuck with me' vibe. I think he took advantage of your personality and your joking manner, which is shitty, but it's what people do. Some people are predators and they just know how to sniff out the best victims, they'll take any weakness you have and exploit it. I guess what I'm saying is, you can't change what other people do really, you can only change how you are and how you deal with things, so be strong, firm and upfront and be 100% professional at work. I think you gave this man an inch and he took a mile, and that's typical.

Sorry I can't help you more with whether or not to report it, I'd say just consider ALL angles, all pro's and con's before deciding. Some of the things you said about how he did this and that make me really think though that this isn't his first rodeo. I really don't know though, whether or not to report it.

i dont know whether you should report it, it could be more trouble than its worth, maybe you could look at the vibes you're putting out as a security guard, be more guarded (not being smart)

You ladies and your work place fantasies.