Was she playing mind games with me?

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I had a close friend who meant everything to me. I was practically in love with her but I couldn't summon up the courage to confess what I felt. The fact that I am a girl made it very difficult besides the fact that she had a bf. Anyhow, the main point is that little things she would/wouldn't do, hurt me. We ended on the note of me deleting her out of my life for quite a while but then I started to miss her. When we were okay again, I would text her every so often however, she never did the same & prior to our fall out she would initiate txting sometimes. I asked her via txt if she was okay with me since I hadn't heard from her in a couple months and she said everything is fine and that she's just not that social anymore.
Skip ahead, she comes up to where I live and we catch up but she seems a bit cold towards me. I took it as she has given up on us so I also gave up, but then she txts me one month after seeing her, saying: "thinking of you x"
This seems very contradictory behavior , don't you think?

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  • victorygin
    8 years ago

    Imo, If she is aware of how you feel, then yes, she was playing with you by sending that text. People like to have admirers, even if they don't admire them back. It's callous, but lots of people will do it; string others along "innocently" enough so that it's not overt, but just enough to keep them confused or interested. It's just to serve ego and I don't think it's really a conscious action.

    Anyway, Forget about her. Or learn to stop liking her so much, which may be difficult or impossible, so it's probably better just to move on.

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  • Marmoset
    8 years ago

    From her perspective, she probably wondered if you were playing head games with her. Your feelings and actions toward her were all over the map. She's probably trying to find a comfortable spot with you again. Don't push.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Well she hasn't been in contact since, and that was half a year ago.

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  • charli.m's_Constant_Period
    8 years ago

    You need to find a lesbian.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      No I needed her.

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      • charli.m's_Constant_Period
        8 years ago

        There are many good vaginas to lick. Get over her and move on. Fingering will help you.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          8 years ago

          I dont want to lick vaginas u fool. I loved her

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          • charli.m's_Constant_Period
            8 years ago

            Maybe she left you because you didn't lick her. Poor girl, how disappointed she must have been.

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  • Ellenna
    8 years ago

    She might also be playing mind games with herself: that is, be somewhat attracted to you but unaware of it consciously.

    Why don't you just tell her you're confused by her changeable behavior and ask her what's going on?

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