Was my sister raped?

I am worrying about my little sister. She used to be a cheerful 14-year old girl, popular and with good grades. Now she seems depressed and neglects her friends. She locks herself in her dark room and never wants to leave the house alone. Her grades are falling. She looks pale, suffers of headaches and doesn't eat enough. My father complained that she showers to much and that the bathroom is always boiling. He also caught her crying sometimes. But my father is a cold person who doesn't know how to deal with feelings or problems. He just gets angry. I am her older brother, whom she trusts, but I tried talking to her, and she just told me she is tired. We live alone with father, mother died giving birth. I am afraid something terrible happened to my sister. She might have been raped. Does somebody recognises this behaviour? Any advice?

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  • To my eyes, it's obvious something major has happened to her. Even though she might say she doesn't want to, try to talk to her, preferably when your father isn't in the house (for the sake of privacy and her emotional comfort) and be as patient as possible.

    If it is something like rape or actual rape that has happened to her, she'll most likely struggle to admit the truth, from fear or other reasons.

    If all else fails, let her know you are there for her 100%, whenever. All you can do is try and look out for her. Good luck.

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  • sheilarae1987

    Dad is cold and she cuts herself off from even family.
    May want to check to see what dad's maybe been upto.

    But being 14 (at the time this was wrote) girls can go batshit crazy due to all the hormones, no joke.

    Example;
    I was 15 i believe, i was PMS'ing really bad, i would oddly enough PMS like on my 1st or 2nd day into my period so not your average pre-menstrual, anyways, my mom totally thought i was nuts cause i was sitting at the kitchen table talking to her. I started getting really bad cramps and i just started crying. She asked me if i was okay and i immediately started laughing, my older sister came out and said something like "stop being stupid" and laughed AT me which made me cry, then i screamed at her then started laughing at myself cause i knew how Crazy i sounded but I'll be DAMNED if my bitch ass sister is gonna get away with laughing At me.

    Ugh. Hormones. :/

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  • Avant-Garde

    Ask her.

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  • nickywa9

    That's so sweet that you care that much. I would talk to her friends, if they have nothing, then confront her.

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress

    any update on sister?

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  • jean

    BlackRoseVale is completely correct.

    Or you can get her to a psichologist

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  • brkb

    It sounds like depression. Try to get her to a doctor, or ask you school counselor or nurse.

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  • :( I feel bad...do you know any of her friends?? Try talking to her especially when your dad isn't home...for her comfort and to avoid any more conflict. I hope she is okay, sorry to say, assume the worst?

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    • worriedbro

      Thanks for all the advice, people. I am still trying to make her speak, but she continues avoiding. My dad is a pain, which only makes it worse, I wish he would be more patient. Her friends don't know what happened either. I follow her around sometimes, but can't see anything suspicious. But I don't want to search her room/ computer, as I feel I would be invading her privacy. I am seriously thinking to force her going to a doctor or school counsellor.

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      • zxy

        Iv been forced to go to a school counciller before because i talked to a guy about good ways to kill myself and he told the school. It was pretty lame, he just asked me a bunch of questions that made me uncomfortable. then told me that im important.

        Anyway as others have said she sounds really depressed,

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  • Ask her

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  • Scaper

    Put a keylogger on her computer, people are more honest and open online because of the anonymity

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    • zxy

      WTF? That would destroy her trust in her brother, chances are she will get through the trouble because suicide is a very scary thing to go through with. But if her brother monitors everything she does on her computer she may never trust him again. If someone did that to me id beat the shit out of them, and im not a violent person.

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  • Follow her around look at her emails txt messages and any chatroom devices if you find something about try to pesuade her to talk to a nicer person like maybe your grandma.

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