Was i using my friend?

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Me and my friend talked pretty much every day for ten years. Then i found out she was in love with me and i felt weird about it, so i stopped speaking to her.

She was really upset. She says she misses me a lot, but to me, it doesn't really matter if we talk or not. I do care about her, but i don't miss her if she's not around.

I tried to explain to her that our friendship wasn't anything special to me - if anyone else had been around more i would have been talking to them. But she said that she thought that because we talked for hours every day that i was her best friend.

She says that the way i feel about her makes her feel completely worthless and used, and that i was definitely using her if it didn't even bother me when our friendship ends, but to me, i think that's a normal way most people feel towards their friends, and it's her that's weird, and placing emotional demands on me.

Now i got a new girlfriend a few weeks ago, and now she's pregnant. My friend was so hurt when she found out that i'm pretty sure that we'll never talk again, but to be honest, it still doesn't really bother me. I'm going to have a new life now, and i'm sorry she's hurt, but if she can't be happy for me, that's her problem.

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  • Fall_leaves
    8 years ago | pl

    Not sure how you managed to talk to her daily and not value her friendship or care about her at least? Ten years is a long time. I can see why she would feel that way but I can tell you're not worth those feelings. You've been dating a girl for a few weeks and she's already pregnant..You sound like a gem.

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  • Forestheart
    8 years ago

    You talked to her everyday for 10 Years. 10 years you moron! And you were surprised when you found out that she had feelings for you? Over that you managed to get a new girlfriend and get her pregnant within weeks, I'm not sure how you did that. Maybe you're not the one who made her pregnant.
    Of course your old friend will feel betrayed, if you had told her that you have no feelings for her sooner things would have been different. Obviously you have used her and now you're refusing to admit that.

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  • HiAGAIN10
    8 years ago

    Thats disgusting. You seem like a guy that thinks the world revolves around, judging that you didn't care for someone you knew for 10 years. You'll probably eventually find out it doesn't.

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