Was i rude here?

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Other person:

the seat allocation is one way only
im so confused
do you remember what you booked exactly ?
i think i understood it
you paid UPFRONT for the flight back ?"

Me:
I think you forgot
normal on the way there
the + bag on the way back

Other person:

yh but
but if things changed it's probably due to a new aeroplane
if u open the email EJ sent you
its showing what i can bring
which is X1 hand luggage only

Me: Haven't we been over this before, we talked about in detail?

Other person:

have you got a problem or something with me rectifying details with you? wtf wrong with u?
take a deep breathe and try and not be rude about it. jerk.

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  • charli.m
    5 years ago

    It doesn't sound like you're very good at expressing yourself. Certainly not in text.

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  • Boojum
    5 years ago

    "Me: I think you forgot"

    That's the first mistake. Rather than simply addressing the facts, you're making it personal. It's okay to groan inwardly in exasperation, but this statement is implicitly criticising the other person. Better to just state the facts, no matter how many times you already have.

    "Me: Haven't we been over this before, we talked about in detail?"

    Same as above. It's okay to think that, but if you're wanting to have a calm, rational discussion, it's better to grit your teeth and talk about it YET AGAIN. Some people are slow, some people are always distracted because they're constantly fiddling with their phone, and some people hear only what they want to hear.

    As laid out, it's not very clear what exactly is going on here, but the conclusion sounds like the other person is getting defensive, and doing the common thing of trying to deflect blame on to you: it's not their fault they forgot what you told them, it's your fault for getting irritated that you have to explain it again. They possibly realised at some point that you did indeed tell them all this, but they didn't want to acknowledge that the problem was their failure to understand and remember. So they try to make it all your fault.

    Illogical, but that's people for you.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      Thank you for your input boojum, I will try to learn from this and try to just state facts in future and keep my personal feelings from reaching the text. I personally do not feel that I was being a jerk or anything but I see why it could of irritated the other party.

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    What’s happening

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