Was i molested?

There is no accidental way for a hand to slip UP a shirt while standing on solid ground.

you are not over reacting AT ALL! a man knows his boundaries and what is appropriate and inappropriate. Putting our hand up a child's shirt is not a mistake a man in his right mind would make. You should have told your mom and talked to someone beacause how small you think the situation may be, thing like that you always carry mentally. And maybe even physically.

Plainly put-- you were molested.

Yes this is molesting. Or feeled you up. What a creep. avoid him like the plague and if you have not gotten counseling get it. Even if you never tell your mom. Posting it here you are taking the first step. I am sorry. That sucks!

I've heard many stories like this before. This is how it begins. This guy sounds like a total pedo. I'd tell your mom about what happened and consider reporting this guy. Otherwise, an even younger girl might be his next victim.

Yes, you were molested. Men don't accidentally put their hands up an young girl's shirt.

My dad had a friend that would come to the house, he would try to get be and my brother to wrestle. He tossed a blanket on us and felt up my boobs. He did other things, too. These were not accidents, this is how molestors get away with stuff by making it look innocent.

It's not normal to touch the upper stomach near the breasts but its hard to say if it was an accident. A man shouldn't be touching a little girl's stomach though. The upper back is more acceptable. By the sounds of it, he may have had an interest and tried to sneak a touch. I hope you told your mother right afterwards when you were alone with her...

If his hand was up your shirt - no matter where he touched you - it was molestation to some degree. it is certainly not normal.

Historically speaking, it's not huge. Women through the ages have been treated as sex objects far worse than anything a modern person in the developed world experiences. This is a guy who grabbed your tits. It is not the same as beig raped.

Having said that - it is certainly unacceptable. It is compounded by his superior social position to you as an adult. You felt powerless to stop him and didn't know how to react. That makes his transgression worse.

If my daughter told me about this kind of thing I would smash the guy's head in. There's the best guide. Ask your father what he thinks about it. I doubt he would tell you it's nothing to worry about.

PsychoNikki - you gave the worst advice possible! Pedophiles who get away with inappropriate touching like this escalate their behavior. I don't know what sad things happened to you, but IT IS A BIG DEAL!

This girl needs to tell her mother or a teacher or councilor about this man before he does something worse to someone else.

Well next time you see him, just ASK him why he would do a sick thing like that!! Then give him a good kick in the nuts and you'll feel much better afterward!! I mean, this dude's a PEDOPHILE!!! There's no accidental way to slide your hand up one's shirt!!

Are you looking for a definition? He touched you inappropriately and should have not done it. You really need to quit dwelling on it tho. The more you spin this in your head the more power you give it. Just let it go and move on. You are only hurting yourself by making such a big deal about it. Almost every woman has been touched inappropriately some time in their life.

Yes you were. 100%% yes. there is no way this was an accident. did you tell your mother?

There is two sidees to every story, but the way you descrube it worries me a bit about his intentions. Thank god adults were nearby or he may have tried to take it to the next level. It "could" of been a friendly touch, but very doubtful, you should tell your mother.

I think you're overdue to tell your mom what kind of "friend" she has because of what he did and how you are sickened to see him to this day.

I hate to be mean, and this may sound harsh, but honey, he copped a quick feel of your tits once when you were younger. It's really time to get over it. It's not even a big deal. Jesus!

He didn't put your hands down his pants or vice versa. I don't mean to downplay your "trauma" but seriously...it was nothing. Let it go and move on. You're letting an small "incident" control your emotions. There are people out there who've suffered far worse than you.

lol OMG ... realy amazing how crazy people are in our time .... so what someone touched or ligltly grazed your breast years and years ago ... please get a life and get over yourself ~ YES YOU ARE OVER-REACTING @_@ and like usual 3/4 of the people who reply these questions are bleeding heart's ANY time someone says they got touched by someone older ... does it realy mater if he grazed your breast ? he probably thought you were hot and felt tempted, and shouldnt have done it, but welcome to LIFE! and human nature... learn to deal , their are people with actual real problems other than my coffee is too hot from McDonalds and i burned my lip.. or posibally someone grazed my breast years ago

You poor thing. I cannot tolerate this sort of BS!! He knew exactly what be intended to do and had a very small window to cop a quick feel. To this day you feel that is was very questionable and he put all the onto a small child who was confused ny it all. Talk to someone whom you trust and who is understanding and non judge mental and yo over it fir some closer to home insight. It was wrong for him to do that!!! I am so sorry he did that to you!!!! *hugs*. :(

How is putting his hand up your shirt an accident?!
You need to tell your mom.

To this day you feel sick about what happened for very good reason. You know what he did was not okay. Write down a statement of the event as you recall it. Get everything, all the details out on paper. Take a copy of the statement to the police. If they decide to action it further they will. If they decide there is no case they will keep your statement on file. The reason you would do this is to take your power back. To let him know what he did is not acceptable behaviour. He had no right to touch a child the way he did. That child was you. Show him that he made a mistake that day and you will not let him get away with it. You are having trouble living with it because you know you need to do something about it. Just do it. You'll feel better and may just save someone from the same awful experience.

Almost certainly you were molested. I say almost, because there has been situations where I've not been paying attention and accidentally brushed my hand across someone's breast etc - but this (based on your description) doesn't sound accidental.

Yes you were molested, it any touching not welcomed or consented to no one has a right to touch you in that way

Yes you

You were molested!

Tell your mom about it or something because yeah that's molesting just be glad you aren't hurt or anything.

i don't get it, you were walking and he just reached over and put his hand up your shirt without a word? If that is what happened then it was, but it seems like there must be something missing to the story, did he say something and pat you stomach? AS little to vague for me to want to get a rope and lynch this guy

hate u all

no u aint molested girl, just give him a telling off!

Ehh this is a yes or no question about whether you were molested or not right?.. some people need to stop asking more than one question because its hard to say what i'm saying yes or no too.......

and if only 31%% of the people say you were molested with the info you gave... uh people you ffcked up

Hi I am a perv I like small breats but that was criminal I only date girls of proper age . I sugest telling a expert about this matter

try to remember details of what happened. I think that you might have wanted or do not want to over react to anyone's behavior, and wanted or want spare people the worry and time. Clearly, you arent sure but i agree with jaw5791, go to a professional and sort things out. Good luck!

Jeez this is hard! Hmmm depends on how vividly you remember it. It could have obviously been a mistake, accident or inconsideration. Either way, you should have, and still should - discuss this with someone. It has obviously affected you, and who knows, your speculations may have been correct.

It all depends on how you feel you want to deal with it. If you are unsure, see a councilor or seek emotional support from professionals.

Good Luck,
Jay

Well the readers can't really determine whether he did this by accident i mean you didn't really describe his actions much i mean he could of been friendly with you and just tried to scare you by grabbing your stomach but thenagain he could have been trying to actually touch you there and therefore yes he did molest you and you should report his ass to the authorities. Did you tell your mother about this when he did it?

I love little girls they make me feel so good. I love little girls they make me feel so bad.

well, my dad always used to rub or pat my belly when i was little. NOTHING sexual about it. he probably just accidentally went up too far. that is DEFINATELY not molestation. youre over reacting.

Go up to him, take his hand and put it on your breast, look him in the eye, and smile.