Was i assaulted

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When I was 14-16 I was dating this guy and we would have sex. Even when I didn’t want to he would tell me to do it to make him happy or how I’m supposed to make him happy. So I did it. Sometimes I really didn’t want to but he practically told me I had no choice. As I got older I began to realize it sounds much like I was sexually assaulted. When I finally spoke about it, people told me that I was definitely being raped. I guess as a teenager I assumed that he was right I’m supposed to make him happy. Sometimes when I’m sleeping with other guys I remember back on it and turns me off. I really don’t know what to consider about it. What do you guys think?

Yes 31
Only if you consider it that way 7
No 24
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  • [Old Memory]
    4 years ago

    If you don’t give consent I’d be assult. It shouldn’t be this thing you do to make someone happy. It should be something you both want with each other. He’s a piece of shit.

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    • WeirdGuyFromTheSouth
      4 years ago

      Is it assault when my wife fondles me cock in the morning while I'm sleeping and wants sex? Making me wake up early just because she's horny? I mean she's practically begging me. Its the same thing as this OP.

      Sometimes you arent as horny as your partner but you do it anyway to please them.

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      • [Old Memory]
        4 years ago

        You can be in a relationship and still need consent. If I wanted something and someone else didn’t, I won’t make them feel bad and seem although they need to.

        Lastly I feel like you just wanted to talk about that.

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        • WeirdGuyFromTheSouth
          4 years ago

          Its a good example tho. Sometimes your partner wants to fuck and you gotta take one for the team. Itd be different if he pinned her down or fucked her when she was saying stop. It sounds like he just talked her into it and she took one for the team

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          • [Old Memory]
            4 years ago

            But to make someone feel they need to in order to make someone happy really doesn’t sound right to me.
            OP said “practically told me I have no choice” like to guilt someone into feeling they have no choice and have to make someone happy isn’t right. It’s like being used and manipulated like that’s really messed up.

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  • JellyBeanBandit
    4 years ago

    I think you were seriously psychologically manipulated rather than raped tbh. That doesn't excuse what he did in the least though, he is a terrible disgusting person for what he did to you.

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  • KarinaM
    4 years ago

    Please don't look at the poll results because it's full of shit. Nobody should be forcing you what you don't want to do.

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    • WeirdGuyFromTheSouth
      4 years ago

      He didnt force her

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      4 years ago

      I agree...for awhile I thought that being in a relationship meant having sex on the guy’s terms. I’m going to start therapy and get professional opinions on this...

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      • WeirdGuyFromTheSouth
        4 years ago

        Quit being such a pussy. You dont need therapy now LOL. Wtf you never even thought it was rape until now and now that someone on the internet says its rape you need therapy all a sudden? "I had sex with my boyfriend and I wasnt horny. I need to go be on CNN tonight and tell my story"

        You people actually make victims of rape look like a joke now with your bullshit. I was raped as a kid and I read bullshit about "omg i had sex with my boyfriend" tyou werent raped you dont know what its like to be raped. You're full of shit. Go fuck yourself.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          4 years ago

          First off you fucking asshole. I’ve been thinking about it for years, been considering therapy for years. Fuck the attention you think I’m trying to gain. I wanted outside opinion it’s not just that, that I have dealt with. So you go fuck yourself you inconsiderate pig. Rot in hell dipshit, cause I’m still going to do what the fuck I wanted to do and if I decide to seek help that’s MY problem not yours. That comment wasn’t even for you. Your wife fondles you when you don’t want it? That’s fine.

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          • WeirdGuyFromTheSouth
            4 years ago

            Heres an idea. Dont have sex with someone if you dont want to. He didnt have a gun to your head. The truth is you chose to have sex with him PERIOD.

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              4 years ago

              Does he have to have a gun to my head for him to assault me? If that’s the case
              Let’s go back to all sexual assault case victims and ask them. Ugh I’m done arguing with you. The different levels of intelligence here has such a margin we will never come to an agreement.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          4 years ago

          It’s people like YOU that makes people not want to report when they are raped because they have to deal with fucking scum of the earth bastards like yourself!

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  • Karlw195
    4 years ago

    You was definately raped

    The guy was ablow life

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  • Stellarsilence
    4 years ago

    He obviously manipulated you and your innocence. Underage sex is illegal for a reason, yall can't fucking consent because you simply cannot understand sex.
    But don't blame yourself for being naive. Live and learn, let yourself heal.
    Lots of pieces of shit on this post, let them rot.

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    • WeirdGuyFromTheSouth
      4 years ago

      Your post is full of emotion and wrong facts. Underage sex is not illegal. The age of consent is 16 in most states. And even where its 18 theres still a 4 year law (called romeo and juliet law). So if im 19 I can have sex with a 15 year old. I could be wrong but I think states where the age of consent is 16 that means a 40 year old can have sex with a 16 year old. My mom got married to my dad when she was 16 and he was 25.

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  • adamsadamdadamitsme
    4 years ago

    look, this is straight up assault. if you did not want to, if you felt pressured, if you were uncomfortable, if you felt you had no choice, it is assault, and i highly suggest you attend therapy especially if you find this memory distressing.

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  • [Old Memory]
    4 years ago

    Sounds to me that you were emotionally manipulated. Because you basically consented to sex with him, I guess he didn't forcedly penetrate you, or held you down, or anything like that. There are toxic relationships where one party is to controlling or manipulative in order to get his way, and the other one suffers. Legally, I don't know. But I wouldn't see this as rape or assault, but now like emotional manipulation.

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  • Bratz
    4 years ago

    Its not rape if you choose to do it

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      4 years ago

      K

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  • eesixtwentyone
    4 years ago

    Consensual sex only. If a person says no, you don't push it. If you push it, you're an asshole who's probably only in a relationship for the sex..

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  • shuggy-chan
    4 years ago

    Its unfortunate that this happened to you, but whether or not it can “technically” qualify as an assaults isn’t as important in my eyes.

    What is is how you learned from this unfortunate event and how you can use it for good.

    Either being wiser and avoiding this for yourself and others.

    One of the more difficult, but useful abilities we can learn is how to twist negative experience we have for a force of positivity

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  • WeirdGuyFromTheSouth
    4 years ago

    The only reason you started wondering if it was assault is because of this metoo stuff. Everyone is a victim these days. You could have said no. Sometimes I dont feel like fucking either but the wife wants to so I do it.

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    • Stellarsilence
      4 years ago

      My partner would never try to feel up on me or pressure me if I did not want to.
      Don't invalidate someone else's trauma just because you're okay with being disrespected and used.

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      • WeirdGuyFromTheSouth
        4 years ago

        No im just not a little sensitive bitch. The world doesnt revolve around me. Im not gonna go play victim online because my wife was horny. Get a grip snowflake.

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    • Stellarsilence
      4 years ago

      Sounds like your wife is nasty and doesn't respect your boundries. It goes both ways and it is just as bad when a woman is doing it.
      Leave her or stand up for yourself, you're not meant to be a sexual doormat just because you're in a relationship with her.

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    • [Old Memory]
      4 years ago

      That’s a wide assumption. They never mentioned just now thinking about it but that it’s been something that’s a turn off every time op tries with someone else. And guessing op is over 18 that would have been a thing from at least 2-4 years ago at a fairly young age. There’s no reason to get all weird and say it’s because of a #metoo thing. So now if some assault happens it really didn’t happen in your eyes because of some movement happening?
      Because someone guilted another person into feeling they need to have sex to make them happy and don’t have a choice means it’s okay? You have no point in saying yes or no when you have no fucking choice. If saying no isn’t going to matter I think that’s really fucked up someone would do that.
      Nice to know your low enough to support rape.
      You seem like you always disagree with a lot I say so enlighten me, how is everyone a victim these days?

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      • WeirdGuyFromTheSouth
        4 years ago

        She didnt say no. She said yes. She could have said no. She had sex with him. He didnt force her. And you're saying I support rape lol you dont even know me. I was raped as a kid im talking real deal rape I said no he held me down.

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        • [Old Memory]
          4 years ago

          You don’t even know op or there situation either. You’re making weird assumptions about the situation assuming it was never a bad thing. You find nothing wrong with this whole thing certainly sounds like your supporting the piece of shit who did it. No matter what someone taking advantage of someone else is never okay.

          Btw can't even tell me how we’re all victims these days.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          4 years ago

          Sometimes he did hold me down. I don’t think I’m sensitive I just have a right to tell him I don’t feel like he said he wouldn’t take no for an answer.

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