Wanting someone only in my dreams but not in reality?

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Is it normal I like picturing myself being a couple with some guys I think are cute but when they actually ask me out I simply don't like the idea of dating in reality?

There is this guy I met. I thought he was really cute and I really thought we'd make a cute couple. I wasn't in love with him, I was just thinking about it, avaliating it as an option... like "Hmm... Maybe I could be into him. He is good looking, has a nice personality and is so friendly. Yeah, maybe I could. We'd be cute." But I did not make any move to let him know what I was thinking.

Then a friend told me she thought he was into her and I was simply like "oh well, =/" But I was ok with it. Today I found out he didn't like my friend, but he actually liked me. And when he told me he wanted to be more than friends I totally freaked out. I don't want to date him, at all.

And... what made me worry about it is because it happens very often. I have never had a boyfriend because I have simply rejected every guy that's ever asked. I feel like a man. I'm totally afraid of commitment lol. Yet, I am pretty girly. I picture myself some years from now, finishing college, having a family, a husband, kids... I turned 18 last week and I am just consorned. I want to be in a relationship someday, but not now. I wanna finish college, travel around the world... I'm going to medschool and I just wanna focus on becoming a doctor. And I'm pretty sure the day I meet the man of my life I will know and it'll feel right. So, I'm fine with all that. but a tiny part of me wonders if i'm doing the right thing. If I keep being like this I am afraid I'll miss my chance of being happy because I'm not ready to be in a relationship yet and I'm afraid when I finally feel ready it'll be too late for me. =/

Do you think feeling like this is normal?

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Based on 52 votes (38 yes)
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  • AbnormallyAwesome
    10 years ago

    Relax, take your time.

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  • ThousandPoundsOfGanja
    10 years ago

    There used to be this chick at school, we were friends and I thought she was kind of cute and I thought she liked me so one day I decided to ask her out when I got home, next day I went to school and I saw her and I still thought she was cute but I didn't want to date her and for like a month I kept repeating that cycle, I would dream about her like every other day but when I got around her again, I didn't wait to date her anymore.

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  • badcrush
    10 years ago

    I'm exactly like you! There were a few guys I fancied but when it actually came to dating them I freaked out and started noticing all their flaws! I'm 18 and I decided a couple of months ago that I liked this guy, but when he asked me out I turned him down, as I have with every other guy. But then I thought, you know what, this is ridiculous. It's just a boyfriend, it's not like I'm committing to marriage! So I changed my mind. Been going out for a month, so far so good :) Sometimes, you just have to give people a chance

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    Life is shite dreams rock but now that i have no dreams i have nothing to look forward to.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Wow, it actually seems like you have it together by putting your schooling ahead of being in a relationship. I wish I had did that at 18! I think you are right it will all work out so don't stress out about it.

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