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Dad 84, Mom 85, Me 60, plus 4 more. Is it normal at this age 60, to have thoughts of funeral and what it will be like.. especially mom & dad's.. the family right now is a problem. We use to be a close tight family, now 40 years later we've fell apart.. feuding, arguing ect.. not-talking. So is it normal for me to wonder about how it will be at dads funeral:(
Sadly, I can relate. My father is 83, my mother is 80, and I will be 50 years old tomorrow. All of this is more than kinda scary for me.
If I were you, I would completely ignore everyone. These funerals will be the last time you will ever see everyone anyway. Plus, age 60 is a good age for dating and a second adolescence with more money. Enjoy yourself, and don't waste any time.
Death is inevitable if you’re scared of death you can never fully enjoy life,the earlier you come to terms with it the very better.
Nothing wrong with thinking about and preparing yourself for what seems inevitable. Of course, it's possible that what happens at your parents' funerals won't matter a whit to you, because you just might kick the proverbial long before they they do. Most people go through life holding on to the irrational belief that they're immortal, but the truth is that any one of us can drop dead in the next five minutes.
How your estranged relatives react to their death is not your concern. You have no control over what they do, so there's no point worrying about it. If they decide to be dicks, that's on them. If they decide to do the usual, make nice and act like total hypocrites, that's on them too. Or - who knows? - maybe the first or second death of a parent just might make you all wonder what the hell you've been fussing about, and bring you closer again.
Whatever they decide to do, you should respect their right to do it and leave them to it. The only thing you should worry about is going through whatever process you need to move forward.